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Since my fingers aren't what they used to be 20+ years ago, I had to get my wedding ring cut off to get it off. According to the jeweler, I need to wait at least 4 months before we size my finger, since doing it before then would be pointless until my finger recovers from being strangled over the last several years. I have never liked wearing rings, and if it wasn't my wedding band, I wouldn't have worn it. But, I never took it off. Interestingly, neither one of us have given much of a thought to I'm not wearing a wedding ring now. I'm not sure that always would have been the case, not just her, me too, it would have just felt "odd". I have no doubt maturity has something to do with that, but I wonder if swinging hasn't played a role too. Not at all that we are any less married now than back then, but maybe we have a bit different mindset now and don't feel as much of a need to wear something to just to proclaim our marital status to the world?
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All my life I've run across women who talked about or acted out on not wearing clothing above the waist, leaving their breasts free as it were. It was rare in my experience, but there were some. In the past few years I've run across a lot more who are making it a point to go around sans shirt or halter when they can get away with it. Often in a recreational setting, boating or hiking, away from the crowded sites. Yard work, painting the house, house work are another. I'm wondering if this is a actual trend, or something thats been happening all along & the ladies are just talking about it more? Any options, experiences, data, or anything else to share on this?
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I have always had an interest in the human definition, just who are we? What drives us? Who actually defines us? I know I was never asked....or given the questionnaire. As always it is those not living how others are or maintain power or try to be that desperately try to define all of us into a box. I’ve always been curious, always asking why because the bottles, jars and boxes we all get shoved into never hold true. My take away? Humans are: Curious Adventurous Emotional Highly social Desire acceptance Absolute need for contact, touch Emotional connection, attachment Happiness.... ....collectively we want to be happy. We want at the end of our efforts, happiness. So with that in mind why the imposed monogamy question? Maybe a better question is why the varying definitions to adapt to the wide variety of cultures, beliefs countries when in fact we were not made to be mono anything since the beginning of time without being taught, threatened and social outcasts for not taking part in the norm. Mate sharing, spouse sharing and combined expanded family arrangements have been around since before history. The last 2,000 years monogamy, authority of the one, singular, grew but always had the old ways nipping at its heals. In my readings I recently came across an interesting article, below: Why Monogamy Isn't The death of compulsory monogamy and viewing monogamy as only a social good Elisabeth A. Sheff Ph.D., CASA, CSE The Polyamorists Next Door https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201508/why-monogamy-isnt As most everyone in this group lives or wants to live a less than monogamous lifestyle you might find it an interesting read. -
I made this aside in another post. "Am I the only woman that actually likes the word "cunt" for both the genitalia and as slang for a woman? It sounds so strong." How do you feel about it?
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Society has made some progress in how it views people that identify as bisexual. If someone is in a hetero relationship, and say they are actively bisexual, then logic dictates that there is some sort of non-monogamous something happening there. What is strange to me though is when you read of a celeb or someone in that situation, while the coming out as bi may be accepted and even praised for it's courage and honesty, no one on the receiving end of that information seems to want make that next step to holding the same feelings about the swinging, poly, or whatever situation is involved that is making the bi possible. Is consensual non-monogamy still a bridge too far for society so when it comes to someone in a relationship saying they are bisexual, people just avoid making that next logical step in their mind? Anyone found themselves in a similar situation?
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I am thinking not about acceptance by the swinging community (which is none) but from the vanillas. It seems that for many, telling that you are in an open relationship is like confessing to "being a weirdo, married to another weirdo" or at least this is how it seems. Does anyone else have similar observations?
