What intimate acts do you reserve just for you and your partner?

keila · 06-17-2003, 04:57 PM

Intercourse without condom, no anal, and only French kiss the ladies.

steuge · 07-17-2004, 10:09 AM

I would reserved french kiss, and penile-vaginal sex without condom for intimate partner only.

I rephrase the questions
What acts are reserved for your intimate partner? and
What acts would you like your intimate partner to reserve for you?

lauriern · 09-02-2004, 04:45 PM

People with the kissing thing are an automatic "Danger, Will Robinson."

robnbarb · 09-02-2004, 05:20 PM

Been thinking about this alot.

Definatly intercourse without a condom (plus that can be dangerous)

Cuddling and snuggleing afterwards would be bad (not a simple hug and kiss in the afterglow, I mean lying together for about 20 min).

all I have been able to come up with.

zebrahead7557 · 09-03-2004, 01:26 PM

Intercourse without a condom. That is way too much sharing.

I always tell my husband that he bought the cow, so he can drink milk from the carton & that unless another woman wants to take care of him when he is sick, do our housework, put up with the uncouth inlaws & all of that non-sexual "wife-stuff" everyday, maybe she can have some of his "naturalness"

KarlnRenee · 09-08-2004, 08:07 PM

I voted for vaginal without a condom and anal........those are reserved just for him.

Avantgarden38 · 09-09-2004, 01:11 PM

Gosh, looking over this list and the posts we have done everything most people consider too intimate. Including the use of the "L" word.

We have been swinging with one couple for two years. It just isn't in me to play with a woman a hundred times and not feel something. I have hugged her and told her I love her. The word love needs to be divided into at least a dozen sub-categories in my opinion. Of course I don't love her the same as my wife, or my mom, or a nice motorcycle, or chocolate cake, or riding in a convertible, or summer vacation, or. . . . . . . you get the idea.

My wife and I are 40 years old and have been together 25 of those years. The thought of reserving something just for us never crossed our minds. I suppose we have such a sense of comfort with each other that sharing something physical with someone else just isn't an issue.

Either that, or we are just free-love-hippie-sluts.

dave110256 · 10-12-2004, 07:54 AM

kissing is a must during intercourse..........but cumming in my wife without a condom isn't going to happen with anyone but me. STD's are too common nowadays.....

Divemaster · 10-14-2004, 11:03 PM

I am surprised by the amount of people who have the "kissing" rule. Kissing to me is so much a part of hot sex. Thats like saying "sex=love" or "kissing=intimacy" I disagree with both these terms. Love is in the heart, and intimacy is in the mind.

Joe

BettyAnnMBSC · 10-15-2004, 10:17 AM

any pressure for 1:1 private time or "dating"

sensuality · 10-15-2004, 12:13 PM

Betty Ann and Avant Garden...love your avatars...

And, absolutely...there should be no 1:1 or pressure to actually date!

Can you imagine someone even trying that?But, you'd be surprised!!

Katie_and_Mark · 01-08-2005, 11:44 PM

Wow its hard for us to have any relations with our swaps without kissing. We checked it all ok. WE typically use condoms but there have been couples that we have not used them with because of the relationship we have with them.

As a matter of fact we have turned couples down for meeting because of their lack of willingness to kiss. Its hard for us to understand how someone can go down male or female and not be willing to kiss the man or women they did it on. Nothing wrong with them just not our cup of tea, if they cant kiss me or my wife than we prefer to find someone who will. We swing to swing and to us that means everything as long as everyone is comfortable going in. I will say this I never, never do anal on another women unless they ask me to. As far as my wifes ass, its hers and I let her make that decision which she will or wont depending on the man and how he treats her..... facelick. We make love at home and we have fun when we swap so for us the intimacy is all about the attitude and the heart behind it

Mich149 · 01-25-2005, 06:03 PM

Okay, this is going to sound odd, but in one situation or another, all of the above have been okay with us. The one thing that I can't handle however, is hand holding. I found this out quite by accident and since it's the one rule that is steadfast, we don't even think twice about it, but most people end up laughing at me. lol

Spoomonkey · 01-25-2005, 06:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mich149

The one thing that I can't handle however, is hand holding.

Wow!

I totally agree! PDA for me... I just don't like it when we are out with friends. But, Mrs Spoo and I are on the same page about that, so it is never an issue. Ihear people talk about it, though and it does make me cringe...

Spoomonkey

**good times** · 01-25-2005, 06:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mich149

The one thing that I can't handle however, is hand holding.

I never thought of this before, but I think that would bother me too.

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French Kissing	229	20.03%
Masturbation / Mutual Masturbation	48	4.20%
Oral Sex performed on him	53	4.64%
Oral Sex performed on her	50	4.37%
Vaginal intercourse - with condoms	85	7.44%
Vaginal intercourse - without condoms	513	44.88%
Anal intercourse (with or without condoms)	513	44.88%
Other (post in the comments)	37	3.24%
None - we have no restrictions with other playmates	296	25.90%
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07-17-2004, 10:09 AM	#17 (permalink)
steuge Registered Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 9 Location: Malaysia Status: Single Male	What acts are reserved for "intimate" partners I would reserved french kiss, and penile-vaginal sex without condom for intimate partner only. I rephrase the questions What acts are reserved for your intimate partner? and What acts would you like your intimate partner to reserve for you?

09-02-2004, 04:45 PM	#18 (permalink)
lauriern Here to Stay Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 50 Location: virginia Status: M. Female	Re: How intimate is too intimate? People with the kissing thing are an automatic "Danger, Will Robinson."

09-02-2004, 05:20 PM	#19 (permalink)
robnbarb Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 143 Location: Kentucky Status: Couple	Re: How intimate is too intimate? Been thinking about this alot. Definatly intercourse without a condom (plus that can be dangerous) Cuddling and snuggleing afterwards would be bad (not a simple hug and kiss in the afterglow, I mean lying together for about 20 min). all I have been able to come up with.

06-17-2003, 04:57 PM	#16 (permalink)
keila Active Member Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 26 Location: Houston, TX Status: Single Female SLS Name:keila	Intercourse without condom, no anal, and only French kiss the ladies.

09-03-2004, 01:26 PM	#20 (permalink)
zebrahead7557 Active Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 24 Location: GA Status: Couple	Re: How intimate is too intimate? Intercourse without a condom. That is way too much sharing. I always tell my husband that he bought the cow, so he can drink milk from the carton & that unless another woman wants to take care of him when he is sick, do our housework, put up with the uncouth inlaws & all of that non-sexual "wife-stuff" everyday, maybe she can have some of his "naturalness"

09-08-2004, 08:07 PM	#21 (permalink)
KarlnRenee Active Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 30 Location: Metro NY/DFW, TX Status: Female Half of Couple SLS Name:KarlnRenee	Re: How intimate is too intimate? I voted for vaginal without a condom and anal........those are reserved just for him.

09-09-2004, 01:11 PM	#22 (permalink)
Avantgarden38 Active Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 69 Location: Pottstown, Pa Status: Together for 25 of our 40 years on THIS planet. SLS Name:Avantgarden38	Re: How intimate is too intimate? Gosh, looking over this list and the posts we have done *everything* most people consider too intimate. Including the use of the "L" word. We have been swinging with one couple for two years. It just isn't in me to play with a woman a hundred times and not feel something. I have hugged her and told her I love her. The word love needs to be divided into at least a dozen sub-categories in my opinion. Of course I don't love her the same as my wife, or my mom, or a nice motorcycle, or chocolate cake, or riding in a convertible, or summer vacation, or. . . . . . . you get the idea. My wife and I are 40 years old and have been together 25 of those years. The thought of reserving something just for us never crossed our minds. I suppose we have such a sense of comfort with each other that sharing something physical with someone else just isn't an issue. Either that, or we are just free-love-hippie-sluts. __________________ "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." ~ Mark Twain Last edited by Avantgarden38 : 09-09-2004 at 01:13 PM.

10-12-2004, 07:54 AM	#23 (permalink)
dave110256 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 299 Location: Maine Status: Couple SLS Name:dave110256	Re: How intimate is too intimate? kissing is a must during intercourse..........but cumming in my wife without a condom isn't going to happen with anyone but me. STD's are too common nowadays.....

10-14-2004, 11:03 PM	#24 (permalink)
Divemaster Active Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 11 Location: Baker, FL Status: Single Male SLS Name:Divemaster561	Re: How intimate is too intimate? I am surprised by the amount of people who have the "kissing" rule. Kissing to me is so much a part of hot sex. Thats like saying "sex=love" or "kissing=intimacy" I disagree with both these terms. Love is in the heart, and intimacy is in the mind. Joe

10-15-2004, 10:17 AM	#25 (permalink)
BettyAnnMBSC Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 261 Location: Myrtle Beach South Carolina Status: F half of bi cpl	Re: How intimate is too intimate? any pressure for 1:1 private time or "dating" __________________ ~~~~~ N'essayez jamais d'enseigner un porc à chanter. Il perd votre temps et gêne le porc.

10-15-2004, 12:13 PM	#26 (permalink)
sensuality Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 298 Location: california Status: happily,ecstatically married	Re: How intimate is too intimate? Betty Ann and Avant Garden...love your avatars... And, absolutely...there should be no 1:1 or pressure to actually date! Can you imagine someone even trying that?But, you'd be surprised!! __________________ To truly see beauty, close your eyes...and see with your heart....mois

01-08-2005, 11:44 PM	#27 (permalink)
Katie_and_Mark Active Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 10 Location: Texas Status: Couple SLS Name:Katie_and_Mark	Re: How intimate is too intimate? Wow its hard for us to have any relations with our swaps without kissing. We checked it all ok. WE typically use condoms but there have been couples that we have not used them with because of the relationship we have with them. As a matter of fact we have turned couples down for meeting because of their lack of willingness to kiss. Its hard for us to understand how someone can go down male or female and not be willing to kiss the man or women they did it on. Nothing wrong with them just not our cup of tea, if they cant kiss me or my wife than we prefer to find someone who will. We swing to swing and to us that means everything as long as everyone is comfortable going in. I will say this I never, never do anal on another women unless they ask me to. As far as my wifes ass, its hers and I let her make that decision which she will or wont depending on the man and how he treats her..... facelick. We make love at home and we have fun when we swap so for us the intimacy is all about the attitude and the heart behind it

01-25-2005, 06:03 PM	#28 (permalink)
Mich149 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 323 Location: Detroit, MI Status: On the Prowl - lol SLS Name:mich149	Re: How intimate is too intimate? Okay, this is going to sound odd, but in one situation or another, all of the above have been okay with us. The one thing that I can't handle however, is hand holding. I found this out quite by accident and since it's the one rule that is steadfast, we don't even think twice about it, but most people end up laughing at me. lol

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