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Here is the question , how many experienced swingers will consider meeting with a couple that is new to swinging ? I want to see if the responses here corrolate with our experince so far Marv & Sue -
For some reason we have had a rash of newbies contacting us and wanting to meet over the last couple weeks. I posted a few days ago about one of the couples and now two more have made legitimate offers and in chatting quite a bit with them, everything seems to be on the up-and-up. We have not been newbie hunters in the past and most of the people we have gotten involved with have been more-less equal to or greater in experience than us. When it comes to newbies we are pretty, well...newbies. The recent ones appear to be very attractive and very similar in background and preferences as us and we are sincerely interested but we don't want blow it by freaking them out nor do we want to go so slow that they lose interest and move on without an honest attempt. So I guess what I am looking for is some down to earth advice and insight on going out with newbs. I don't know if I even have any specific questions, we are just looking for some pointers and words of wisdom on how to deal with complete newbs and how to put them at ease enough that they aren't running for the hills but at the same time give things a chance to happen so that we don't waste what little time we have playing nurse-maid to wannabes that may never develop (I hope that made sense). I guess what I am saying is we want to make some friends and playmates as opposed to finding some students that we want to mentor. If you are a newbie yourself, how would you like to be treated so that you don't freak out or get turned off/scared away? What would put you at ease so that you are comfortable in exploring your interests with a couple that has had some experience and are a bit more self aware? And if you are an experienced swinger that has a background in dealing with newbs, what advice and wisdom would you offer? We are open to any ideas and advice. -
So I was talking to some of my lifestyle friends today on the phone and I happened to mention this other couple that we often play with and the guy I was speaking with was quick to express his dislike for them. After inquiring why he did not approve of them he told me that they always swoop up the new couples in our area, and that there has been times when they have hooked up with people that he and his wife had been wanting to hook up with for a long time. After hanging up the phone I sat in a state of thought for a bit. What's the big deal? So they swoop up the new couples. We try to refrain from playing with extremely inexperienced couples anyway. We see them as possible time bombs. So what if they have interest in the same people and got to them first? Instead of speaking badly about them I think it speaks highly of their character personally. So they are charismatic, outgoing, and people are attracted to them. If a couple gets to a couple we wanted to play with before us we don't get upset we find another couple to play with or we play with each other. After all isn't swinging defined as "no strings attached sex" with other people? I think some people take this way too seriously and way too personally. I have never seen swinging as a competition. Do you guys have any instances where you have felt this way, or have seen people act dramatic over being "cock blocked"? Do you guys agree or disagree with my opinions? Please discuss.
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