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So my girlfriend and I have dabble in threesomes in previous relationships and now we want to add some fun to ours, but there seems to be different rules between a ffm and mmf. She has set high limits between myself and interaction with another female. I can only receive oral and that’s it. When it comes to a mmf there is no rules and she wants it all. Should I respect her wishes as I feel I’m getting the short end in the pleasure with the ffm?
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To make a long story short...my wife and I considered swinging as a couple, my wife felt more comfortable "swinging" alone, ie. having more of an "open marriage". It was a bit of a stretch for me, but I said "OK, as long as we keep it all fair to each other." She's already had her first encounter with her cyber-BF, I'm still working to have my first encounter. (And yes, I know the open marriage approach works against me as far as sex goes, but works for me in terms of relationships with women....there's exposure on both sides, and I realize that.) She has lined up her second encounter already. Tonight we had an argument because she felt like I implied she'd already had an encounter to the female friend that I was pursuing (she's already discussed this female friend with her cyber-BF), and I told her that she needs to just cancel this second encounter until I've had my first. (I won't tell you what she said to that, but it was actually quite hurtful to me.) So, is this fair? In "conventional" swinging, you obviously don't have these kinds of issues...either you both play or neither play. We agreed in writing to be totally fair to each other and help each other line up encounters. She IS working to help me. I originally said "yes, go ahead with the 2nd encounter" because I truly want her to enjoy this and get what she wants and needs out of it, and I saw her working for me too. Now I'm questioning whether that was a good decision after her response to me about telling her I think she should cancel her 2nd encounter. Here's my main question: Is it fair for me to ask her to wait for me, or no? Post your thoughts please.
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Another thread got me thinking... I wish it hadn't because I get headaches easily when I do that Anyway - is it "unfair" for the married male to go "sans sheepskin" in a MFM with his wife while the single guy gloves up? Would it be more equitable to slide one on yourself? Should you reserve your tube-free love-making to your bedroom only - or is your wife's parts a free play zone for your "jungle Jim"? I hadn't really thought of this - and have always simply saved my condoms for another day when a threesome presented itself, with my wife being the lone female in the room. But is this wrong? And single guys - how do you feel about being asked to "glove up" when the action starts and the mister is still "feeling the breeze, au naturale"? We had a single guy once who, after discussing the fact that we only play with condoms, try to go in commando. I wrote it off as a "heat of the moment" mistake - but oddly, he couldn't get it up after my stern reminder. Could he have been confused by the "double standard" that I was presenting? I think I know how this thread will go - but who knows - I could be surprised. Either way, it should make an interesting topic. Spoomonkey
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We've been into swinging almost a year now. Wife gets more prospects then I do, married and single. She is way much more open to the swinging than I am. We have had, soft play, swap same room and a threesome MMF. We have not found the couple that interests us both. Either the male half is not to her liking or the female half is not interested in me. How do I get over the anxiety of her getting or wanting single play?
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Mr Hitch and I have discussed the LS at length and it's amazingly freeing.... About safe sex... Mr Hitch is 'fixed' (his words) and we are STD free (getting checked at the next appt so I can have something that proves it, just in case) so I thought he should be able to play bare, if it's okay with the other person/couple. Due to a blood clot after knee surgery, I'm not allowed to be on birth control (going off was the best thing that ever happened to me) and I think I'm still fertile-ish. I'm 48 so Aunt Flo isn't always a visitor, but I don't want to find out the very bad way that going bare was a bad idea. My question, is it fair to the other him of the couple that Mr Hitch gets to go condom free? I'm fine with him doing so, but will the other couple have a problem with it? I know you all are not every couple, but I'd love your thoughts... Thanks!
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My observation, after watching lifestyle couples for eight years, is that the happiest and most successful do not expect swing to be a you-get-one-I-get-one process. No expectation of even-Steven. I, for example, am satisfied in the knowledge that my wife is having more fun than I. I'm having quite enough fun and that's all I need.
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Over the last couple days, I've read threads where the female half of a couple has enjoyed a swinging experience, and relayed their good fortune to those of us on the board. In at least two of these threads, there has been a response along the lines of "What about your husband? Does he get to do what you did too?" So, I'm wondering: Couples, do any of you keep score? If she gets an MFM, does he have to get an FMF in order to keep it even? If he plays alone one night, does that mean she gets to do the same thing before any other activities can take place? These are general examples, and specific replies to these instances are not expected. I'm just looking for a general "Do you keep score?", and how's that working out for you?
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Hello everyone! Well, our name says it all - we are a curious couple looking for information and possibly some great new experiences in our lives A little while ago, I shared some fantasys with Mrs Curious about watching her giving a blow-job to another guy while I watch. One avenue we have considered is going to a well-known on-premise lifestyle club and testing the waters that way. Of course if it was a single guy we both agreed on there wouldn't be a big issue, but if we meet a couple that we click with, would it be okay to ask that only Mrs Curious and the other guy interact with each other (while I and the other gal just watch)? Would this be an out-of-line request, or does it just depend on the other half? Thanks for any words of wisdom! curiousNWcouple
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I'm not sure if this is what you would call double standards...but we were talking last night about gangbangs and orgies. I was just curious why it would be sooooo easy for a female to have either one but yet if a male put in an ad looking for females to do an orgy with it would be impossible!
