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gatorvol64 last won the day on February 27 2011

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About gatorvol64

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    Lifestyle Mentor
  • Birthday 05/10/1964

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    Married Couple
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    Florida
  • Interests
    Each other?
  • Occupation
    Job? Those unfortunate things that keep us away from each other?
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    5 years

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  1. You know Chicup that I've never completely agreed with on this. I say completely because I've also seen things you've mentioned. I was in a poly relationship for four years. Well a poly one for three of the for I suppose. I could have worked even longer otherwise. I find the ones who are most truly comfortable with the lifestyle are those that have never fallen for the concept if monogamy at all. It is very nice to see true compression and happiness in your SO's relationships with others. It's out there. Vol
  2. I'm so sorry. You don't need to feel foolish. You managed to have a long, and mostly fulfilling, relationship, with not one, but two women. Few these days can say they've had 20 years with any one. That's an accomplishment. And even the end of that isn't a failure. I'm truly sorry that your relationship with Anna is ending as well. Vol
  3. gatorvol64

    Update

    fun4Ds, thanks for that. No regrets here. Growing experiences are good things.
  4. gatorvol64

    Update

    Thanks so much. We aren't closing our marriage or anything. We are both healing and enjoying some time together.
  5. I freely admit it may have been too long since I've been here to really know what is going on but, this is the polyamory forum. Doesn't that mean your husband and this woman are in love with each other? You also state this is a non-threatening relationship. Which doesn't preclude jealousy. But then it could be envy as well. I don't know enough about what is going on from this post. Is he doing things with her that, due to life and things we let slide, he is no longer doing with you? For example, does he snuggle with her watching a movie on the couch and no longer does that with you? I've been here in the poly relationship we've had. It's a matter of telling him, you know I miss that we don't do X (fill in what X is) any more. I didn't realize this until I saw you doing this with your GF (or he could have told you they did this). Life gets in the way of our live in relationships and some things go by the wayside without us realizing it. This may not be the reason you say jealousy is rearing but, you need to get to the bottom of why it is. Otherwise, even if he stops seeing her or just backs off for a while, the issue will not get resolved. It may appear to go away while he isn't involved with her but it really hasn't gone away until you deal with the underlying reason behind this. Good luck!
  6. gatorvol64

    Update

    Due to many outside responsibilities, I haven't been on the forums in a long time. It isn't that I haven't been interested, it's that I have some limitations....time and finances at the moment for internet access. However, I got a message asking about our quad and it made me realize that I need to update things here. After four years, our quad relationship ended about one month ago. Long story made short is....I have boundaries, not rules, but I need honest, respect and integrity. I feel if those are honored, I really don't need "rules". These were constantly being crossed by the other female in our quad. I ended things with the BF but that doesn't mean I didn't/don't love him. So, I'm dealing with a breakup and it's been since I was a teenager that I actually had to do that the last time. The relationship with my husband and the other wife has really been over for a while but for the admitting it. There is so much I have learned through all of this personally and so far my husband and I have come as a couple. I'm very happy with these things. I'm not trying to be vague here but I don't believe I feel like going into all the ditty gritty of things at this time. I'm still working things out in my head but I did feel the need to post the latest while I had the chance.
  7. I'm sorry you have to be apart. I understand some as well. Gator works shift work. At the very least (not counting if he has to work overtime), I sleep alone 7 straight days a month and another 7 days straight (now as a matter of fact) I spend evenings alone. He's worked shift work most of or life together but, when he went to this kind, it took me a couple of years to get used to it. And he is not longer able to do as much at the house. Hang in there. Try to find the positives. Be creative when you do get time together.
  8. That's great to hear! I'm glad you two were able to have such a good time.
  9. So cool and impressive that you've written this. I love these things!
  10. Congratulations on the coming addition. When the kids were young we kept saying, "One day they'll be out of the house and we can do what we want when we want." They are adults and out of the house but still seem to interfere with what we naively thought would be our life. Glad to hear Ted is doing better. Last year Gator literally almost died on me. It's so scary.
  11. Well, I have to say that you are correct about this. Poly is different things to different people. And each relationship a poly person has does not have to be the same. Poly is what you want it to be. What each person in a relationship agrees it is or can be. Vol
  12. Hey there! I won't say much here but, don't be discouraged yet. This takes time and major communication. It's a matter of changing a mindset. We are taught that you love one person and, if you really do love that person, you can not possibly love someone else as well. We are taught we only have a certain amount of romantic love to give and finding you love someone new must mean you love the original less. You are ahead of the others in your progress to get past this mindset. Poly is just like swinging in that it's best to go at the pace of the slowest. Hang in there. Both you and MrsVan. Vol
  13. Girl, my scale shows the exact same thing. I weigh more than ever. While, I've had some health issues that helped that be the case, it isn't something I like. Now that those issues seem to be better, I'm set on losing the weight. Unfortunately, the weight does not come off as easily as it went on. I set small reachable goals that turn into the end result. And I work on not getting discouraged. Good for you and your endeavors!
  14. Great for you both!!!
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