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  5. couplers
    In my opinion, under two minutes. We engage in morning quickies in our poly family, and they last around two to five minutes, and we women definitely get there in that time. When time permits, a session can happily go on for hours, 45 minutes of p-in-v is definitely fine for me before switching around. Never. Women can just keep going and come again.
  6. Billygoat started following Older single male
  7. Billygoat
    This is not new or exceptional. We have met, known and played with a number of solo males and a few solo women over the years that are legitimately in this type of relationship. Usually due to a medical issue and or age related. Most are over 45 and older. Makes for safe and personable experiences even long term without relationship/emotional developments other than a close shared friendship. When the issue is medical the relationship can and usually is there and quite strong, just the physical aspect…sex….is not an option. So some resort….with permission to have that need met/satisfied elsewhere with agreeable others. For us and others we have known or currently know the situation is real/verified and in many cases are social with the spouse that can’t participate including social (vanilla) events. For us we also shared family events/celebrations with both as a couple. So as long as special situational issues/concerns can be met….no worries.
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  9. AdamGunn2
    Well, I object to the form of the question . . . While I enjoyed my wife showing herself off, it was she that was doing it, not I. As we talked about getting into it (for three years,) exhibitionism was never a topic of discussion for us. We didn't even think about it. Then as we found ourselves really enjoying the atmosphere of our swing club, she began shopping for risqué clothing to wear there. I remember the first time she wore a thin scarlet robe in the dance area. She'd come dressed somewhat conservatively, then at some point she disappeared into a private room and changed into the robe with only very skimpy panties underneath it. She twirled on the dance floor, catching the eye of other men and teasing them. About the same time, we went into a room by ourselves and she asked me to leave the door open so anyone who wished to could watch us making love - in fact, when she was blowing me, she twisted around so the guys who had gathered had a great view of her pussy. This attitude shocked me a little, as I didn't expect it; but it was certainly a turn on for me. She never got over the high of having someone see her half clothed or naked.
  10. shy_couple
    Older? 50 or 75? that may not be as big an issue as married but playing solo. welcome to the board. Good luck in your search.
  11. Half MT
    How quick is too quick? How long is too long? Is it bad if a woman comes quick?
  12. Starting late
    I think that's very true. Long before we had the nerve to consider adding someone into our bedroom, I was very much of an exhibitionist. For me it goes back to my teenage years, and some trauma I experienced then, which led later on in life to exposing myself to strangers. I don't know if I'll ever get to the point of putting photos online, that just seems so permanent compared to the fleeting thrill of flashing my boobs, or doing it in front of a hotel window. I know that there's always someone with a camera around, so who knows, maybe I am online somewhere. btw, it was a night where I was flashing from a hotel window, on the 14th floor, that we had our first swapping experience. A couple actually figured out where our room was and knocked on our door!
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  14. hotwife70
    My wife too super shy at first,only agrees to go along when she has alcohol for her very first try but over time she gets use to it and she eventually lighten up.She recently would enjoy to let me live stream to some fans online while she does BJ to me of cause with a little light and occasionally from time to time she also chatted to them as well.It's super wild when I watch her telling those guys how she loves to suck their cocks dry if they were in the room.
  15. hotwife70 started following Fucking filled pussies
  16. hotwife70
    I did from time to time with 4 of my buddies to the street hooker way back when we were teens and I was usually the last so her pussy was full of my buddies cum as well as stretched out that I can barely feel the fiction but the slippery feeling was great.So I have been convincing the wife to try with another guy and she agrees in general as long as I can assure her privacy.
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  18. lcmim
    You certainly will get sympathy here. I doubt you will get much action. Meet ups are not the Focus of this community. For that perhaps looking into the sites of our sponsors at the top of this page will serve you well. If you are looking for some suggestions on dealing with that, or just an opportunity to vent, then The Board may be of service. At any rate welcome aboard and Good Luck.
  19. enhancer
    If it is a sexless marriage where you both do what you want independently why not fix it before looking for another outlet? If it is not worth fixing then why be there? There is nothing easy about being a male playing alone in this lifestyle. Even harder being an attached male playing alone.
  20. robertodabull
    Welcome to Hell my friend.
  21. Anon321
    She loves it. And she notices the energy that the guys bring because of how kinky and taboo the situation is.
  22. Fundamental Law
    This is an interesting conversation, because underneath the surface is a visceral fear of inadequacy. Everyone has experienced it in both non-sexual and sexual situations. Heaven knows, the first time I was asked to speak in front of a group, my voice cracked, my hands shook, things I had rehearsed and knew, I fumbled. But I got enough "right" to get a solid round of applause--maybe it was because those in the audience knew their turn was coming up. (This was in second grade, of course. Still, it is etched in my memory.) What about the first time you tried your hand at a musical instrument, or a new-to-you sport? Or the first draft of a "big paper"? Not your finest moment, was it? But as the years pass, and we have more "first times", we learn to relax and accept that our first effort may not be stellar. So what? And then...there is sex. Now with new people. And maybe with an audience. Your entire self-worth focused on the organ between your thighs. The stage is set and... Um, wait a minute. This is (supposed to be) playtime, not an audition. Playtime is, in a word, improvisation; the more you get to know the other player(s), the more relaxed you find yourself and the more fun there is to be had.
  23. flytoyassoc
    Older single male that desires to get involved in the swinger scene. In an open marriage where we both independently do things solo. We both do as we please no questions asked, it's a sexless marriage. That said. new to the swinging scene and would desire to be involved, however being is single hard to participate with the swing life. An older male that desires to enjoy sharing and having fun with like minded people with no pressure or drama. Can travel, flexible and just desire to enjoy fun times.
  24. funtimefamily
    She was over the edge by the time he got behind her, and I felt she was ready
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  27. GoldCoCouple
    We live right up the road in the Auburn area! To save you some time, SLS (Swing Lifestyle) seems to be the better choice for the Sacramento area. As already stated, you can set up a free account to verify that there is enough people in your area, but once you find a good site, join. Lots of members won't even respond to free accounts since there are too many fakers/flakes/pretenders/men wanting to get a thrill thinking that they could be swingers...if it wasn't for their wives saying NO. As for clubs, the closest is Pokher Knights in Reno...we've never been so we can't give you much more info. We have been to Laguna Del Sol (clothing optional resort) and have heard that they have a pretty active swinger group on Saturday nights, but while we have been there, we've only stayed after dinner once...we are not part of the party crowd and are not looking for the one-and-done type of meetings. PM use if you have more questions or would like to talk more...we're probably too old for you (60's) but are always happy to help introduce others into the L/S.
  28. lcmim
    Good for you. Welcome This site was not set up with your need in mind, although I am certain it has happened from time to time. The Board is a community that acts as a resource for those with questions. There are sites at the top of the page that sponsor this one and are more likely to meet your needs
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  30. Funnewcouple
    Fun good looking couple looking for first time swing party in Michigan
  31. AdamGunn2
    As far as websites go, the big three are Swinglifestyle.com, Kasidie.com, and SDC.com. The traditional way to go is to check out the website(s) by creating a free profile, searching around your geographic location, then becoming a paid member on the one you choose. Becoming paid is very important - it usually signals to other members that you're serious, and it gives you access to features such as messaging. Plus, it's not that expensive - a one-year membership on SLS is about what you'd expect to spend for a nice night out. Put a lot of thought into the words and pictures you upload to your profile, it's the way of putting your best foot forward and making a great first impression. Unless you block them, you will immediately be invaded by dozens of messages from single males - if you're into that, be very selective. If not, ignore them or block them. It may take a while to find the partners of your dreams, but in my opinion it's worth the work.
  32. cplnluv1
    We met many couples who were new to the lifestyle with the main focus on the wife exploring a curiosity. Men watching their wife having, primarily with another woman get extremely excited. In most situations full swinging is the result with many men feeling they finished too soon, it happens. In our group now we have one friend who can be quick so he knows that there are solutions to please the women, he is very adept at oral.
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  34. Nieka

     

    My Fiancé and I are super interested in the voyeur aspect of the swinging lifestyle…

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  37. hunterdonNJcpl
    We started out 26 years ago - before most of the LS websites. Back then if you wanted to dip a toe in you would visit a swing club, and that's what we did. We were looking for a more experienced couple to guide us at that time, and there were plenty to choose from there. If you go the club route, don't be worried that experienced couples will be pushy and want to go too far too fast. Swingers are very sensitive and understanding in that regard! Another good option is an adults/couple clothing optional resort. It's amazing the effect that warm weather, sweet music, cold drinks and naked people will have on your inhibitions!
  38. bbarnsworth
    Welcome to the forum! First, you are in the right place. This is a great place to get answers to questions you have, both from directly asking and also reading past threads. Before you get into this, you need to make certain your relationship is on rock solid ground. 100% totally open communication is pivotal. The topic of swinging shouldn't be something you can only discuss in the bedroom. It's not something that just affects your bedroom life. This can have serious, negative impacts on your relationship if you are not ready for it. It's hard to judge if you are ready, but having great communication is essential. There's no deadline here, no rush. Go at a pace you are comfortable with, and if one of you wants to go slower than the other, then go at the pace of the slower of the two of you. Finding a couple or a single male is a lot like dating. There's going to be some duds, some flakes, some people you don't quite mesh with. Even though you're just in it for sex (though you might want more than that; not judging), getting the right vibe is sometimes tricky. Finding a relatively new couple isn't a bad idea, but having a more experienced couple has its pluses too. They would have the experience to help answer your questions, put you at ease, make it all seem comfortable and natural. A new couple will have everyone being nervous. That's not top say a new couple isn't workable; there are pluses and minuses either direction you go. As for how to meet couples? There are swinger clubs in California. There's also meet-and-greets where you go to a party that's all swingers, but there's no active playing on site. Sometimes that's combined with a hotel takeover, where the bar is just a standard bar scene, but people are connecting to move things upstairs. That's not necessarily a high pressure environment. In fact, any environment in which you feel pressured isn't the right environment. A meet-and-greet has the advantage of being able to meet real swingers without having expectations of play. You'll find that the average swinger is pretty much like the average person you see in a grocery store. There are of course websites. A common one is swinglifestyle.com. There are others. Kasidie,com is one as well. It's a matter of what works in your area. Pro tip; pay for an account. Anyone who isn't paying for an account is likely just a tourist. So, if you don't have a paid account other couples might not take you seriously. We have tended towards moving to meet up fairly early with couples as this helps to weed out the people who really aren't all that interested in moving forward. Another tip; my wife and I have a silent signal we use to find out if both of us are ok with playing with a single guy or couple. So, we meet up with a prospective, have drinks or dinner. After some time, one of us would gently squeeze the thigh of the other. This says, "I'm game to play if you are". If the other responds with a single squeeze back, the answer is yes. More than one squeeze, no. As for single guys; understand that there is WAY more supply of single guys than there is demand. There are a number of creeps out there. There's ways to filter them out. In your profile on whatever website(s) you choose, include an innocuous line somewhere in your profile, maybe 2/3rds of the way into it. Have it say something like "If you've read this far, let us know in your contact email by telling us your favorite color" (or something equally innocuous). If you receive a contact email from a single male that doesn't include the answer to your question, then you're likely just getting a copy/paste email from a single guy who is throwing spaghetti against the wall hoping something sticks. Block them and move on. They're not worth your time. Look for telltale signs of cheating; only available certain times of the week/day for example. If you get together with a single male, look for telltale signs of a missing wedding ring. My ring finger clearly shows a missing ring if I take it off. We've run into that before, and it's a dead giveaway. It's easy to find a single guy in the lifestyle. Finding a good single guy is a bit harder. But, be discerning in evaluating single men. Don't settle. If your wife doesn't quite click with him, move on. If there's something that sets you off about the guy, move on. A single guy should understand his role. You're not an idiot because you're allowing your wife to have sex with someone else. He should be respectful to your wife AND you. If he shows up looking like hell, with beat up clothes and looking unkempt, don't waste your time. He should be a gentleman to your wife in all respects until things move on to flirting a bit, or dancing (gets Roman hands), etc. Your wife has expressed her fantasies about being in a threesome with you and another guy. Where do you stand? Is this a fantasy of yours too? Where are you on the "Am I ready for this?" spectrum? Please feel free to ask whatever questions you like. We're a helpful bunch, and will be happy to answer. We're also not "yes" people. We WILL tell you if you're being foolish or making a bad decision, etc.
  39. Kopino
    Hi there, Both my wife and I would like to try swinging together. We have been married for 15 yrs and want to spice up our bedroom life. We have both talked about bringing in someone but we haven't figured out how to approach it. We thought about websites but not sure of any good ones. We also want to find a couple who is relatively new as we are just so we can learn together. My wife would love to have another man join us and have expressed her fantasies with me. I think as a first experience, maybe incorporating a couple would help ease us in. Any advice to any of the questions/ comments that I have made? We live in the Sacramento area and would love to meet any new couples wanting to share a first time experience with newbies. All advice is welcomed. Thanks!
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  41. robertodabull
    Little late to the comment party. If you are struggling with this still, there are a few mental exercises that can be done before, during and after sex in order to delay cumming too soon. some of these exercises can be found on https://www.auanet.org/documents/education/clinical-guidance/Premature-Ejaculation.pdf Through the American urological association. It doesn’t sound like this is a physical problem since you can ejaculate with your regular partner normally. But if it becomes a problem, there are medications to assist with this. Given I take an SSRI for PTSD, I actually have the opposite problem. I last too long. A couple I know who really enjoys cum (especially the gentleman) were always a little frustrated because they have to work a little bit longer for the prize. It’s worth it at the end though 😈
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