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Which do you find more intimate, vaginal sex or oral sex?
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What sex acts do you consider to be "reserved" for your significant other and/or very very special friends? You could vote for multiple items on the poll! -
People may think that intercourse is the ultimate act of sex and that going all the way means having a penis in the vagina. My husband and I have oral sex only quite frequently and both feel very satisfied. Some mornings I will wake my husband up with a blowjob and not wanting anything in return and he will wake me up other mornings with a tongue pleasing wake up. We were with the couple we have been meeting and I started to do what I normally do with my husband by kissing our friend’s penis. I enjoyed his reactions and continued to give him a blowjob and started thinking how beautiful his penis was. He tried several times to stop me and go further and told him to just relax and enjoy as I enjoyed doing it. I licked and sucked, took him deep in and then only the head. I explored his walnuts with slight pressure. Several times he tried to stop me and didn’t. I could hear my husband talking in the other room and figured they finished what they were doing. When my friend came he said that was the most intimate thing he has experienced. Is it?
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I’m coming here for some advice about about something I’m not sure if I’m overthinking... We’ve been kind of dating/seeing a girl who I have yet to have a sexual connection with. I’ve been her only female experience, and we’re still working through lessons. My husband has been head over heels for her since we all met, which caused a lot issues between us then. Things have gotten much better, and I feel more comfortable with everything. I’ve been BI my whole life pretty much, so this patience and teaching is pretty big for me because I don’t get the full experience all the time. One boundary we have is no penetration with the other girl (there’s reasons for that). Anyhow, every time we’re together, whether in bed or not, I feel like a lot of foreplay is with her, I’m just there to have the penis in me, and the fact that he says I’m dry, well no shit, I have to push him for some sexual attention, and that’s a turn-off for me. It’s so frustrating because I’m normally not when I’m sexually aroused. He always opts to touch her, kiss her, and very passionate. I have to force us to kiss, or force his hand to touch me too, I like that stuff too. He’s very much aware of that, I have a soft, and sexy waxed vagina too, that I’m sure I could get a lot of attention and play. It feels like sometimes I’m there as the middle person to gap the bridge between them, and it’s taking a toll on my emotions. I don’t want to cause an argument, but I’m not feeling good about this, but want to make sure if I’m overthinking anything. -
After reading so many posts on here it seems that a lot of people are still struggling with to blowjob or not to blowjob. But why is that the question? Is it enjoyable and should it go to completion? To me personally a blowjob is the least intimate form of pleasures. Yes I think it even ranks below kissing! I've always thought they were exciting and since swinging I've probably given more BJ's to more men than I can remember. If we're at a big party the men will say "there's Carol, let's get our BJ!" The other wives refer to me as the little vacuum cleaner. LOL In talking to a vanilla friend who knows I swing, she told me she would never screw another guy other than her boyfriend, but if she met an attractive guy with a cute cock she would for sure give him a BJ, no problem! Let's face it, cocks are fun and blowjobs are not intercourse, so what's the big deal?
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We've heard of relationships where one partner has a higher sex drive than the other and sometimes this leads them to trying out swinging. Keeping this in mind, I was wondering recently if couples where one has a higher need for emotional intimacy than the other sometimes creates a curiosity in polyamory. So, just as swinging can possibly solve the issue of one partner having a much higher sex drive, could polyamory possibly solve the issue where one partner requires more emotional intimacy than then their primary partner can give? -
In light of recent conversations about intimacy, I thought these videos would be interesting. They're still fairly guarded, but as open as they can be with someone they don't know. These are strangers really undressing and kissing one another, and the awkwardness is almost painful to watch. But once they let go, you can see that moment I was talking about, where you get to see another human being in all their (nearly) naked glory. It's a very cool experience. For me, this is what swinging is all about! They're promoting swinging without even realizing it. Strangers undressing one another: Strangers kissing one another for the first time: -
Still doing my research... I have not mentioned my interest to my sig other yet. My question is this... I've been reading advice to newbies and almost everyone says how they have a "date" or get together with other couples before the "real date". I've read that people like to get to know each other first, become friends etc. Doesn't this create more emotion in the situation than necessary? I mean I'm thinking that the swinging lifestyle was more strictly about the sex, not creating an emotional connection with other people. My sig other and I have an amazing bond, emotional connection and I want that to be special between the two of us. So if you are getting to know your playmates how do you keep possible emotions out of it? Also, I'm curious. I wear lingerie all the time for my sig other, but don't really own any sexy clothes... and I'm pretty fit, slim, although a little belly. I'm getting the impression that everyone is crazy attractive and porn star looking and all dress in slutty clothes! Is it expected for the woman to be "dressed up slutty" or how do I phrase it?? I would expect to have a hot sexy little number on under the clothes, but can't you arrive in jeans and a sweater? lol. I know this question will probably make many people laugh but I just gotta ask! -
We never discovered the joys of Mrs. Alura being hairless until she was undergoing chemotherapy and lost all her hair. We both loved the feeling when we made love, and she liked the ease of drying herself after urinating. We decided to keep her that way after her hair grew back. Shaving her is a team effort. This is the way we do it: Equipment we use: Two wide-mouthed insulated jars containing warm water. One also has two wash cloths in it. Hair conditioner. Two new three-bladed razors. A cordless mustache trimmer. Several bath towels. Two hand towels. Dove Stick Deodorant. I lay the towels on the edge of the bed and the other equipment near at hand. We take a shower together, drying our bodies but leaving her bikini area damp. Mrs. Alura sits on the towels and lies back onto several pillows. She raises and opens her thighs so that I can place pillows under them to relieve the ache of having them spread so long. I kneel on a cushion beside the bed and she places a foot on each of my shoulders. Using my tongue as a tool, I gently spread her labia apart and smooth them out as much as possible. Occasionally I flick my tongue across her clit to make sure she's awake. I slide my left index finger under her left labia and grasp it lightly with my thumb, gently stretching it taut. Using the mustache trimmer, I remove as much hair as possible, moving against the grain with the flat side of the trimmer. I've heard some folks suggest working with the grain but we find we can do a better job our way. We've never hurt her. I do her right labia the same way. The mound is more straight forward; I just trim it against the grain. I thoroughly coat the area to be shaved with hair conditioner, rubbing it into the stubble. Stretching the labia as above I shave it smooth with the three-bladed razors, again using the "against the grain" technique. I rinse the razor often in one of the warm-water jugs to wash away the hair cuttings. I work the razor from the middle of the crack of her butt outward, overlapping in the center. When I think I've done a pretty good job, I use one of the warm wash cloths to remove as much hair conditioner as possible. I don't dip the washcloth back into the water. Instead, I use the second one to finish the conditioner cleanup. To make sure I've not missed anything, I flatten my tongue and slide it over the shaved area, paying particular attention to the edges of her labia where it's easy for missed hairs to hide. Any stragglers are removed with a wet razor, dipped in the conditioner-rich water of the jug I've been using to rinse the razor. When I'm satisfied that she's shaved as well as possible, I like to re-open the labia with my tongue and flick across her clitoris several times before pushing as deeply into her vagina as possible, (Damn, she tastes good!) before returning to tongue-massage her clit until she grips the pillows and starts moaning. Soon, the moans will change to "I want your cock! Fuck me!!!" Of course, I comply with her wishes. Afterward, she rinses in the shower, dries, and rubs Dove deodorant stick on the shaved area. This method is time-consuming but she has never had rashes or red bumps. Mr. Alura
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My wife and I have been talking about swinging and giving it open consideration. We both feel that we are secure it our relationship and our desire to experiment. My problem forms from sex can't feel like cheating to me, it is no different from playing a board game for emotional meaning, however kissing is VERY emotional to me. I find myself feeling jealous or upset at the idea of my wife kissing other men. Anyone else out there feel this way? Any advice from people who have overcome this?
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To all you males out there is Sex just Sex no matter who its with? Do you take as much time pleasing your wife as you do pleasing other women? Is there as much romance in your bedroom as is in others? I ask this because it seems that in our relationship, sex is just sex anymore. We seem to spend more time pleasing others than we do each other. Sad isn't it? I ask all of you males out there to search your hearts, and tonight take time to please your spouse. Make them feel special. Let them know how much you love them in the bedroom as well as everyday life. Have fun tonight.
