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On the Board here, people discuss their more elaborate sexual practices and memorable experiences. But earlier today because of the press of other weekend responsibilities, Red and I had a quick one. Afterward in the car feeling somewhat satisfied and somewhat unsatisfied, it got me to thinking: I wonder how the other Swing Boarders feel about the subject. Please vote and comment.
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Just finished watching a YouTube video about the O and P shot, I had never heard of this. This is for middle aged men and women where a doctor uses a vial of your own blood,spins it and takes the platelets to inject back into the clitoris or the penis to improve blood flow. The doctor who did the video said she gets this treatment about every 9 months. She recommends this for people having problems with ED problems or orgasm difficulties. So, have you heard of this or have you had this treatment?
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Ok, this came up in another topic, so I thought I'd post a poll here and ask. If your partner asked you to do something because it would turn them on to see it, would you do it just for them? Even if it was something that you had no interest in or that perhaps even repulsed you? For instance, if you are straight would you engage in bisexual activities to please your partner (because they wanted to see it)? This can apply to anything not just bisexual activities, the one example John used was having his wife get gangbanged by a group of midgets so that he could watch. Vote in the poll then tell us how far you would be willing to go JUST to please your partner. -
Question for you guys and out there (ladies feel free to chime in too!). My wife and I recently experienced our 6th MFM experience. All have been extremely hot and satisfying not only for us, but for the single too. I have noticed that 3 of the 4 single males that we have played with had some incredible stamina (or I guess what I consider incredible), meaning they were able to fuck for at least one hour without their first orgasm . Is this normal for most guys? I can honestly say that the longest I have been able to hold out with my beautiful wife has been between 20-25 minutes . Is there a measurement out there that defines what is normal, abnormal, and what is premature? Don't get me wrong, I loved the fact that these guys could go for so long with my wife. They made her cum three or four times before they each had their first orgasm. The first couple of times I felt kind of jealous in the fact that these guys could satisfy my wife so many times, but I am completely over that (hell, it has made our lovemaking a lot more exciting and to watch her in the throes of passion gets me going anyway). I just want to know how is it possible for these guys to last this long?? Thanks!
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My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for several years now, though we do a lot of separate swinging. There haven't really been many issues, and we're very much in love and committed to each other. Today, however, I ran into a new situation that I'm having some problems with, and would appreciate any help or advice anyone has. My wife was just with this guy who has a massive dick, like seriously huge. The first time they were together it actually hurt her really bad. The second time though she had an incredible experience and came three times. Now, I'm average in size...about 6.5" long and on the lower end of average in girth. This is the first time she's been with anyone this large, and she described how the sensation of him hitting her deep inside, though initially painful, just sent her over the top with pleasure. Now, one part of me is of course incredibly turned on by this. And part of me is happy for her, I mean, shouldn't that be the idea? And I do trust the situation in all other aspects. However, part of me is extremely insecure and jealous. Realistically, I can't possibly give her that sort of stimulation with what I'm packing. She's never even been multi-orgasmic before today, so...I'm feeling pretty inadequate. My fear is that she's going to enjoy sex with him so much more that our sex life is now going to pale in comparison, and just not be nearly as enjoyable, and as it's a physical issue, there's nothing I can do about it. Does anyone have any experience with this situation? I would really appreciate any feedback, advice, or stories! -
This probably shouldn't bother me. The input from other readers would interest me. When my wife and I have sex she cums. Mildly would be a good word. When she has sex with other guys, she cums loudly, with spasms and shaking. These are wild orgasms. She has squirted with others, but never with me. (I have tried.) I don't think its about technique. I do understand the process, watched the videos, taken suggestions from the guys who made her squirt, etc. She says she doesn't get into squirting all that much, but she really seems to like it when it's happening. I suspect she doesn't want to hurt my feelings. She says that sex with me is the best, but I seriously doubt that. Now, I'm really not worried that she'll leave me for another guy. We've been together for a long time and have been very happy. So my question is: Am I making something out of nothing or should I be concerned? Thanks for your thoughts.
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I've been told by several men that I have a tight pussy. The first time I heard that I was quite surprised as I have had 2 children and thought I was probably otherwise. The first saying this was quite large in girth....7 x 6 1/2". I'd never been with a man that thick and the first time I saw him, I blurted out, "It's a damn tree trunk!" He was flattered.....but I was concerned it would fit.....thankfully it did. So I thought him saying I was tight was simply because of the size difference between us. He had been a swinger in the 70s and said there was only one woman he remembered and it was because she was tight, and I was the same. But others have been average and said the same. My Love is not average...at least I don't think so.... 7 1/2 by 5 1/2 ...and he is perfect for me. He also says my pussy is tight. Anyway, I would like men's opinions on our 'opening', and like the questions regarding a man's equipment, does a woman's size matter? My guy was with one lady who was just so loose/large that nothing happened and he had to stop...no friction...which surprised him as she was quite petite. As an aside...For fun I took a photo of my guy's erect penis. One day my SIL was looking at photos from a European trip I'd just taken. Sitting beside her I saw that the next image was going to be of that perfect dick...she looked so surprised when I grabbed the iPad from her so quickly...TMI for my SIL!!!!
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Most couples know each other’s sexual limits with each other very well and respect them even while participating in the lifestyle. Sometimes the couples’ limits are established overtime by personal comfort norms. They settle because the spouses are not agreeable or don’t reach the point of stepping beyond and breaking out. The lifestyle offers an opportunity that may excite a spouse to venture beyond the comfort of their relationship with their spouse. Is there a point where you have gone beyond where you go with your spouse? How would you feel about it if you were told by your spouse that they did? I know it should be discussed but did you decide not to bring it up and elected to keep it your secret? Would you go there again?
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The very 1st time... Was it exciting, nerve racking, defeating? What was the conversation after the fact, did it effect you two negatively? Also did you discuss it before it happened? We are new and I am just unsure how it will effect me and/or her. She has been with 3 other guys since we started about 3/4 months ago. I have not had to deal with the above question yet, so looking for some insight from others.- 43 replies
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I’m coming here for some advice about about something I’m not sure if I’m overthinking... We’ve been kind of dating/seeing a girl who I have yet to have a sexual connection with. I’ve been her only female experience, and we’re still working through lessons. My husband has been head over heels for her since we all met, which caused a lot issues between us then. Things have gotten much better, and I feel more comfortable with everything. I’ve been BI my whole life pretty much, so this patience and teaching is pretty big for me because I don’t get the full experience all the time. One boundary we have is no penetration with the other girl (there’s reasons for that). Anyhow, every time we’re together, whether in bed or not, I feel like a lot of foreplay is with her, I’m just there to have the penis in me, and the fact that he says I’m dry, well no shit, I have to push him for some sexual attention, and that’s a turn-off for me. It’s so frustrating because I’m normally not when I’m sexually aroused. He always opts to touch her, kiss her, and very passionate. I have to force us to kiss, or force his hand to touch me too, I like that stuff too. He’s very much aware of that, I have a soft, and sexy waxed vagina too, that I’m sure I could get a lot of attention and play. It feels like sometimes I’m there as the middle person to gap the bridge between them, and it’s taking a toll on my emotions. I don’t want to cause an argument, but I’m not feeling good about this, but want to make sure if I’m overthinking anything. -
My husband has a 6 inch penis and the people we swing with are about the same size. But every now and then I will be with someone who has a huge penis. The largest I have ever had was a very thick 8 inch penis that hurt when he entered me. I didn't enjoy it at all during the entire time. Has anyone else had this problem where they just can't get used to a large penis inside them? -
Has the way you have sex at home changed since you started swinging. No two partners act the same way in bed. We all have our likes and dislikes and when with a new partner have experienced new feelings. Have you and a swing partner done something that is new to you and have you brought that new act or position back to your home bed. How did your spouse react? Has your spouse tried something new? Do you discuss new likes?
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So.... I usually am with crowd that says you shouldn't fret over sizes, etc. Most men worry about their wife having a man with a larger cock and then somehow them not measuring up to that afterwards. I'm not worried about that. My wife has had a previous boyfriend before we were married that was huge. My question is this -- if we play with a couple that we are acquainted with... he's VERY big. I'm 1000% average US male. Maybe a little on the low side of average but still in there. Anyway.... I'm a little intimidated that his wife is going to be completely underwhelmed after having a guy regularly that is huge at home and then experiencing a dude that is completely average. I know I know.... I don't normally worry about this stuff, but in this case there is a huge difference, and she's used to the monster. :p Ladies? Thoughts?- 14 replies
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My ex-wife and I were in the lifestyle for several years, and then unfortunately found out she had been cheating (several times in college, and two separate affairs during our marriage) during our entire 10-year relationship, even while we were swingers (but never with other swingers). Took me a long time to reflect on what happened, how I may have contributed, questioned swinging, etc. It took me some time and many of my friends to help me realize she had a LOT of issues, and still does. I was concerned there could be the possibility my ex-wife would try to accuse me of something false related to our swinging (I made her do it, etc.) that would eventually reveal my past to my new wife. Honestly, I approached the lifestyle with my ex-wife as a gift to her - it was all for her, not myself; I learned a lot about myself, and thought we had completely open, honest, and loving communication, never pushing each other to do something and always respecting our decisions made together as a couple, and truly thought it was improving our marriage. I give you that backstory to tell you my current story… I’m remarried to an incredible woman, and could go on for days how amazing and stunning she truly is…we’re both devout Christians and attend church regularly. A few months before I proposed (she knew it was coming, ring picked out, etc.), I made it a point to be completely honest with her and tell her about my past in the lifestyle with my ex-wife, no details, just the blunt fact. I’m honest to a fault and deeply believe I owed my now wife the entire truth, especially in case my ex- decided to falsely accuse me of something related to our lifestyle involvement. She didn’t take it very well, she was very disgusted and felt taken advantage of, etc., and I actually thought at one point she wouldn’t accept my proposal. It took a little while, but we finally worked through it, but not after some very specific questions she had about it all…which I tried very hard to still vaguely side-step (going into steamy sex details about an ex- with your current girlfriend isn’t exactly wise course of action). My current wife is more reserved and conservative in her beliefs, but popular and stylish, and not at all a prude. She immediately denounced swinging and asked if I wanted her to do the same, pictured me doing all these gross orgies with ugly people, etc…typical mainstream misconceptions and misunderstandings of what the lifestyle really is…and I explained it to her. She’s not the most confident woman in bed, part of her reserved side, but I’ve been trying to get her out of her sexual shyness shell so to speak for a while. But for the past couple years, year of engagement and year of marriage, our sex frequency has gone down considerably, almost seems like she’s disinterested. I have to initiate sex all the time, she never does oral (giving or receiving) or any other foreplay, and she makes it seem like a task to get done and over with most of the time. [side note, she’s performed oral on me once, while she was on her period because she felt obligated, which I stopped her and told her she didn’t have to just because of that and felt she HAD to please me, I’m a gentleman, and not selfish. She took it as I didn’t like how she was doing it, so she claims to this day…] It worries me, and I’ve brought up my frustrations a couple times and she actually listened, but nothing really has changed, she hasn’t opened up and communicated or appear to feel more comfortable during sex. There have been extremely brief glimpses of hope at times though (before I discussed my frustration)… like when I was trying to skirt details of explaining the lifestyle, I did ask her about her sexual history and if she had ever had a one night stand before, which she did admit to me she’s had one (so at least one, maybe more, which was a encouraging in my opinion) and I was merely relating the similarity to swinging that sex can be for fun and just for sex and to help her see that her desires are not so far off from a swinging couples, it’s along the same lines and even better if you consider the open communication. Another occasion, she initiated and for once acted like a sex goddess one night we stayed at a friend's house after drinks, wouldn’t let me get up without fucking her, she was vocal, passionate, wild, it was incredible…but she did have some drinks in her. Another - she tried to get me to have sex in a public bathroom when we were out with a bunch of friends once (work friends mind you), which I wasn’t really into and said no…which she got upset and accused me of swinging but I wouldn’t do that with her…caught me off guard a little and made me wonder her real intent for wanting to in the first place, testing me or truly acting on exhibitionism impulse. With these examples, I’d like to think there’s a sexually free woman in there somewhere, at least I hope, she just doesn’t communicate about this kind of stuff very well, and I really hope her knowledge of my past doesn’t make her feel more inadequate or insecure in bed. If anything, I had hoped it would open her up to feel more comfortable in expressing her desires and sexual prowess with me, but it has definitely not. I am not trying to get her to be a swinger, and won’t ever bring that up, ever, but I do want to have that same open communication and comfort sexually with just her that I learned from the lifestyle, complete and respectful open honest dialogue about what we both want, like, dislike, etc. I do want her to feel desire and comfort initiating sex on her own more confidently. I just don’t know where to start or how to approach…which is why I’m here, asking some old lifestyle friends for any sage advice or ideas that maybe I’m not thinking of or haven’t tried yet. -
Does your significant other go wild with strangers more than with you? There are more than a few posts around here that it seems (from the posts) that some SO’s find telling the world and their SO’s that this stranger's cock is amazing and/or the best sex they have had based on the size and skill of it, or they actively go looking for a dick that is way bigger then their SO's - what message do you send to them (your SO) and do they just say it's ok because now you have made a statement that they can never be as good as this stranger - can you tell? I find this rather distasteful to say the least. I can not even think when I would ever say that a chick I had sex with was better than my own wife - different yes, better no way. Also if you cannot give your SO your best performance at home then what is the problem? I know many will disagree with my viewpoint and that's fine with me, but I think your sex life should be better at home by miles than with someone you may of just met. Regards.
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I find it difficult to cum through sexual intercourse with my wife before she gets raw and have me pull out. However with another woman, I can only last a minute or two before I reach the point of orgasm and have to slow down. I'm bareback with both women. I've been wondering why that is the case. My wife is thin while the other woman is a bit curvy. The other woman's pussy also feels a lot better than my wife. Maybe the curviness makes her pussy feel better. Novelty? I've been married to my wife for over 25 years and have only been having sex with the other woman for a couple of years. I don't feel the rush of NRE with the other woman when I'm with her. There isn't an emotional attachment. It's just sex. My wife has a low sex drive due to anti-depressants My wife has sex with me because I'm horny and she's doing it out of duty while the other woman is always horny. I'm thinking that this other woman exudes sex pheromones which my body picks up subconsciously. What are your thoughts and observations? Thanks in advance.- 16 replies
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It came to mind recently and I thought it would be fun to hear everyone chime in on their preferred speed of rhythm in bed. I actually do like it fast and it does seem like a lot of men prefer that as well. I only know of a very limited few who wanted to go slow with me.
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If you had something done to you sexually by the other wife or husband of a couple, do you tell you SO that they did something soooo good that it was the best ever, better than even you SO. If you do tell your SO, how do you bring it up or tell your SO?? I am interested in hearing from both sides on this issue. Thanks everyone! -
We talk a lot about how often you'd like to have sex if you could have it as often as you want. But how often do you NEED it? How long can you go before a lack of sex actually starts to affect your mood and interactions. Where it gets to a point that when you finally have sex you can feel the stress evaporate and everything is better.
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Hi, Mr. V. here. We have enjoyed some limited play experiences, some great, some so so, and Mrs. V all of a sudden is wanting to put swinging on hold and here's her reasoning why- She says that so far, none of the sex is as good as she has it with me so she's asking "what's the point?". I say because I've enjoyed watching her getting pleased from a new perspective and enjoy her coming back to me, and I've enjoyed new experiences and coming back to her. We've had great 'reclamation sex' too so I cited that as a reason. Is she expecting too much? Maybe we need to be a lot more selective in partners? Anyways, I welcome your thoughts on this and how you would answer her question "if sex is so much better with my spouse, why swing at all?"
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In your experience with swinging, either being the guy yourself, or the woman experiencing it, when does the guy normally cum? Do you have the woman perform oral and cum through there so you last longer for sex? Do you let the woman get you started with oral but only cum during sex? Or do you skip oral completely and just cum through sex. Normally we cum through sex, but sometimes the girl is really good at oral so I (male) don't know to make her stop or let it go...Just curious what the rest of you do in a similar situation. -
In this thread Overcoming Objections to Swinging one question got me thinking. -Worry that your desire for swinging means that they are not enough for you? I really had to sit back and ponder this question for a couple days. Is my involvement in the lifestyle proof that my wife is not enough for me? Is her desire to play with others a sign that I am not enough for her? Are we active in the lifestyle to fill the void that we both have in our sexual desires and fantasies? I am forced to consider that we may well not be enough for our spouses/SO’s. We all have desires and fantasies of being with others outside of our marriage beds. But why? Why are we excited by the idea of being with someone else? It is not an emotional issue. We love our mates and, for most of us, have no desire to share that feeling with another. We are not lacking in our emotional capacity to stay emotionally true to one another. Emotional monogamy is never in question. We are then brought to the physical aspect of our union. What is it that keeps us from being completely fulfilled by our mates? If they were everything and all we need, we would not have fantasies or desires for another. If they were “enough” for us in our passion or wants, we would have no need of others involvement. If they are enough for us, why do we swing? Why do we take another to bed, engaged in virtually the very same activities and motions we share with our mates? How can we justify our partners as being enough for us if we continue to pursue these activities? Do we do this out of fear of infidelity? Can we honestly say that, knowing our appetites for sex as we have openly expressed them, we would not stray in the future had we not been free to act within the lifestyle? Is this possibility the actual driving force behind the community? Is the fact that my wife thinks about being with another man proof that I have not been enough to please her completely and wholly? Have I not been enough for her to commit to me and only me in both body and mind? To be truly “ENOUGH” she would no longer have fantasies of another’s involvement. I would not think of being with another woman. We would not imagine the touch and feel of another with such reverie! I think this question deserves some true thought. For me, I would have to say, I am not enough for Mrs. CXXC. But in my limitation, I am ok with that!
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I was wondering how would the man in a couple feel if another man makes his wife have more orgasms than he has and they were also more intense than anything she has ever felt before from sex?. Do you think this will cause a break in the marriage or will it make it better? I ask this because I know some techniques that can do exactly what I described but I don't want to cause a rift in a relationship. When I do it with a single woman I don't have to worry about her significant other getting mad at her constantly thinking about the orgasms I gave her but if it's a couple I don't know if this is the same case. The techniques I use require a lot of exercises on my part to build strength and can't be accomplished in a week and some men might not even feel like doing the work and I'm worried the women might try to cheat with me to get these orgasms and I'm not into that. I really want to try some group sex with this knowledge because I love to see a woman in total ecstasy but I don't know if it's a wise thing to do. Can anyone help me out?
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This may be the most important thread for men in recent recorded history. In fact, it may be so important that I could be the first primate winner of the Noble Prize. Chances are, if you don’t find value in this thread you hate pie, cute babies and all the things that make our country great* Here’s my theory about haunted houses. They really aren’t that scary. But, if you buy into them, they can be creepy as hell. Mrs Spoo and I love haunted houses because we know how to buy in, to really let ourselves be scared. And we always get our money’s worth! You see, being scared is what the haunted house guys are trying to do, but I can spoil that simply by not letting myself get into it. Being scared, therefore, is not so much their job as it is mine. They are doing their part – and when I do mine, it is an amazing experience! So – let’s apply that to sex. Men – the good ones anyway – obsess about their equipment and/or ability to please a playmate. I know for me, I read as much stuff as I can, I work out, I try to make myself fun for the person I am lucky enough to be with (which is usually Mrs Spoo – and I consider that the greatest luck of all!) So – I will start with the assumption (which, admittedly, often doesn’t fit, but for most of the men around here, is probably workable) that the men are doing their part. Where the theory comes in is with the women buying into the experience. I am quite sure that it is not me who gives a woman an orgasm as much as it is her who allows herself to have one. Women can certainly block the best efforts. There are two keys to this (as I see it): Chemistry, which is unpredictable and impossible to manipulate. It is either there, sometimes in the form of visible sparks, or it is not. Comfort, which is just a positive rapport that two people have that makes each able to relax and enjoy a situation. Both can increase the other, I think. Where there is chemistry there will be more comfort. Where there is comfort, chemistry can be found. “Buying in” to the experience does not mean pretending you are enjoying lame sex. Not at all! There will always be lame experiences – mostly because I can’t make ever male read this, the most important thread in the history of the written word. But, for those of us who do read it, the questions are these: What can a man do to help increase your comfort level? What helps you relax in a situation and “buy in”? That’s it! The answers to those questions – from women who are familiar with themselves and with what works, what doesn’t – are the Holy Grail that we men seek! It is not the dozens of penis enlargement spam we receive in our email every week. It is right here, in this thread. Your answers will raise this from the best board for swinging information on the net to the single greatest resource for mankind – a monolith of wisdom and evolutionary potential, ala 2001 – A Space Odyssey. Help us evolve, ladies. Help us help you
