1 hour ago, couplers said:

It may not have been a lack of confidence, rather social and religious indoctrination about her body.

That's very true. She had experiences when she was younger where she was teased about certain aspects of her body, and even after we were married she was very shy and embarrassed about it - which ironically led to exhibitionism, which then led to swinging. Crazy journey when I think about it.

On 9/5/2024 at 7:00 PM, Starting late said:

In our younger days, I was always so surprised at her lack of confidence. She really has a body to die for, and it was a real baffler why she didn't simply ooze confidence. 

 

She's got it now though!

It may not have been a lack of confidence, rather social and religious indoctrination about her body.

On 9/5/2024 at 12:49 PM, MarniJohn said:

said I was not interested but he was free to play

That was loving, kind, and generous.  Did it also feel liberating for you?  

On 9/5/2024 at 9:00 PM, Starting late said:

In our younger days, I was always so surprised at her lack of confidence. She really has a body to die for, and it was a real baffler why she didn't simply ooze confidence. 

 

She's got it now though!

it might be time to post a few pix!

On 9/6/2024 at 7:03 AM, PeterJ said:

the absolute hottest sex I’ve ever experienced was to impregnate my (three, but sequentially 😉) wives.

Two other thoughts:

When Clair got pregnant by David despite being on birth control, she was upset and offered to have an abortion to keep us "as is" in our relationship. It took me about two seconds of thinking about it to decide that there was no reason not to start having children. We took the rest of the day off from work, she took three or four pregnancy tests, we cried together and I immediately decided that I would try to get pregnant as soon as possible so we could have our children as close together as possible.  That part of it wasn't hot sex, but it was emotionally charged whenever one of us women was or was trying to get pregnant. 

Second, while trying to get pregnant is exciting on different levels, trying to make sure it is with the other guy instead of the one who did it the first time is a bit frustrating in a poly situation.  Only p-in-v with one and nothing to waste the sperm with the other to save it for the other woman/women.  (We had our children together in three tranches.)