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I am sure this sounds funny, so let me explain. We are fairly new the swing thing, with our first exposure in 2002. It was then I noticed that swinging appears to be all about the women. The bi-girl thing seems to be what connects most couples initially, then if the guys are lucky, they can join in. Well, that seems to work just fine, unless your lady is not bi at all. My lady has no interest in other women, and does not like to flirt with other women. She has been flirted with, and each time she went along with it, to please me, we hit it off with the other couple, soft swing only, and only twice. However, she has decided the girl-girl thing is not her bag. So, on a recent trip to a swingers resort, we were kind of left sitting on the sidelines, while the obvious girl-girl initiated hookups ran wild around us. It seems girls can sense that my wife is not interested and basically avoided us. My attempts to make friends with the other guys, were always cut short by the girls cutting in and taking over the moment. So, back to the question, can a non bi sexual female based couple get into the swing of things, or is it a lost cause.
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This is a stronger question then my last and it has been bothering me for some time. We are 100% straight couple and we've received quite a bit of grief because of it. Recently, we decided we wanted to experiment with couples. We've had numerous chances in the past to act on this but weren't ready to take that route. Anyways, as our search started and progressed, we found it is almost a bad thing to be a straight couple. Mainly with the female halves of other couples. We receive numerous messages and IM's stating they would love to get together with us and the question that always comes up is our sexuality. We are immediately shut down when it is voiced that we're straight OR I'm insulted to the point where I want to retaliate with the meanest come backs possible. I haven't but its tough when it's being dished out for absolutely no reason. I guess I don't know what to do. We look for straight couples but their few and far between. It says right in our profile in BOLD letters that we are both straight and not looking to experiment with bi sexuality right now. You could say I'm high school bi, I'll kiss a girl and might fondle but I'm not into leading people on, nor do I want it to seem the chance of it going any further is there, so it's not included in our profile. Another thing we get is the couples who are OK with us being straight, slowly bring into the conversation that they would like me to have an open mind and consider trying the woman of the couple out. Makes me nervous to play with any couples with the words bi or bi-curious in them. It's not what I want nor what I am looking for right now. Has anyone else ever had this problem? We've already stated what we are and what we're looking for. We've told interested parties what's in our profiles and then get grief for it. It's very confusing and frustrating. When voiced on our local swinger board we were told I needed to convert to get anywhere in the swinging world. We'd be one lonely couple if I didn't at least go bi curious. :confused: We want to have fun with other couples, but not if it means I have to change what I like or try to like something I'm not interested in. In time, my views may change but right now they are what they are. Does anyone else out there have these issues?
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Hello, male half here. I need some advice and guidance on a common issue in the lifestyle. First a little background, we have been active in the lifestyle for a year or so. I am fit and healthy (I workout, no beer gut) try to dress nice, am perfectly groomed and clean. I am of pleasant disposition and can carry on an intelligent conversation on a wide variety of topics and I am not obsessed with sex and can talk to women about anything and am always respectful and courteous. Here's the problem, my wife is downright beautiful and I am not. I am not deformed or disfigured but I am no Brad Pitt by any stretch of the imagination, I am just a face in the crowd. It seems like it is pretty universal in the lifestyle that the female halves of couples are significantly more attractive than their male partners. My wife is straight and has no interest in F/F play so we are not one of those couples where the women play and the men just sit on the sidelines. Wherever we go she could have any male in the room but of course is only interested in those that she finds very attractive. That is fine in and of itself but those guys have partners that stop traffic and are way out of my league. Of the women that do give me the time of day and are in my league their partners don't do anything for my wife. What my question is is how do I as an average Joe Sixpack compensate for lack of physical assets to make myself a more prospective match for women that are used to getting whatever guy they want? Please don't tell me this is an insecurity issue on my part. I am not insecure, this is an very real issue not only for me but for many people in the LS. I guess the bottom line question is what do women want from a male half of a couple when genetic re-engineering or cosmetic surgery is not an option? Any suggestions, hints or ideas will be much appreciated. -
I have been looking over many personal ad sites and most have bi or bicurious women...I am a straight female that really honestly is just not into women...I mean, I don't mind the idea of rubbing up against another female or touching if it makes the guys hot, but I am all about getting the cock...I almost feel like an outcast for not being bi, yet the guys aren't being encouraged to go that way..maybe I have just been looking in the wrong places...I don't know, and I hope I don't sound disrespectful...if you are bi and like it, I am happy for you! But do I have to go that way if I want some action?
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I was in the lifestyle between 79-81 and left. Have been in the lifestyle again for a year. It seems to me the most of the couples in the lifestyle now are in it for the woman to have fun with other women without the men being involved. My memories of the lifestyle are of couples getting together and having a foursome of sex with little or no intimacy between the same sexes. Is this trend of girl on girl a regional thing? Or is the trend of the lifestyle in general? When we go out to the clubs it seems this is all we run into. The personal ad sites are not much better. Where are the straight couples? I feel like Rip Van Winkle.
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... We know of a couple who recently married and claim they are in the lifestyle as a straight couple. However this couple have placed ads and attempted to meet with bisexual males while trying to hide the fact but most people have seen their pictures have realized that it is indeed the same so called straight couple in the bisexual male ad and want to know why they are hiding an important fact like male bisexuality. It is not a crime to be bisexual ....so why hide the fact , the lifestyle is about honesty and trust. Lying and saying your straight when in fact your not is wrong in Swinging. Especially males considering most males are straight in the lifestyle with a small percentage being curious or bisexual. Most couples have a real problem with bi males mainly because most males of lifestyle couples are straight. What this couple just does not understand is people talk and word gets around that they are not totally honest which makes others feel well what else could they be hiding or lying about? How do you all feel about this situation ....if a man is bisexual and his woman straight should they lie in an ad or profile? for fear of not being accepted ....or when meeting other swingers say they are totally straight ? because they are nervous that the couple will run for the nearest door if they disclose that he is bi. Is that acceptable or should they be honest and say he is bisexual ,she is straight and be proud of who they are...not hiding or lying about important facts like that in the lifestyle. Who cares if people can not handle what your sexuality is just move on ...but in the long run it beats lying and pretending to be something your not. Dishonesty is not swinging , it's like kinda like cheating really isn't it ...
