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Vjklander last won the day on June 2 2008
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136 ExcellentAbout Vjklander
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- Birthday 05/24/1957
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Relationship Status
Couple, Straight M, BiFem
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Location
VA
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Interests
Sex, BDSM, politics
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Occupation
Engineer
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Vjklander
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Vjklander started following Do you swing with single males?, Swinging versus Religion, Does swinging and friendship mix? and and 1 other
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Commando, unless I'm wearing white pants.
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Why don't swingers have their own symbol?
Vjklander replied to a topic in Finding People to Swing With
The Black Rose is a BDSM club in DC and its symbol is, obviously, a Black Rose. Every year they have a big annual event. They often have extra shirts from previous years that didn't sell out for sale cheap. Since they are great heavy duty black tees, I usually pick up a bunch. If any 'nillas ask what the Black Rose is I just tell them I picked up a bunch of the shirts at a swap meet. -
I have no problem playing with friends. We actually quite prefer friends. (see the other thread). One thing I always believe in is being honest with people. Just tell her you swing. Explain your rules to her. If she is willing to abide by the rules, then play away. If she doesn't then you are all at least on the same page and you can go about your business. And please don't assume because she is starting menopause she can't get pregnant. That is not an on/off switch, it is a process. She may well be able to get pregnant and chances of a disabled child are quite high.
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We will play with bi guys, but only the MF part.
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preggers
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Experienced Swingers: Would you swing with newbies?
Vjklander replied to L&K's topic in Polls & Never-Ending Threads
Newbies are good.- 104 replies
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And Junior High, and Elementary School. Well, not IN the school, but at the time.
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I believe it might just be that is why showers were invented.
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Single female mostly interested in females. How to start?
Vjklander replied to Vanchoc's topic in Swinging Solo
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Men: Are you Bi-curious, Bi-sexual, or just plain sexual?
Vjklander replied to olycouple's topic in Bisexual Swingers
I think the disease excuse is just a cop-out. We are nudists, so naked people of any persuasion doesn't make any difference. I'm not against M-M play, I just don't find it arousing to me. Just like I'm not aroused by all F, F-F, M-F etc. When playing MFMF or MFM etc, incidental contact is no harm, no foul.- 60 replies
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Difficulty cumming during oral - male
Vjklander replied to tittietwister's topic in Let's Talk About Sex
With vaginal sex or masturbation there is a lot of 'pressure contact' on the whole penis, with oral sex there generally is only at the lips or deep in the throat. So deep throating typically will result in quicker orgasms. Also, when the male is directing the activity he knows how to build to an orgasm, whereas the female will often redirect the buildup away from climax. That can be a + or a - depending on what she is trying to do of course, but if she is trying to get him off it delays orgasm. It helps a lot if the female really enjoys giving head. If she doesn't and is just doing it to please the man they both will know it and performance suffers. The female needs to be 100% tuned into the man. She has to be aware of his responses to her ministrations. There is nothing guaranteed here. Try sucking in so the sides of the cheeks clench on the penis. If you have a good angle, press the penis against the roof of your mouth with your tongue. This gives a lot of pressure and feels great, but risks scraping the penis with your upper teeth if the angle is not up and in. Another alternative is to use the hand(s) to stroke the shaft of the penis and just suckle the head. This also feels fantastic and the stroking can be done by the woman or the man himself. The man can also just masturbate until he is on the brink of coming and then the woman can suck him through his orgasm. It helps tremendously if the woman swallows. The difference in sensation is so great, any more, I don't even bother if a woman doesn't swallow. If you really really want to give mind blowing head, locate your local BDSM group and sign up for a class on fellatio given by a gay guy. Believe me, you will not be disappointed.- 33 replies
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Swinger Lifestyle myths and misconceptions, what have you discovered?
Vjklander replied to iapr's topic in Swingers Talk
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This kind of plays into a favorite saying of mine: "Life is uncertain, eat dessert first" We have a Ramada near us that has a large indoor pool with an attached hot tub. There are plenty of eateries nearby, including a Hooters right around the corner. So, it is somewhat typical of us to have a go-round first, then hit the pool/tub for a bit and then go for dinner or call in. Then we are good to party for the rest of the night.
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How often do you masturbate & when?
Vjklander replied to JustAskJulie's topic in Let's Talk About Sex
Volunteer at your local Veteran's Center. There will be plenty of money to go around, this being an election year, but long term, there is no substitute for the TIME of people who care.- 65 replies
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