How long have you been thinking about/discussing swinging?

[marjohn 15]

We got in and played a few times, no full swap. Same room playing. My wife is a little self-conscious (she is a BBW), so most of the time at the club, I am the one doing the playing. I love to be in the room watching when on a rare occassion she does play.

[crazinred 36]

I Crazi have wanted to get into the lifestyle as long as I can remember. 25 years at least. When I first me Red we hit it off great and it seemed like she would go for this life style. But in the last 17 years we have become very best friends but not lovers. She says she sees me more as a brother than a lover. I kept pursuing her because I knew she really loved sex and would never be a 1 man woman. I talked to her about this many times but to no good results. Finally 2 years ago things worked out again for us to try. We discussed this life style and I showed her this website along with others.It was rough at times. Then her daughter caught her in one of the swinger sites so this all ended. This was the time we realized I had ED. With her sex drive she started looking for sex else where. She sneaked around for awhile till I finally confronted her. I finally got her to talk some and also come back on here. She was unsure but interested. She had gotten a fairly regular boyfriend at this time. We went to a 4 wheeling event on Saturday and had a great time. Then Saturday night she went out with her boyfriend. Then Sunday when she came home I told her just thinking about her being with another man really excited me. She couldn't hardly believe it. I ended up eating her out for as long as we had time for. It was great and I loved the taste of another man in her. She admitted she couldn't believe I would feel this way. We have done some more talking and she is all game to try this out. She really wants a bi experience and has talked to a Bi co worker about the 3 of us getting together. Thats not going to happen for at least another month till after this lady recovers from getting her tubes tied in a couple weeks. We have talked about doing one of the local clubs but both are unsure on that. Some one on here mention in another thread that they went to a club just to play together and see what happens so right now thats where we are at. Now her teenage daughter is fully aware of all this and tells her to go for it. Along with one of her old boy toys that is disabled at this time. Him and Red have had some wild times in the past and hopefully when he is better we all can get together. Her current boyfriend isn't interested in the life style but I told her to do what she wants with him as long as I get to play some when she come home. Now as long as I don't piss her off saying all this. But this seems a way for us to communicate. Since Our life styles clash so badly.

Love You Red :cunny:

 

Red here, well he talked me into it and we went to our first club last saturday night. That was an awesome experience! And, we've had three other experiences since...which have all been great. I think I am going to really like this lifestyle. I agree with crazi, too bad he couldn't talk me into it years ago. We've probably missed out on alot of fun times...but, we are well on our way to making up for them!

[joshksmith 15]

We have been thinking about swinging for few years now. Since we have not done it we want to start soft swinging (No intercourse) first. Find out if we can handle it then we go all the way. We would like to meet couple in 40's but attractive, courteous and professional looking pair.

 

Josh & Jasmine in tucson,az

[LizAndChris 15]

My husband and I have been together for over 6 years. We have always talked about a three some with another woman or man. We have even fantasized about it. Just recently, after a friend introducing us to the lifestyle we have been talking about it. It has been about 2 months that we have been going to a club and checking it out. We are still beginners and haven't done anything but watch, but we talk about it extensively. Maybe soon we can actually do some sort of swap. We are still exploring.

[curious4more 15]

The thought has been in my head for the last few weeks, so with a little time on my hands over the holidays I thought I'd start researching.

[HappyCpl 89]

We have been discussing it in earnest for a couple of weeks...but the fantasies have been there for years.

[unusualsuspects 26]

We have been pretty actively thinking and discussing for two years now, and I feel we're on the cusp of actively acting on it some more. Maybe.

[tie_knee_Pen_15 15]

We just started talking about it a month ago. We joined some sites and have started

talking to other couples. Also have posted on cl, but haven't had the courage to actualy go ahead with it.

[NotSure4sure 15]

How long have you been thinking about wanting to swing and/or discussing it with your SO?

 

for us its been years talkin about it , but thats as far as it gets ..

[DenMor4 24]

We've been talking about it for most of our relationship. He brought it up almost as soon as i move in with him which was maybe 2 months in.

[frisky-n-fun 31]

We started talking about swinging in Oct. of '08, it took us about a month to get started but we wanted to make sure both of us were clear on where the others comfort level was at before we started to play.

[Rahul_Neekita 32]

We have been thinking/discussing swinging since long, say 1 year. Can we get help in finding swingers from india? OR swingers visiting to india?

[MalachiConstant 15]

My girlfriend and I have brought it up quite a bit, mostly just joking with each other or when discussing our fantasies, and focusing on inviting another woman in bed as she has some bisexual interests she'd like to explore... though she's shown just as much intrigue at doing a MFM as well.

 

I didn't really think it'd ever be a possibility except that she has been bringing it up more and more... she'll just randomly blurt out "hey, check out that girl - doesn't she look yummy?" She's also made me promise to take her to a strip club soon and buy her a lap dance ... or 10. Just have to find a decent enough club, and not one of these crappy local places.

 

And just last week, she thought it'd be fun to save up some $$$ and go visit the Bunny Ranch.

 

Not sure that we'd be totally into full-swapping anytime soon were we to get into this ... but I think finding a club in the region to visit is definitely going to happen eventually.

[Guest Trellken]

My girl and I have been talking about it for several months now and have started to act on some of the discussions (I already posted about that though in another thread).

[doubledupbuxom 15]

I've mentioned it on and off since wife and I got back together after a break. A few years ago. She met with other guys. At first during break I was jealous but then turned into a turn on.

[F250V8 16]

3 or 4 years I guess. Id love to see her with another guy

[dlflorida 52]

Just in the past few weeks...my wife was out with friends; a couple of the girls suggested going to a club for swingers. Most said no but when my wife retold the story, I asked her what she thought. I saw thw wheels start to turn but did not pursue it. She retold the story to her sister and found out that her sister and boyfriend (now husband) had been to clubs and liked them. My wife was shocked yet intrigued. The idea of seeing her fuck another guy is driving me crazy; I can't wait but she has to work up to it in her mind. No pressure from me.

[JoeCentralNY 15]

About two yrs.

[huddie123 15]

How long have you been thinking about wanting to swing and/or discussing it with your SO?

 

:surrend:we been talking about it for about 6 months, had a near miss recently and it fired things up inside us both again, WE are going to swing..xxx:kissface:

[stoked hubby 16]

My wife and I have talked about swinging, swapping, adding aother to the mix for the 22 years we have been married and the 5 we dated before that. It is something that is very appealing to me, and something very scary to her. We actually had a FMF before we were married, but after we married, she says she would feel like she is cheating. I have been as open and honest as possible about my desires, and she has been equally open with her concerns. We are very happy and maybe someday it will happen, maybe not. We are planning on going to a lifestyle bar for a toga party in a week. I expect nothing other than some sexy clothing, dancing, drinking and meeting new people. I think she will have a blast in that non-threatening environment. I guess it come down to this: I love her more than the desire to play in the lifestyle. If not, we would have split a long time ago. I dont know if this answer fits in with the rest of the posts, but it is all I have.

 

R

[eskimo 17]

We have been discussing it for 2-3 years. She is open to discuss it, but not yet any where near ready to try it. We have been married for 31 years and I have found that if she will discuss it, there is a good possibility that she will eventually try it. I am hoping for the best....

 

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[**Macbeth** 27]

The concept has come up as a 'joke' off and on for about 10 years, but just in the last few days has it actually been presented seriously.

[tamallan 15]

How long have you been thinking about wanting to swing and/or discussing it with your SO?

we discussed since we are dating, and now been married for 10 years. but only start after she turned 30. she just loves it. her comment is she is happy after doing her boyfriends. and I'm happy with it

[mg4653 15]

We discussed it for a month or perhaps even less before we began. Now the back story......

 

We had been dating only a short while when I moved in with him. We have the best communication I have EVER, EVER had in any relationship. (Heck, our first phone conversation was over 7 hours long...........AND neither of us wanted to hang up then!! LOL)

 

Our sex life has been amazing since day one. We began discussing previous experiences, fantasies, etc. Though I had many fantasies about being with another woman I had always felt it was best left as a fantasy. For one thing, I could not seem to get past the trepidation over what it would be like to give oral to another female and the other was the fear I would be jealous, not only over her possibly being more physically attractive but what if some emotional attachment already existed between him and her and grew with the increased intimacy (as he would have to supply the other woman....I knew no one to approach). The more I thought about it, the less apprehensive I became about oral with another female.

 

Then the perfect opportunity presented. He had a long term friend that he had already had NSA sex with multiple times. My feeling was that if there was an emotional attachment going to form, it would have already occurred before I was ever around. She and I formed a friendship quickly and easily. I trust him and I trust her. She has been bi since her teen years and has been part of multiple first experiences for other women. I felt she would be patient with me if necessary.

 

OK......I will condense this somewhat now (as it is already lengthy). Had the fmf with him and her......explored my bi side and LOVED IT!! This led to the discussions about other fantasies that included swaps that neither of us had ever experienced (prior to me he had multi fmf exp). We are both jump-right-in kind of people, so in the past 6 weeks or so it has gone from discussion to fmf first for me, no longer calling myself bicurious but bi after that, searching for partners on the internet, local hotel party with soft swap, first full swap just 2 days ago. A whirlwind of FUN, FUN, FUN!!! and a young but strong relationship becoming ever stronger and more than before certainty that he is the partner in life I was meant to have, truly my "male half" as I described him to my daughter after our lengthy first phone convo. I AM THE LUCKIEST WOMAN ALIVE!! or as he says the wisest......because I was wise enough to go after what I want.....in going after him full force and giving my all to us and OUR happiness.

[Looking4uwithus 16]

Hi everyone, Mr Looking writing this post here. (It's been really nice reading posts and the couples state who is talking right away)

 

We have been dabbling about swinging on and off for the last 25 yrs. The good thing is we have been married for 20 yrs so there was talk of it before marriage so we both knew each others likes and dislikes before taking the marriage vows.

 

We have been AFF members on and off for the last 4 yrs but never found anything we could agree on and we have also been to temptations cancun Feb 09. We found this one swinger couple who we both kinda liked when we were there too. His name was Dana and his wife Tracey (I think) she wore the sexiest two piece bright neon colored bikinis. (I honestly don't remember her name cause Mrs looking usually does that and shes not here to ask right now.) They also became temptation club members (and told us they frequented desire a lot too) while we were there but nothing ever did happen between us?? Maybe it's us? Maybe it's me? Maybe no one finds us or me attractive

 

Anyway, we are at the place now in our life where we are going to some nice adult resorts for our winter getaways and IF something happens........... it happens. So hopefully we will see you all in Hedo or Desire soon.

[SheLovesTheSun 40]

Well, we'll be together for a year next month. We've been discussing it for 10 months, so we started talking about it about a month into our relationship. He was the one who brought up the subject first and he was quite casual about it;)

[Lumpeedoo2 15]

We've been talking about it for about a month. The idea started with a podcast about toys and one thing led to another. Now are fantasies are on their way to reality - thinking of heading to a club as a start.

 

-A

[thecandyman 15]

o.k. long post coming up...as for me and mys/o here is the story...we dated when we were 14 years old I was the holdout meaning social upbringing told me no not till your married sufficith to say I heard my pappys word in the back of my mind even though my young hard cock spoke otherwise...anywho we loved each other. I know sounds like a romance novel but we found each other later in years and have been together now for 2 years. I don't mind telling you that she is very sexual as I am (late bloomer) we as older adults had convos. about our whole lives and understood that we didn't have to have sex with each other that in fact we loved each other a feeling that never went away even though we hadn't seen each other in 21 years. now to my point us being sexual creatures knew instantly that we were in love and knew that sex is sex and love is love. other then hashing over the details we are embarking on what I think is gonna be the best thing since finding each other again because we (loved) each other even when there was no sex involved. as long as we stay on the same page as far as what we are looking for in this experience and talk talk talk (sometimes the talk is better than the act and I haven't even experienced it yet...lol) to me it is an experience you share together the good bad and ugly...

[TnMtns 16]

We have been talking about this for at least six months.

[Lumpeedoo2 15]

Update for us! We aren't just talking anymore. We've played with two couples and had a great time. We've been to the local club twice. She found out that kissing and touching girls is fun, (I already knew that). We are meeting another couple on Friday....

[totapassion 15]

my wife and i been together 14 yrs. she not into swinging but we like to to swing nightclub settings . i like the idea one day of being watched as we make love but for right now she love dressing up..

[quietlykinky 40]

We talked about it for about a year before we decided to actively start looking for people. When we did find people that fit the bill it was probably four or five months before we actually worked up the comfort and the guts to do take the plunge. That was over a year ago. So I'd say that it's been about three years since the idea first hit us.

[intriguing 15]

My b/f and I been together for four years; he is really interested in swinging. I am afraid that one of us will fall for the " other swinger". How do other couples handle this. I love him.

[F250V8 16]

we just found a cuple. just getting to know them. it will be th efirst for al of us

[hppycpleus 40]

We have discussed it for about as long as we've been togeather. I was NOT willing to share my husband with anyone. My husband was in the lifestyle before he met me. We talked about it often and I came to like the idea.

[daqueenbee 15]

We've been together for 25 years and I brought up swinging 4 months ago to him. I have always been more open minded about sex than he is. He's willing to go to the club, but not interested in swapping.

[Guest DickDastardly]

Ha. Roughly uhm... 18 hours? Yes. We're just talking at the moment, discussing fantasies. All that came up after watching some couple porn, me licking her to a thundering O, and then her sucking me until I must have fired 20 ropes into her... I hope the discussion continues this weekend.

[Groupfunlvr 15]

We haven't discussed it as a married couple yet. My best friend and his wife swing and she knows this but we never talked about it. I have some experiences with married couples as a single male that she does not know about but that is in the past before we met. I know she has bi tendancies and would like to experience a woman but does not want me to have contact with her. At first I thought I wouldn't be able to handle my wife being with another man but as time goes on I get better. I recently found out that she has been watching MFM and gangbang porn (she forgets to clear the browser history). I wonder if she secretly fantasizes about multiple partners but is reluctant to say anything to me. I try to get her to open up but she could think that it is a taboo subject.

[ACuriousDuo 46]

A couple of weeks maybe? We've gone from curious to more curious!

[fredsgirl 40]

thinking about it for years, never couragous enough to do it single. haven't had a significant other that wanted to. Just started dating someone who may be interested, so we'll see!!

[Guest the2vs1913]

We have been discussing for about a year. I myself (Mrs.) have some insecurity issues I'm working on, but Mr. is there 100% to support either way. We are now a member of this website learning more and trying to find maybe a mentor.

[ilprzvm 15]

We too are new at this, but really want to try it and see what happens. Its all about the feeling yu bring when you are with another couple.Its about sex, not loving that other guys. Isn't it?

[CuriousCpl90301 15]

Only a couple of months for us, decided to act upon it with the start of this year. Still looking around to see what others have to say about it for now.

[dnc2006 15]

Hey All!

 

I've had the good fortune to participate in a few WWM and WWWM sessions a LONG time ago. C has not. She and I have been beating around the bush (so to speak) for quite some time. (Our relationship started out sexually, and has grown into an all-emcompassing one). However, we seriously started planning to do the swing thing just recently, and are determined to lay the groundwork first, so we don't get into trouble by crossing emotional and sexual boundries without first agreeing on those boundries. (We are sure there will be enough unexpected emotions to deal with...)

 

So, here's a question for y'all: C was (and is) a sweet young thing, and had never done oral nor anal before doing them with me. Lucky me... Woo hoo! I consider myself very fortunate to be her first and only guy "in these ways"...

 

So... is it OK to want to keep oral and anal for myself (ourselves) only? Is this too selfish? How about in a 2 couple situation that moves beyond just looking? Would the other couple be likely to say "forget it"? Or, are all kinds of sexual reciprocity expected? I can imagine her doing a lot of other stuff with the guy (like fucking, handjobs, etc, and etc...) and lots with the girl. So, what do y'all think?

[dnc2006 15]

We have been discussing for about a year. I myself (Mrs.) have some insecurity issues I'm working on, but Mr. is there 100% to support either way. We are now a member of this website learning more and trying to find maybe a mentor.

 

I like the idea of a mentor. I am the ms as well. I have insecure issues as well. My guy is 100% but he has fears of his jealousy and insecurities as well. I cant help but feel like I will show up and some girls will just knock the socks off my guy even though bw us I am pretty confident, sexually. I also worry about some girl wanting to pursue my man. But I am more interested in the experience than giving in to my insecurities. We are in the process of creating boundaries which has been a fun experience because we talk about our fantasies.

[timswife28 16]

We started discussing swinging about 11/2 yrs ago. Husband travels work, so we do a lot of instant messaging/sexting. One night he asked me to fantasy play during our conversation. It got us both really hot. Later we talked about making our fantasy of being with another couple a reality. He did most of the leg work...signing up on sls and keeping me posted. About a year ago we met a couple whom we really didn't have much in common with but decided to meet again for play, we were very eager to jump in. Anyway, it was not fulfilling or fun. So we sort of just took a step back and waited a few more months before persuing it again. He still travels, but I quit my job to be with him and this has given us many more opportunities. We now know how important it is to connect first through email, im chats before even meeting for dinner or drinks. Although we have met a couple that we had borderline thoughts about and it turns out they are more down to earth and compatible than we originally thought. Overall, we are enjoying getting to know people ... some more intimately than others.

[waleska 15]

Hi, My husband and I were in the same situation 4 years ago when we had our first discussion about inviting another woman in. I wrote a story that I am going to put up for others to read and get an idea of how he approached the subject, my thoughts, fears and questions. Its a great read to get someone elses way of thinking about it all. I will email it to you if you like

[waleska 15]

My husband and I were in the same situation 4 years ago when we had our first discussion about inviting another woman in. I wrote a story that I am going to put up for others to read and get an idea of how he approached the subject, my thoughts, fears and questions. Its a great read to get someone elses way of thinking about it all. I will email it to you if you like

[timswife28 16]

Waleska, not sure who you were asking the question of sending email to but yes feel free to send the story to me! Thank you.

[Coupleerotic22 1,417]

We had fantasies during sex for many years about threesomes and swaps. When discussing it, we always said that would be fun, but it won't happen. My wife was like "no way it will ever happen." (more on this in a bit). Occasionally we would discuss "what if we did it" outside of the bedroom, but nothing ever came from it.

 

After many years of marriage and some rough spots in the road, nothing serious, we learned more about communicating and how badly we had done that early on in our marriage. We were both amazed at some patterns we had set in our marriage from the very beginning just because we communicated poorly and never brought up the issue again. At that point we really sat down and talked about everything, no hold barred. We found out a great deal about each other. We got to the point that we were so open that we did not have an issue talking about anything because we were secure in our marriage. (Which is GREAT and I highly recommend everyone get there.)

 

We married young (early 20's) and I was the only man she had ever been with. I had been sexually active before we met. One day SHE says I want to have sex with other men. SO we explored it by talking. She was somewhat envious of me, that I had experience other women and she was curious about other men, what she had missed what was different about sex with them etc. SO we started investigating sites, signing up, reading etc. etc. It wasn't long before we jumped in with both feet and we have been having a blast ever since.

 

So to answer the question. We have talked about it well over 10 years. We seriously considered it and investigated it only a 2-3 months before jumping in.