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Still looking for our first in NY?!?!
njbm replied to FreshCouple607's topic in Finding People to Swing With
Just to take bbarnsworth’s suggestion to the endzone, join an online meeting site. The biggest is SLS. They have regional biases. We find SDC big in Florida. Look around at those, attend meet and greet events, take it from there. -
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Still looking for our first in NY?!?!
bbarnsworth replied to FreshCouple607's topic in Finding People to Swing With
The 607 covers a pretty long area east-west. Still, if you're willing to drive a bit, I'm sure you can find people. Is Syracuse within easy drive? If you're out in the Steuben County area, you're probably going to have to drive a bit. Just the realities of the population being lower in that area. If you live on the other end of the area code, in the Delaware County area, maybe Albany is your best bet? Again, realities of lower population areas. If you're in the Tri-Cities area, it shouldn't be too hard. Some of the swinger personals sites can vary in popularity based on where you are. Have you tried such sites, or if you have, have you tried others? - Yesterday
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I am a single male, I enjoy if both the wife and hubby share my load after I cum on her face or in her mouth/pussy.
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We both have. I love women as much as men now. My husband loves women but totally enjoys sucking cock with me and getting fucked. My favorite and his, position is the both of us side by side spot roasted. We love seeing each other sucking and getting fucked so we will switch directions to watch the other at the same time taking it each way. He loves when I take it anally at the same time as he does as well. When anyone asks him if he is bi, he no longer hesitates and if they ask him what he prefers he always tells them about what he prefers with me, other women, and then the guys. We've had young wives ask him about the bisex and his description is so amazing you can see the ladies toes curl, breasts become alert, legs together, eyes batting, face and neck flushing, and squirming - lol. We have several waiting to get into our group I believe due to him. He definitely identifies as bi but does not seek out bi men, is not attracted to men, but is attracted to couples, if that makes sense. I am agree with him, it's about the couple not either or. -
Both as often as possible. And love sharing. Love missing with it and the penis right there. And you?
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Still looking for our first in NY?!?!
SJBluebirds replied to FreshCouple607's topic in Finding People to Swing With
I'm going to add another comment regarding my time in Endictott, NY: A number of -- and by 'number' I mean a LOT -- people in the 'lifestyle' back then were in their 40s and 50's. We were young, being in our early 20s. But substantial numbers of them were between 40 and 60, which would put them between 65 and 85 today. Did new people join the crowd? I hope so. But if they didn't, then I can't vouch for how it is, *today*. We fell-in with them NOT through the advertisements in the want-ads or the regional swingers' magazines: They were the core members of an unrelated community organization that my wife and I were involved with. A late-night get-together with a hot-tub after an event -- and we were introduced to the 'other' activities the organizational leaders were involved with. After I posted the reply, above, I googled the organization -- it's still around, still part of the community. I don't recognize any of the boardmembers or other members on the website; organizations grow and change, and that's a Good Thing. Perhaps they still have hot tub parties. I cannot say. -
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Apropos to our recent trip to the south of France we were invited to join friends plus two couples we didn’t know to share an AirBnb for 10 days. We know our friends in many sexual ways always having great times. Thinking about group sex and one on one sex it is different. I never thought being alone with a single woman as being with a lover. During our vacation we each did spend at least one night alone with a partner, one I felt I was stuck with. I was happy she fell asleep and let me sleep. I never let on that the night wasn’t great, she was more fun outside the bedroom. The only one I told was Lin who didn’t complain about any of the men.
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Still looking for our first in NY?!?!
SJBluebirds replied to FreshCouple607's topic in Finding People to Swing With
I lived in Endicott 25+ years ago, and there was an active scene that used notices in the Press & Sun Bulletin's 'want ads' for meetups and parties. Email was new, and not everyone had it, and cell phones were not yet a thing. It was there. It was hard to find/get involved compared to today. But the point is: it is, indeed, there. -
Please update us when it does.
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Some context for the way we live the lifestyle: We adults share two bedrooms - one is David’s and one is Red's, although most of the stuff in them belong to us women. We women decide who is sleeping with which man. The women who are sleeping together is more important than which guy is chosen. Most importantly, in the "three bed" is who is in the middle. Usually, it's not the guy. And yes, there is something special about the MF "two bed" as well. There are six permutations of that arrangement, so your opportunity for the "one man, one woman, the way God intended it" with each is once a week.
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Is there anybody here in or near the 607 area of New York? We haven’t had much luck finding people that are anywhere close to us
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Haha actually, yes that would be awesome. As long as you are accompanied by a hot female for me at the same time. I very much want to lock eyes with her while her mouth is full of huge dick and mine is in someone else’s mouth too lol
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Oh for sure. That will hopefully happen when we find the right people also
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Clearing your mind of negativity is very cathartic. Positive thoughts and meditation also helps. I have a kalyana mitta who has been a guide and facilitator for me.
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Younger is not always better, something I experienced at a party. I won’t say he was 25 he was attractive enough just not that great sexually.
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That is my point, sex is to be savored, sex is intimate. If it is more than one guy I hope it’s more than one night. I need or want more than an hour with a partner. I have experienced serial sex, FFM, and FF sex, give me MF for a night.
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I separate swinging and swapping. Swinging is sex for sex without attachment of enjoying being with a partner. Swinging is detached sex. Swapping is much more intimate sex. There are those who will take exception when I say swapping is making love with your partner. I’ve been told love is not a healthy function of the lifestyle, I disagree. I enjoy making love which is not the same as being in love. Alone with a partner is not rushed sex, it is touching and kissing and even talking without any outside pressure.
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A Canadian study on polyamorous parents
couplers replied to sweetcadcouple's topic in Some Swingers Do - Poly, BDSM, & Nudism
A very good article. I have two thoughts: First, we did not have to deal with introducing our children to a polyamorous family. They were born into into it. (The only exception was that Lora joined our family after the first two were born to Clair and me, but they were young.) It is totally natural for each of our children to have five parents, three moms and two dads. Compared to other kids, they feel lucky. They also comprehend that they have biological parents, but it's not something that they dwell upon with regard to us adults, more as to who among them are half-siblings, genetically unrelated, or in one case, full-siblings. (Lora and I have two children, one each with David and Red; Clair has three - one with Red and two with David.) The oldest are now aware of what sex is and that it happens among us adults, but only to the extent that any kids know that parents have sex behind closed doors. Second, as to others, there are two parts to it. The first is lawyers and making the legal aspects as secure as possible. I won't go into that, other than we've done a lot of work. The second is our relationship with schools and healthcare folks. We did our research and screen, then meet with them, bringing in members of our family. For doctors and nurses, the tone was set when Clair (who was the first to get pregnant) went in for her pre-natal exam accompanied by David who is the father, and me, David’s wife. It was explained that we were all good with it and excited to be raising this child together. Similarly when I got pregnant and went in to the gyno introducing Red as the father and David as my husband. Same with school. People know that the familial relationship is broader than the genetic. Each of the children has been brought in, picked up, and supported along the way by each of us adults as their parents, regardless of the biological relationship, and have authority over each of them. (There's legal stuff involved.) We adults strive to never inadvertantly contradict one another to avoid even a hint of conflict. Overall, it's not much different than step-parents and the like, but it's concurrent rather than sequential relationships. It seems normal. It is normal. -
Agreed. Even if it's just sex, there is much more to it than a quick fuck/orgasm. So much to savor without distractions. If it's more than one guy, I prefer them serially alone rather than both (or three) at once. My favorite though is an FFM threesome. There is something magical for me about being a part of that, including all the foreplay and postplay.
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Eating Pussy! Better yet someone at my bottom and /or cock and a cock or puss at my partners mouth. And the chain goes on!
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A Canadian study on polyamorous parents
PeterJ replied to sweetcadcouple's topic in Some Swingers Do - Poly, BDSM, & Nudism
The link worked fine! Terrific to read an article in the popular press on ENM that is neither intended to titillate nor implicitly judgmental, @sweetcadcouple Just facts that will be informative for the average reader of the newspaper. How refreshing! Thanks for posting it. I will be interested in @coupler’s response to this. -
For people who are in a polyamorous relationship and have kids there a recent study about it. I want to be neutral in this since I am not a polyamorous parents. If the link doesn't work, please let me know, I will copy and paste the article here. Juhl: Are the children of polyamorous parents OK? | Montreal Gazette -
I recently answered a post stating my #1 sexual thought was a 25 year old. Let me clear up that thought. If I am just looking for sex I want someone younger, good looking and quickly hard. If I am looking to have a fun night I enjoy a few friends who I can relate to who also enjoys us. Swinging is as much social as sexual. Sex for sex is Sex.
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We started by going to a nude beach with others, we were in our thirties and I had my doubts being nude with people we just met. My take is nudity, and seeing all shapes, ages and types is an equalizer. For me I gained confidence and raised my self image. As I age I am becoming more self critical so I work at it.
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Being alone with one lover. We started swapping spouses in separate cabins on a cruise and to this I prefer swapping to partying. My favorite is still my first who lives far enough away that it’s not an obsession. Since that first we have attended parties with group sex where I feel I am not myself, a little inhibited. If we are swinging give me one partner for the night alone in a private room. I’m not one who enjoys being passed around or looking for multiple partners just for a sex act.
