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- Birthday 11/01/1966
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2inSanDiego4u started following Did you BabyStep it, or just Dive In?, Depression, Libido, Swinging, Feeling Left Out While She Plays and and 6 others
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Feeling Left Out While She Plays
2inSanDiego4u replied to lucky & unlucky's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
This... You need to set some ground rules that are acceptable to both of you. Otherwise, this just isn't going to work for you I'm afraid. -
Good for you! Sounds like you had a blast!
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Depression, Libido, Swinging
2inSanDiego4u replied to happilyplayful's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
If she's on AD drugs such as Cymbalta or Prozac, taking 240mg of Ginko Biloba a day is supposed to really help. Here is a medical abstract from the University of California about the study they conducted: Ginkgo biloba for antidepressant-induced sexual dy... [J Sex Marital Ther. 1998 Apr-Jun] - PubMed result Always check with your primary care physician first, of course.- 16 replies
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First of all, I'm so very sorry this happened to both of you. It seems so complex, with all the external forces at play (job loss, finances, death in the family, etc.) However, I get the impression that even if Mr. & Mrs. Van didn't introduce their friends to the LS, that Mr. Van may have STILL fallen in love with her best friend and left. It would have just taken more time. The LS may have just acted as a catalyst and helped things develop faster. I could be barking up the wrong tree here, but in reading between the lines it is not that hard to see. Mrs. Van -- I would suggest getting some therapy like you've been doing, for as long as it takes. Also consider taking an anti-depressant. Cymbalta is very good. There is no generic version so it tends to be pricey. Your primary care physician can help you choose the right one. Ask for samples; they will usually give you a 30-day supply.
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Inviting a vanilla friend to the bedroom, thoughts?
2inSanDiego4u replied to wandj10's topic in Finding People to Swing With
LOL, eye contact and a little smile will do the trick, for sure!- 15 replies
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Inviting a vanilla friend to the bedroom, thoughts?
2inSanDiego4u replied to wandj10's topic in Finding People to Swing With
Like others have said, the fact that he is in a relationship now makes it more difficult to justify morally. Cheating on an exclusive girlfriend is not a good thing IMHO. In your situation, I would tell him that you are in the Lifestyle. Maybe have him over for beers and BBQ. After a few beers you can tell him that the two of you have had this little secret, and that since he's such a great friend you'd like to share it with him. I would have your wife present when you do this; share the secret as a couple. Then let him react, ask questions, etc. What you are doing here is planting a seed in his mind. It WILL grow and someday your fantasy of an MFM with him will come true.- 15 replies
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I'm trying to locate people in my area on this site. but your the closest I've found so far. would you be willing to meet with an older gent. I don't know if you are into single men or not just taking a chance. You have posted some interesting comments and your the kind of people I'm seeking.
Joe
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3 strikes and you're out... Meeting a couple
2inSanDiego4u replied to a topic in Adventures in Swinging
Great post! It's nice to have a single guy here who gets it! BTW, Starbucks is our meeting place of choice too. We used to do lunches/dinners, but after a few of those that seemed to go on forever with people we had no attraction to whatsoever, coffee or drinks is all we'll do now for the first meet.- 13 replies
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Did you BabyStep it, or just Dive In?
2inSanDiego4u replied to JustAskJulie's topic in Curious About Swinging?
We also dove in, head first! Full swap from the get-go! Haven't looked back since! -
That's definitely been hard for us. We also like to maintain friendships with people we like, and we've found that many couples do not like to do that.
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Top 10 Stupid Things to Do in Swinging
2inSanDiego4u replied to JustAskJulie's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
IMO the stupidest thing anyone can do in swinging is to play when there are problems in the marriage/at home. We just heard of another couple we know who split up, and they'd only been swinging a few months. -
How many times have you been perved?
2inSanDiego4u replied to JustAskJulie's topic in Finding People to Swing With
"Viewed 6204 times total within the last 30 days." Staying logged in as much as possible will get you A LOT more views... -
If they invited you back to their place, they should have had extra condoms available IMO. We've never been over to anyone's house who didn't have them AND offer them to us.