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Some stats on the swinging world. Interesting that a slim majority (50.2%) of men now identify as bi. 65.8% in the 18-39 age group. I think the days of that being a closeted thing in the swinger world are coming to an end. Also surprised me that 80.5% were soft swap only. https://swingershelp.com/swinger-survey-results-2022/ And they also provide a list of most popular swinging sites in various cities. https://swingershelp.com/popular-swinging-dating-sites/
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I've discovered recently (thanks to my husband) that masturbation can be a great way to wake up... kinda like a good jolt of caffeine, so when I'm laying in bed in the morning not wanting to get up, I try to rub myself awake. Occasionally, I'll just get horny and Pet's not around so I will masturbate then as well (and sometimes we masturbate together). So what about you? How often do you masturbate? Is it a daily thing? Just once in a while? And don't even try to tell us never! LOL.
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We saw a poll on this broken down by ages but were curious as to how it would break down by sex. If there isn't an exact match for you give a long term average.
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Masturbation even has health benefits, like reducing stress so it is normal to masturbate.
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I just read a statistic (and you know how accurate they are) that 50% of couples in the lifestyle have sex 4 or more times per week... We typically "monkey around" 5 or more... We laugh about how weird we are when one of us wants to take the night off... I'm not complaining... Anyway - my question would have made a great poll, except I have no idea how to do something so technical (I have just managed to figure out fishing for ants with a stick.). Is the average dorrect? Granted, couples with small kids or big kids who are high drama/traffic/maintainence might have trouble finding THAT much alone time. But I am curious about the rest of us. And do you think it has anything to do with being involved in swinging, or is the opposite true - that you are involved in swinging because you had a highly charged sex life before hands. I'd vote for that, since we have actually "settled" into a 5 time per week pattern... We have always been highly active sexually and see swinging as more of a "spill over". Anyway - what are the REAL stats? Spoomonkey -
For veteran swingers, how often do you swing, swap? How many different partners do you have in a swing "event"? Also how do you add an avatar? Having difficulty there.
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On average, how often have you played with other swingers. Full swap, soft swap, it doesn’t matter. Not counting the times you only play with your SO, of course. Or yourself!
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Hi all. Need advice or perspectives. My boyfriend and I wanted and had an open relationship from the beginning. I stopped wanting to have sex with other people for my own reasons but didn't mind that he still hooked up with others. But now that we've been together for awhile he doesn't want to have sex with me as much as he used to. I know its normal for sex frequency to decline after the "honeymoon phase" so I guess that's to be expected. He says he didn't want to have sex any more often with his ex girlfriends when he was monogamous in long term relationships. Trouble is, it's a lot less often than I want it. It started bothering me that he'd turn me down often while always on the lookout for new people. I know novelty has its own appeal and doesn't necessarily have anything to do with me, but it was still bothering me so we closed the relationship. Closing the relationship didn't make him any more interested in sex with me than he was before. If anything, maybe a little less. So I don't know if I should look at this like any other couple with a mismatched sex drive which having sex with other people has nothing to do with, thereby making the restriction pointless and maybe even counterproductive? Or maybe if he does continue to have sex with others he'll be less motivated to put effort into our sex life over time? I think I might end up resentful about the attention he gives others but I'm not even sure that's rational IF it's not actually taking anything away from me. Then again maybe it'd just be unfair that I'm sexually frustrated and he's getting extra. Or maybe that's not unfair because I could be with others and choose not to. He really wants to do swinging with me but I find it too aggravating because we've never agreed on people and had it work out. Then I've ended up upset from getting the overall impression he's not interested in me unless other people are involved, but hes just got a thing for group play. I just want a decent sex life with my own partner and not let all this cause unnecessary issues but I feel bit guilty asking for monogamy because it kinda goes against the original terms of our relationship. -
I masturbate at least 3 times a day. This isn't a number I set out to make, but I often will take a whole weekend off and can masturbate up to about ten times a day. How much do you masturbate? Do you think it's ok to masturbate as much as I do?
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We've been into swinging almost a year now. Wife gets more prospects then I do, married and single. She is way much more open to the swinging than I am. We have had, soft play, swap same room and a threesome MMF. We have not found the couple that interests us both. Either the male half is not to her liking or the female half is not interested in me. How do I get over the anxiety of her getting or wanting single play?
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How many times a month do you guys swing? Does anyone swing without their partner? If so, does the other partner know this?
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We seem to have hit it off great with the first guy we met. Wrote him a thank you email the next morning and we've discussed getting together again. We would very much like him to be a regular part of our experiences. But we are wondering at this point, if there is someone you see regularly, how often is that? We don't want to come on too strongly or seem pushy or anything, but we don't want to seem disinterested at the same time. Also, he's someone who likes the idea of FWB which in his case is fine with us, but where do you draw the line between sending friendly emails to check in and IM'ing as coming off as obsessed? With the IM I usually wait for the guy to initiate the conversation unless I have something we might need to discuss, but again I don't want to seem disinterested.
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So we see this a lot, the "we aren't bed post notchers" or "we don't want bed hoppers". But what is it that TO YOU defines these terms. I feel like these are terms that are different for everyone. While to me personally, they mean people who jump from partner to partner with no desire to do repeat business or to necessarily even see those partners again. However, when I read those words in a profile, I don't reply to the profile because I'm afraid that those who actually include those phrases in their profiles are strictly looking for "friends first" or perhaps just aren't really ready to swing at all (kind of along the lines of those who put "no drama" in their profiles tend to be the ones bringing it).
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Just wondering how often most of the people on the board actually play each month? Just curious.
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For those in the swinger lifestyle ,full-swap couples, we are curious to know your batting average. By that we mean out of the many sexual play sessions or encounters with other couples, one-on-one, swing/sex house parties, or, in couples' club setting, what fracton result in actually having sexual intercourse, or, an honest-to-goodness fuck session with your swap mates? Not having intercourse after sexual play could have many reasons, such as, you are turned off by your mate, male or female, or, the other participant couple/s, not getting or maintaining an erection, inability to penetrate your mate's vagina with your penis, female unable to accomodate your penis in her vagina (penis too big or too small), falling asleep while playing, sickness, etc. For the purpose of the poll we prefer to use the dictionary definition of sexual intercourse as the sexual play that takes place after the entry of the man's penis in your female partner's vagina. So, penetration and intimate contact between the penis and vagina is the key. Therefore, blow jobs, use of toys or dildos, eating pussy, mutual masturbation, etc., do not qualify as sexual intercourse. If you are a soft swinger ,and, do not have intercourse with someone other your own mate, your average batting average is zero. A group sex session at parties or clubs where you may end up fucking multiple partners in one night, counts as one out of one successful encounter. We are looking for overall batting average where you do end up having intercourse with your swap mate over an extended period of time. This period may be your entire swinging career. If you lost track give us your best guess. The choices are: 1. Zero intercourse sessions out of four. We are soft swingers. 2. One intercourse sessions out of four or 25%. 3. Two out of four or 50%. 4. Three out of four or 75%. 5. Four out of four, or, 100%. We will not play if no intercourse is contemplated.
