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We have an ad on SLS and while the profile itself generates once-a-blue-moon contacts, we find the event functions useful, though the forum can't hold a candle to the one here. Anyway, we've noticed a general scorn (some bordering on elitist) for unpaid members and/or those without Certs in the forums there equating them with not "real" people or fakes and noticed some choose to block their entire profile existence from them. We signed up free to test the waters there and will likely stay that way. Call us cheap but we do have other financial obligations and based upon the low response and high number of game players (all paid members by the way) so far we can't see how having that paid member badge will increase one and decrease the other especially when those people who might contact us who otherwise would not when we were free would likely not be worth our time for that same reason. Just curious if there are any other free members here who noticed the same thing or if you are a paid member choose not to contact or deal with free members.
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I'm curious as to what people's thoughts are on mixing races within the lifestyle. So I post a poll..... (you can select as many of the above responses as apply to you). Feel free to post your thoughts on racial diversity within swinging as well as any experiences you have had in this regard.
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How many of you ladies in a polyamousous relationship have had a child by the man in your relationship who wasn't your husband?
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I am thinking not about acceptance by the swinging community (which is none) but from the vanillas. It seems that for many, telling that you are in an open relationship is like confessing to "being a weirdo, married to another weirdo" or at least this is how it seems. Does anyone else have similar observations?
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Questions: If a white woman does not have sex with black men because they are black is that racism? If a white man wants to have sex with a black woman because she is black is that racism? Don't read anything into the questions...answer them at face value.
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We have a local club where blacks are very vocally NOT allowed. The owner is a true old school bigot. We went once and he went on and on about how there would never be any of "those" in his club. For us, that was enough - we never went back. However, the place draws a crowd, and we often get invited to go there. We always decline, and if pressed, we do politely explain why. Most people will say, "oh yeah, he is like that, but it is his place and it is his right to allow whoever he wants in". I don't get that. To me, if you patronize a place that is racist, you are supporting the concept. I don't get mad at people about it, but the thing is that most people look at us as if we are nuts because we wont go there. Not sure what the deal is here. We've been in the LS for a while now and thought it was all about open mindedness? Are we missing something? -
The one thing we enjoy about the lifestyle is the sexual freedom and variety it offers. To be with other couples from different backgrounds, and ages gives us a broad spectrum of the human race. We have been lucky enough to meet and become friends with just about every ethnic group and the rewards of knowing them intimately have given us a better understanding of ourselves. What's odd, in different parts of this country being with certain ethnic groups seems to be taboo. What's your take?
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I'd just like to toss this out there for thought... Noticed time and time again there are significant issues with single guys and how they are viewed by many couples. They are often treated rudely, bashed and otherwise counted out. Now thats not to say that single guys haven't earned that kind of treatment, because honestly a great deal of them don't understand the lifestyle, haven't been in it and think that being single is a great way to get into it, or they are just plain rude jerks. Hence, you see zillions of couples profiles various places like yahoo 360 or whatever that say no single guys, as do most of the moderated swingers groups. However, I saw a nice, well worded post from a single guy, who was hoping to meet a single woman that was already into the lifestyle. This was on some local swinger board that I quit after I read the responses... anyways, he was polite, and was just hoping to stir some interest with some of the single women that are part of that group. One couple posts "what an ass". That about sums up the typical responses from many couples. I find that response to be close minded, rude and uncalled for. The guy was polite, not inappropriate and a gentleman about it. I thought swingers were all about being OPEN MINDED, but not always so when it comes to the single guy. Furthermore, all of the couples out there that swing, have you always been a couple? Nope! At one point, you were both single. You may not have swung then, but you were also single. So what happens if tomorrow you split up with your significant other and now all of a sudden your the dreaded SINGLE GUY? So I just wanted to hear other peoples thoughts on this. Also about me. I have been to a couple swingers parties and one of them I went with someone i had just met that night. We didn't click really, but the party was fun, i was a perfect gentleman and the next day, during breakfast I was told by the owners that I could come back *ANY* time i wanted to as a single guy. All it takes is being a gentleman, not forcing yourself on anyone and just be relaxed and have fun. Oh and yea I'm single now, but I am in no big rush to go to a swingers party as a single guy, in fact, I probably wouldn't WANT to go as a single guy, cause the whole idea is actually the fun of you AND your partner experiencing more fun together but with more people involved. Thanks in advance for your opinions...
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I have been looking over many personal ad sites and most have bi or bicurious women...I am a straight female that really honestly is just not into women...I mean, I don't mind the idea of rubbing up against another female or touching if it makes the guys hot, but I am all about getting the cock...I almost feel like an outcast for not being bi, yet the guys aren't being encouraged to go that way..maybe I have just been looking in the wrong places...I don't know, and I hope I don't sound disrespectful...if you are bi and like it, I am happy for you! But do I have to go that way if I want some action?
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Here is my rant and it very well may get me kicked out of sls. I think sls discriminates a lot towards single men. I went to fill out a personal ad and they kick back to me that it is required for single men to become paying members within 30 days and that they only allow a few select men into the site. So I went and logged in as a single female, guess what? It did not pertain to them that they had to become a paid member within 30 days and that only a select few single females were allowed in. What is it? Men are not considered swingers if they are not married? I think it is because a lot of these groups that calls themselves swinger groups consider single men predators without even getting to know the man. Men are men if they are married, attached, single, or whatever you want to classify men by. Personalities are different in each and every person rather they are married or what, female or male. I would suggest a name change of the group to something like Couples Only Swing Group. Then there would not be an argument from me here!! Get real people; get to know the people before you discriminate against them!!! I do not go through life intentionally discriminating against others and in turn I do not like to be discriminated against!!! I have read numerous posts on this site already how people flake out on meetings, my answer to them that are complaining about this is no wonder they flake out if they support discrimination, you do not meet their standards!!
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In the Top 100 thread on certifications someone posted the following comment: How many others feel the same way about this? Obviously most will not get in touch with a couple that doesn't seem attractive to them, but are there many of you that are reluctant to approach a couple because you think they are "out of your league"? My wife and I are a bit younger than most and many find us quite attractive. While we do want to find our potential playmates attractive... this is of course a subjective thing, and for us, physical beauty is a plus but not even close to our top priority. We're actually quite open to playing with partners that are 10-15 years older and not of the same physical body type as us. For example we both find women on the curvy side far more appealing than gym rats. Being fit is fine, but too thin is actually a turn off. I'd hate for a couple to pass us over because they thought we were in a different "caste" than they are. What's your experience? Do you regularly contact couples that are outside of your own age/shape/looks bracket? Dante -- YoungMauiCouple at SLS -
"Beautiful People Only!" Swing Clubs/Groups
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Ok just answered a reply to an ad on sls. The lady asked if we full swap. I said we are into soft swap at the moment. She went on this diatribe on if we are into swinging we will have to do full swap sometime or the other. Well needless to say I told her good bye. Is this true? We have done full swap before but we rather do soft swap and playful things. We just like the soft stuff! Are we going to find others like us? -
Hi all, I'm sure a lot of you have heard about the case of the little girl who disappeared a few weeks ago in San Diego. I was reading people magazine today (well, have to keep up with the gossip ) and this is what they were writing about the parents. " Meanwhile the van Dams (parents)..... were coming in for some uncomfortable scrutiny of their own. In the days after Danielle's disappearance there had been whispers in Sabre Springs that the couple were "swingers" who had an open marriage. The issue came to a head when a local radio talk show host,Rick Roberts, devoted a four-hour program to the van Dams, whom he accused of "not being honest" about "what really occurred" on the night of the disappearance. Citing an unnamed law enforcement source, he said the couple had participated in "lots of wife swapping", implying that their lifestyle was at least partly to blame for the tragedy." Excuse me?? Are swingers criminals, or, what he seems to be implying, pedophiles? (My interpretation, might be a bit off here). Are we, as swingers, really getting judged so badly? Well, maybe the parents had something to do with the disappearance, it happened before, but to say it happened because they are swingers??? Ok, this is more like a vent here, just thought I share. Take care all, Corinne -
Let me begin by saying: I am a married male and my wife and I are new to the swing scene. An observation: There seems to be a lot of single male bashing in the swingers community. Are single women better than single guys or is it just a fact that so many men have fantasies about being with two women? Are women more inclined to fulfill their husbands fantasies? Why do so many of you think that you are doing the male a favor? Maybe he is doing your wife a favor. I firmly believe that this whole swing thing is driven by male fantasies, therefore I am perplexed by the anti single male rhetoric. I have also noticed one of Julie's comments about what can get a single male into a couple's door: Being well hung! Duh! I have had plenty of discussions with mature females that really enjoy sex and ninety percent of them admit - yes it would be nice to be with a well endowed male. Why is that? Here is a news flash: Most of us have an average penis! So, of course women are inclined to look for something different. How many well endowed men do some of you know that actually swing? Narrows the field doesn't it? It's like being a priced bull. But you want that priced bull to be married - hmm? Insecurity on your husband's part about losing his sweetheart to a single male. Better go with the married one - he is safer. I think most people that swing are hypocrites.
