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Hi Julie and Everyone Else! We're a married couple that has been in the lifestyle maybe going on 3 years now. I have something that has always bothered me regarding my wife and I when we go to swingers parties. My dilemma is that my wife is pretty much an average weight and size but as for myself, I'm like 5'10" 250lbs more on the heavy boned type of a guy. I've always been between 235-250lbs most of my life after 25 yrs old. And I have noticed that every time we go to a swingers party, people be asking my wife to play, but not myself?? And when my wife says we come as a "package deal", they say "see ya" under their breath. So we stand in the corner all night by our selves. Other people friends have told me not to worry about it, that you'll find the right people that will accept you for the way you are. But being a little heavy still haunts me. So, I was wondering if anybody else out there in swingers land has the same hang up that I do????? Any responses would be most appreciated!! -
We've been married for 10 years and are brand new to this lifestyle. After much discussion, my husband and I placed a profile on a swinger's site and found many couples, but narrowed it down to one we really, really clicked with. The husband of the couple and I chatted for many, many hours a day and then brought our spouses into a group chat. We chatted online for a few weeks (all parties individually and as a group) and then decided to meet in person. After a really amazing day and evening with them, we met them again 2 days later and then again 2 days after that. Our days were full of fun, laughter, dinner, and some really hot soft swapping. Unfortunately, something happened along the way, pretty early on, and I fell hard for the husband of the other couple and he fell for me as well. I was completely honest with my husband and immediately told him about my feelings for this person. He was accepting of it and doesn't feel threatened or insecure in any way about it. My husband also told me at that point that he has strong feelings for the wife of the couple, which was also fine with me. The problem is this.....the wife of the other couple has feelings for my husband, but just at a friendship level at this point. When she found out that her husband and I are into this way deeper than the other two, she panicked and now needs time to sort things out. In my head, the fact that he and I developed deep feelings for each other doesn't change anything. I would never leave my husband for anyone and he has said the same. They're just that....feelings. So, my question is...what are we to do? This is so scary to leave this in the hands of one person. I really thought we were all on the same page and moving along very well together, but now we've hit this roadblock. I can only hope it's a temporary one and that the wife will come to realize that I really want nothing from her husband and there's no way I'd ever leave mine. I'm completely happy where I am. I'm of the mindset that people can love more than one person at a time, but I realize that not everyone is like me. Do we just wait for her to make a decision or do we just call it quits? It would be very, very difficult for me to do so, but I don't want anyone to get hurt in this situation. -
I contacted a couple a couple of weeks ago based on their location, profile, and a picture of the wife. I thought Mr. Sunbuckus would find her attractive and at the time, I really liked how they had worded their profile. We've exchanged emails and all of our correspondence has been friendly and nice. However, it wasn't until last night that we finally got a picture of the husband...and I'm not attracted. I wouldn't mind being friends with them (which is what they are looking for) but I don't know if it would go farther than that. I asked Mr. Sunbuckus about his attraction to the wife and he said, "I could have sex with her." They would like to meet us next weekend but with the lack of attraction, would it be worth our time? Another concern is that since we were the first to contact them, I am not sure if they are attracted to us. The wife claims that the husband doesn't care about looks at all...which kind of makes me wonder if it's really true or if she's just saying that because he saw our pictures and doesn't find me attractive. *throws up hands* In either case, it doesn't really fuel the fire if the male counterpart doesn't find me desirous. What is the deal? And what should we do?
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This is something that Pet and I discussed when we were at Splash and something I've thought about posting about then I read Socolais response in another thread: There was more to the post but this is the part that caught my attention and fits in with this thread. When Pet and I were at Splash we discussed and agreed that in a group room play situation if one of us finds someone we want to be with it doesn't have to be a couple/couple match so long as both of us are playing and no one is being left out. As it turned out due to other issues we never got the opportunity to try this out. But since discussing it with him I had wanted to bring up the topic here and see if others went to house parties and/or played in group rooms with the same attitude? When you go to house parties do you still expect to find a COUPLE that you both mesh with or just hope to find 2 people that you both mesh with regardless of whether they are in the same couple (or a couple at all)? -
Since we've been involved in this lifestyle we've noticed that it seems there are 2 unicorns. It is possible that this 2nd unicorn is only scarce geographically... The widely known single female AND the attractive couple. Seems attractive husbands are hard to come by, I think I would be safe to say that in the 10 years or so we've been going to events and meeting people I have only met 10 attractive husbands. This is a high estimate, I can't actually remember 10 that I can count can only remember 4 off the top of my head but hands down I can recall at the very least 30 very beautiful women. Women that would be beautiful or hot in any lifestyle. The men on the other hand are looked at on a sliding scale based on what else is available in comparison. These aren't men that I would even notice outside of this lifestyle. Wonder if anyone else has noticed this....? Or possibly if this just might only be the case where we live? I've always noticed this and hubby and I have had many talks about it, but this past weekend we went to a party and met a couple that jokingly referred to us as the OTHER unicorn and when we asked them what they meant, they said a couple where BOTH the hubby and wife are hot. Which led me here to bring it up to all of you. We're taking it one step further and saying that it is not just a hot couple that's hard to find, but that hubbies in general in our experience are normally downright ugly, at this point am grateful for average with a good personality and a decent body. Hubby wondered once if we had ever met a hot hubby with an ugly wife and the answer is NO! I think men are more visual and wind up with the best that they can get where as women connect on other levels and can look past appearance but let's be frank here, in this lifestyle I don't love these men (like their wives), so attraction is a must and your hot wife is not your ticket to ride all the rides It is good for me that chemistry isn't solely based on appearance because I have NEVER been with a man that I was immediately physically attracted to besides my husband and I don't see any light at the end of the tunnel
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Hi! A question for all the guru's . We have done the SLS ad, went to a lifestyle club and been to a few socials. It seems as though we can not find the right couple. Either I am attracted to the female or Jenn is attracted to the male half..but never mutual attraction as of yet. Is this common for newbies or is this a typical scenario? Just wondering if anyone else has gone through this. We have talked about this and both know we are not going to take one for the team. The searching is fun though. Any input or advice will be greatly appreciated. -
Originally Posted by Pepper & Drew Quote: I'd never really pondered this a lot until talking with one of my friends. She was talking about a couple they'd just met and I asked if the women of the couple was bi. She said, "how many couples do you know where the women's not bi?". Hell, actually, I don't know any. I think it is a rarity to have a straight women in a swinging couple. Seems to me that it would make for an odd dynamic if the woman was straight. Often, when you meet a new couple, it's the ladies that get together first---at least in our experience. So, if you take that out of the equation, it seems like it would be more difficult to start the play. End Quote I have often wondered that myself. What do you do with a str8 woman in a foursome? I would really consider myself str8, as opposed to a lesbian, and playfully adaptive as opposed to str8. So what would I do if Mr. Indy and husband X were playing with str8 wife x? Let's say she is sucking my husband and hers is screwing her.... so I file my fingernails and wait? I would really like to be enlightened on this topic if there are str8 women out there that could help? The only str8 woman I have seen was at a club (swinging that is), and she was in a gang bang. I wouldn't suppose that is is all str8 women want, is it? I mean sans swap, or girl-girl (obviously). Would a str8 woman be offended if a women touched her during play?
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Does anyone ever get frustrated? I know similar topics have come up about this and maybe I am just posting to rant..lol. But we are feeling extremely frustrated in finding people. I have been actively bi for a little over 2 years and hubby and I have decided to try swinging (a few attempts, noted in another post). Now our biggest problem (and maybe it's something to do with us being new to swinging) is that we are looking for a couple that we can "play" with on a on-going basis, exclusively. But it just seems everyone we have met so far is more into one-night stands. My questions are: 1) Is "this couple" as rare as single bi-females looking for couples. 2) Does everyone start out looking for this? 3) Could it be us? Thanks in advance for any comments or suggestions.
