Show up a little early next time.  Folks generally mingle a little early in the evening and sometimes you can make connections before things begin to heat up later.  Just don't be shy!

Otherwise, as @njbm says, it's perfectly fine to cozy up next to a couple in an open playroom and politely ask to join.  I promise you won't offend any one.

At a club, spot a couple that you like in the playroom. Play with your spouse next to them. Ask them if they want to play. 

My husband and I have been in the lifestyle somewhat for awhile but we have been more reserved as we don’t know how to find others. We enjoyed our time at a club last night, being naked, playing with each other, so amazing. However, I was reserved because I haven’t been with a woman in awhile, and I want to be fondled,

played with by men and women alike but I wasn’t sure if I could just go up to someone and ask them if o can touch them or if when I was being pleased by my husband if I could just join in with someone else. 
 

Any advice welcome- looking to meet more like me!!

1 hour ago, couplers said:

It may not have been a lack of confidence, rather social and religious indoctrination about her body.

That's very true. She had experiences when she was younger where she was teased about certain aspects of her body, and even after we were married she was very shy and embarrassed about it - which ironically led to exhibitionism, which then led to swinging. Crazy journey when I think about it.

On 9/5/2024 at 7:00 PM, Starting late said:

In our younger days, I was always so surprised at her lack of confidence. She really has a body to die for, and it was a real baffler why she didn't simply ooze confidence. 

 

She's got it now though!

It may not have been a lack of confidence, rather social and religious indoctrination about her body.