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I am sure this sounds funny, so let me explain. We are fairly new the swing thing, with our first exposure in 2002. It was then I noticed that swinging appears to be all about the women. The bi-girl thing seems to be what connects most couples initially, then if the guys are lucky, they can join in. Well, that seems to work just fine, unless your lady is not bi at all. My lady has no interest in other women, and does not like to flirt with other women. She has been flirted with, and each time she went along with it, to please me, we hit it off with the other couple, soft swing only, and only twice. However, she has decided the girl-girl thing is not her bag. So, on a recent trip to a swingers resort, we were kind of left sitting on the sidelines, while the obvious girl-girl initiated hookups ran wild around us. It seems girls can sense that my wife is not interested and basically avoided us. My attempts to make friends with the other guys, were always cut short by the girls cutting in and taking over the moment. So, back to the question, can a non bi sexual female based couple get into the swing of things, or is it a lost cause.
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Ok, so we were talking last night. It seems that I'm (the mrs) in the minority when it comes to female female play. While I like a little girl teasing, dancing etc, I just don't find bisexual play all that great as I prefer men. Our profile implies we think its a good icebreaker and it is, but to me it's not the end all be all for us. My hubby says there are more couples who have a female half who feels the way I do so we posted this poll and thread to see how others feel.
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Why aren't all these Bi girls really bisexual?
NYFlirts replied to lotsoffun201's topic in Bisexual Swingers
We've met scores and scores of women that their profiles (and in person) state that they are bi-sexual. My wife is super beautiful and sexy and girls tell her all the time how much they like her. What's odd is that all these girls sure don't seem bi. I mean, I see how much the guys fawn over my wife and at any hint of an invitation will flirt, paw all over her, and do all they can to be with her. Conversely, when my wife is flirty with "bi" girls they seem friendly and flirty back... but their interest level is FAR FAR from the interest she gets from guys. So, what do you think is going on? I'm wondering if it's possible girls really just aren't into my wife (which would honestly be incredibly shocking) or is it that from my perspective as a guy, I'm biased in how a person shows interest in another person? Specifically, guys are more inclined to really show outward signs of interest by being assertive more so than girls usually are. It's just really odd that these girls talk about how excited they are to be with other girls, but when they have a super hot girl on their lap they act more like it's a fun friend hanging out vs. getting totally turned on and fixated on my wife... which is how all the guys act. -
I am in a situation where there are two straight girls who like me and I know that they don't like girls but I want to have a threesome with them. But I know the only kind of threesome that would be possible would be a FMF threesome where the females don't interact. I have had FFM threesomes where the females interact, but never this scenario. How would you set about something like this because I do know that there are threesomes in which the females don't interact.
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All I need to do is talk about her doing anything with a woman, and I kill the mood. I have been married 7 years and never bring it up. She put it to me this way "How would you like me to start talking about you sucking a cock or something, would you like that?". Looking at it from that point of view and putting myself in her shoes I get it. She says she isn't, and I've never seen her even a little curious. Lesbian porn is a turn-off for her; once again, if she put on gay porn, how would I feel? I'm totally in love with her and don't want to turn her off. Keep in mind I don't want her to do anything she doesn't want. If it ain't broke don't fix it. Is anyone else in a marriage with a 100% straight girl?
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My wife and I have single female friend who is 100% straight. Since she does not have the intention to be in a serious relationship my wife suggested to her that she should visit a swingers club. She is around 40 and she does not want to be dating anybody because she considers that one night stands are safer is a swinger environment. But I consider that a swingers club is not the right place for a single straight woman. She will be looking for trouble if her only intention is to play with a married male. She enjoys being watched having sex, but, I think since she is not Bi, there are not many couples interested in a SSF. Am I wrong?
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Any advice for couples with a straight female?
arvcpl posted a topic in Finding People to Swing With
I am hoping for some advice and specifically some insight from the ladies in regards to connecting to other women in a lifestyle setting. My wife is ok with some physical contact with select women but she is not actually bisexual and really does not have an easy time connecting to other women even if it is nonsexual. She just doesn't have an interest in very many women's issues and she doesn't spend much time focusing on connecting with the other women. She has been told to her face by a number of women that in order to be comfortable enough to play they need to have a level of connection and comfort with the other woman even if they and the other women don't have sex with each other. We have also been told by others that she intimidates other women because she is usually one of if not the most attractive women at the club or party and she comes off as ignoring the other women and at times inadvertantly comes off as snobbish. Then since she isn't chit-chatting with the women it makes a lot of the men turn their attention to her while the girls are chatting and that makes the other women that much more anxious with her around. We both really are nice people and she is a kind and decent person but she just doesn't have that female bonding gene that so many other women in the lifestyle seem to have. My question is does anyone have any advice or suggestions for couples where the female is straight and just has a hard time connecting with other women in the lifestyle? My questions for the ladies is what makes you connect with another woman enough to play even though you may not have direct sexual contact with her? Is there anything she can do short of 'eating at the Y' that will make other women more comfortable around her and feel less threatened by her? Is there anything that I can do that will help facilitate this? When push comes to shove I think women are far more territorial and protective than men are and if the women feel the least bit threatened or aren't completely at peace with a situation it is game over. -
Hello, male half here. I need some advice and guidance on a common issue in the lifestyle. First a little background, we have been active in the lifestyle for a year or so. I am fit and healthy (I workout, no beer gut) try to dress nice, am perfectly groomed and clean. I am of pleasant disposition and can carry on an intelligent conversation on a wide variety of topics and I am not obsessed with sex and can talk to women about anything and am always respectful and courteous. Here's the problem, my wife is downright beautiful and I am not. I am not deformed or disfigured but I am no Brad Pitt by any stretch of the imagination, I am just a face in the crowd. It seems like it is pretty universal in the lifestyle that the female halves of couples are significantly more attractive than their male partners. My wife is straight and has no interest in F/F play so we are not one of those couples where the women play and the men just sit on the sidelines. Wherever we go she could have any male in the room but of course is only interested in those that she finds very attractive. That is fine in and of itself but those guys have partners that stop traffic and are way out of my league. Of the women that do give me the time of day and are in my league their partners don't do anything for my wife. What my question is is how do I as an average Joe Sixpack compensate for lack of physical assets to make myself a more prospective match for women that are used to getting whatever guy they want? Please don't tell me this is an insecurity issue on my part. I am not insecure, this is an very real issue not only for me but for many people in the LS. I guess the bottom line question is what do women want from a male half of a couple when genetic re-engineering or cosmetic surgery is not an option? Any suggestions, hints or ideas will be much appreciated.
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Yep, intimidating. Not to ME, mind you, but to a lot of straight girls. Contrary to popular belief amongst males, not all girls are bi or bi-curious. Sorry guys. A lot of straight women I know are afraid of swing clubs because of the high interest in FF action. They worry because they think it'll be expected of them. I've never seen a girl get pressured into a girl on girl session at a club, but I do know girls that kinda said they were bi because of peer pressure. If a girl is totally straight, that's fine with me. I hope that no woman is afraid of admitting she is not into other women for fear of being looked down upon. Be honest and truthful, for here is a man who would have sex with you ANYWAY! jk. But seriously, you know what I mean. I hate to think that some women have to lie and feel intimidated because of the bi thing and should see that there are just as many women who are straight and happy that way. That's all I have to say about that.
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Originally Posted by Pepper & Drew Quote: I'd never really pondered this a lot until talking with one of my friends. She was talking about a couple they'd just met and I asked if the women of the couple was bi. She said, "how many couples do you know where the women's not bi?". Hell, actually, I don't know any. I think it is a rarity to have a straight women in a swinging couple. Seems to me that it would make for an odd dynamic if the woman was straight. Often, when you meet a new couple, it's the ladies that get together first---at least in our experience. So, if you take that out of the equation, it seems like it would be more difficult to start the play. End Quote I have often wondered that myself. What do you do with a str8 woman in a foursome? I would really consider myself str8, as opposed to a lesbian, and playfully adaptive as opposed to str8. So what would I do if Mr. Indy and husband X were playing with str8 wife x? Let's say she is sucking my husband and hers is screwing her.... so I file my fingernails and wait? I would really like to be enlightened on this topic if there are str8 women out there that could help? The only str8 woman I have seen was at a club (swinging that is), and she was in a gang bang. I wouldn't suppose that is is all str8 women want, is it? I mean sans swap, or girl-girl (obviously). Would a str8 woman be offended if a women touched her during play?
