With us, I usually coordinate the first couple meets and do all the messaging, although it does flow both ways.  After one or two successful meets my wife gets involved and, in most instances, takes over correspondence and scheduling.  So sometimes I come home from work and she'll tell me we're seeing so-and-so this werk.  Sometimes I come home from work and so-and-so is already there.

Guess it is just me then   

The Ranch is great. We really like their vibe. Upscale and classy and super sexy. We always have fun when we go. This couple did a great Scarlet Ranch review of our local club. There's also Mon Chalet which is a cheaper version, not classy, but sleazy and sexy. They also did a Mon Chalet review. We haven't been there yet but it sounds like a sleazy sexy hotel you gotta try once!

I've heard of Scarlet Ranch... anyone been? What's it like? Anywhere else?

On 1/20/2025 at 12:52 AM, hunterdonNJcpl said:

Yes I think most guys would be excited by the idea of getting into the LS with you.  But there are also guys who might get a little freaked out.

This relationship is still new, primarily we are “dating” without much contact with my friends, many know my past. Once he gets to socialize with my friends he might catch on to how well we know each other. You say most guys would be excited to join in the LS, I don’t want our relationship, wherever it leads to be based on this, I want to make sure the attraction is us not the other things 

22 hours ago, kellimc said:

Hi Lioness.  It's nice to see you posting again.

 

I won't pretend to know the exact nature of your relationship, so I really can't tell you when the right time to tell him is.  I do think sooner, rather than later is better though.  He is likely to find out anyway.  It's always a little uncomfortable the hear the question, "So, when were you planning to tell me?"  Make sure you tell him before he asks that question. 

Thank you Kelli

Our relationship is still new, more than just friends. He met my roommate, I don’t think he has any idea we are “close” roommates. I tend to agree sooner is better because my life will give question to someone close to me. 

On 1/20/2025 at 9:27 PM, bbarnsworth said:

PSULioness, I'm very, very happy to hear that you're smiling again!

 

What you tell him is the truth as best you know it. It's hard to know when the right moment is to discuss such things. The problem is most people wait a lot longer than they should have. Not discussing these things will make it worse with time, not better. Earlier is better.

 

If you've been dating for a couple of months or more, I think the time is now. Make it clear what your wants and desires are, and see if the two of you can get to a common page on this. If not, keep working on it together.

Thank you. Smiling through wounds that will take more time if ever to heal. I am trying to be more cautious in my choices.