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Everyone on this board is at a grade level. I'm sure many of you have changed your status since joining the board. When you first joined the board what category were you compared to now? I joined this site about 18 months ago and really didn't know much about the lifestyle. I knew what the general public knows (that couples invite others into their sex life) but not about all the other aspects of swinging or the type of people that actually swing. I have discovered most are just like us and have average vanilla lives except for the sex thing. We have gone from a HS Freshman to now a HS Senior. I know I should have name the thread "Stupid Analogy Poll".
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Most standout event/fantasy fulfilled during your time in the lifestyle?
Guest posted a topic in Adventures in Swinging
What's the event or moment that stands out in your memory the most while swinging- or, the most exciting fantasy that you got to see fulfilled? For me (Mr. T), it was getting to watch Mrs. C share a double ended dildo with another lovely woman and listening to the both of them orgasm at the same time- several times, in fact. -
Have any of you guys been intimidated when a women talks about her sexual past? We met a couple recently that we were considering swinging with, they were nice and very attractive. We went to dinner first to get to know each other a little bit. She started talking about swinging and said that they had been in the lifestyle about 5 years. Then she started talking about her college days and how she had orgies and sex parties almost every weekend, how she must have slept with at least 200 guys in college and another hundred or more since they started swinging. After dinner my hubby told me that he didn't know if he could perform with her, trying to live up to her past and all that. We have been with several couples and a few guys and he never had a problem but just didn't think it would work with her even though she was very attractive (so was the guy). Maybe she exaggerated or maybe not, but she really intimidated him. If she hadn't talked about it so much I think everything would have been fine. Has anyone else had this happen? -
I'm new here, visited this site because my wife and i are open with having sex with other people and done so some in the past. When I was still young i thought i would only marry a woman that had been only with me. Then after i found out that my fiance had screwed another guy i thought it was OK, or even hot. But overall she had fewer partners than me. Later, both my first wife and my now wife have both had more partners than me, my first wife a few more but then she fucked other guys while we were engaged and married, and my current wife a LOT more. so my attitude has changed considerable since I was young and first dating. My question is- Before you got married did you have any limits about how many previous sex partners your wife had that would be too many? Women are welcome to contribute too. Thanks to all of you.
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This is me on the outside looking in. I will try to describe this situation as best I can. I have some swinger friends who have a single male friend whom the husband of the couple I am friends with has been friends with since childhood. The situation lies with the single male friend. What's funny to me is that when he's single he is a very active swinger. He tends though to date vanilla girls. He claims that he is completely monogamous when he dates. (but of course has a lifetime membership to one of the swinger websites) He is now in what I would call a serious relationship. He has been dating the same girl for about a year. She is completely in love with him and of course they spend a good amount of time with my friends. The girlfriend sees my friend (the wife of the couple) as a good friend and confidant. What I have failed to mention so far is that yes the single male and my friends have had a swinging relationship. It did stop when he became involved with the girl. The single male friend (knowing that the girlfriend may hear some conversations that would leave her scratching her head) outs my friends as swingers to his girlfriend but of course leaves out the "minor" detail that he is as well. You know kind of running damage control so that she won't think anything of some off color conversation that she may overhear. Here is my question. They have chosen to keep their involvement with each other a secret from her. This is just my opinion, but I would feel wrong being a confidant and close friend of someone that I had such a big secret to hide from them. I would not want the worrying all the time that someone would reveal our secret (my friend likes to mix her vanilla and swinger friends at vanilla parties). Why leave a bomb like that waiting to go off at any moment? Tell the truth, get it out there so she can decide whether it's something she can deal with and move on. I feel sorry for this girl at times because know I would probably feel like a fool if everyone knew this but me and I found out after my relationship had been serious for a while. I hope ya'll were able to get the situation I was trying to describe. I am curious to see what the majority thinks on this. -
This quote is from the thread on "How many Partners have you had?" Rather than continue to take that thread in a direction away from its original intent, I thought this would make for an interesting discussion. I, for one, a) would not want to find out that I was on anyone's written record of who they have slept with. As a response in the other thread said, what if someone (who should not) were to come upon said list. What if you pissed off someone and they found your list only to opt to not only hurt you but everyone you've contacted? b) I can say with fair certainty that I could never make such an accurate list, for the simple reason of many of those that I have had sex with I don't know the last names of (let alone their addresses or other contact information). So should there be an issue where my past partners would need to be contacted, I (and moreso they I guess) would be in trouble. I would like to ask what others think and feel about this. As an issue of responsibility, I do see Pairbond's point. But, at the same time, isn't that a risk that we all take, to one degree or another? Do you keep any sort of a list of those you have had sexual contact with? If so, why (is it for responsibility reasons as Pairbond mentioned or for some other reason).
