Sorry to hear. Yes, counseling is the next step. Maybe he'll never be ready to swing. Maybe he'll learn to appreciate the different experiences swinging offers. Either way, a professional can bring the issues out and help you find a mutually acceptable way forward. Good luck!

5 hours ago, Juan234 said:

A minidress, i,e., a stretchy body dress cut short at the thighs. 

It is nice to come into the club with friends and to be able to hug, kiss and lift the dress and pat a known bare bottom.

14 hours ago, Rock n Tits said:

45 + years

MMM, almost ready to Rock and Roll, pants and sandals off and where do you like to start? I'm kind of an oral sort of guy😛😘

Thank you to those who commented on my post. As I mentioned before, I was raised in an ultra conservative family. Think: God and Country. I got married young. My husband was the only person I have had sex with until we attended swinger events. We both learned how to please each other by trial. So, our world is very tiny you could say. I took the advice I was given to heart. Over diner last night I brought up some key points about him not wanting to go to swinger clubs anymore. I wish I could say it was a success. But it went horribly wrong. I guess, horribly wrong is an understatement. He literally blew up. I asked him why he was so upset. And why he didn’t tell me his feelings. Here’s the thing, he said. He’s scared I wanted the other guy more than him. He even hinted that I might move in with a complete stranger. His anger and accusations made me so mad. I told him “I would never do that.” Then he said, “but you’ll open your legs to the first guy you meet.” That totally hurt me. I said, “you did too” he said “yeah, because you do it.”  So he was insecure about the whole thing. He said he didn’t like what I was becoming. He lost respect for me. Of course I started crying. I felt like I was living in my parents house again. He did a play by play of how I orgasmed with another man. He said I came too fast. Which is true. I think maybe a few seconds, I’m not sure. Which to him means I like the other guy more than him. I like his dick he told me. He then cornered me and asked if I would sleep with that guy again. I would. But I didn’t answer the question, I just kept staring at him. Then he said, “your lack of response is all I needed to know.”  I said “that’s not fair, what about you. You came too.” He gave the other woman an oral orgasm and then came into her. I had a different experience. I was happy for him. He seemed into it. He seemed into everything we were doing. He came plenty. My thinking was, we both are having so much fun together. It was hot. He said I screamed “oh fuck,” several times before orgasming. I don’t even remember that. I mean, I guess I did. He said my orgasms never sound that way with him. He said I’m usually quiet. He then wanted details about the man’s penis. I smirked. Honestly, I was almost about to laugh. Which really infuriated him. If looks could kill kind of thing. I was blindfolded, so I can’t tell every detail. I mean I could feel that it wasn’t my husband penis inside me. That I knew for sure. The other man had more girth and sometimes it felt like he was hitting my cervix. It was uncomfortable at times, until I moved my body to get more comfortable. I wasn’t used to that length. But other than that. That’s how it felt. I couldn’t feel every vein and the head. That’s what my husband thinks. He thinks I could feel every detail of the man’s penis.  The other man just hit different points inside me. I did cum fast because it was exciting and bad girl stuff. My mom always said good girls do this and good girls do that. You have to wear good girl undies. It’s really fucked up. He really hurt me by treating like I was a slut. It’s something my mom made me feel like. It’s so heated right now, I’m not sure what to do. To be fair, it was his idea in the first place. Now he’s treating me like a slut. He took mental note of everything I did. He even accused me of acting like a whore. When we go to these events I get naked in the play areas. At first I was so embarrassed to be naked in front of people. But now I’m not. He says all these guys check me out and I seem to enjoy it. I guess that part is true. My husband doesn’t realize most woman scrutinize their bodies no matter how pretty they are. It was exciting to get a that lot attention. My thought is: what’s the point of having clothes when you’re just going to take them off. Now, we’re not talking to each other. I think we need counseling to unpack all this. What my husband doesn’t realize is he ruined this for the both of us. I won’t do this kind of thing anymore. Even if he wants to. I don’t care. Because all I’ll be thinking is how to control my orgasms or try to be quite or whatever my husbands thinks I should do to make him feel comfortable. And what’s worse is now I’ll be monitoring our sex life, which I never did before all because of his insecurities. I’m completely blindsided by all of this. I saw my husband in a different light last night. And now I’ve lost respect for him. I can’t say anymore, 

Nicky. 

On 9/9/2024 at 10:23 PM, J&Wu said:

We found it best to look nice but to wear something easy to get of and hang up or stow.

A minidress, i,e., a stretchy body dress cut short at the thighs.