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Awhile back, angelkin posted a thread about age and bareback sex. It made me wonder if something similar happens to those who consider polyamory. Just as sometimes life experiences have opened the eyes of some couples (in terms of mortality, the limitations of how much time we have, etc.) when it comes to exploring swinging, I wonder if it might awaken the possibility of having more than one love at the same time.

 

Frightening life experiences don't even have to occur, sometimes when one has spent at least half a century on Earth, their minds can contemplate avenues not previously explored. We see this manifest in taking dance/piano/cooking lessons when in retirement. Sometimes others face their fears (like going parachuting) or create a bucket list.

 

For those who are older (or feel older), do you find yourself more open to poly or at least more open to emotional attachments with others besides your significant other?

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I certainly feel older and that has made me more adventurous, both sexually and non-sexually. I had a FWB that I was seeing quite frequently and I thought I was ready for more than just sex. But it's the unknown that pulled me back. Or may be it's the fear of loss of control. What if I do get emotionally attached to someone else and either I can't handle it or it takes something away from my marriage. I was afraid to find out, so I didn't.

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Speaking only for myself, my emotions (love, hate, jealousy, envy, lust) had dulled with time. I might have been more receptive to polyamory had I been presented with the concept and the freedom to become engaged with it earlier in life.

 

I am one of those people who is not able to detach sex from emotion. But I have never come close to feeling love for anybody but the woman I see every day. Love requires maintenance. My scientific sense tells me that a love response is biological rather than spiritual. Those love juices, whatever they might be, need more and more renewal all the time.

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I don't think age is as much a factor as personality. I've known two successful poly groups (where success is defined as staying together for a long period of time without more than a usual amount of drama). One was in their late 40s/early 50s and the other is in their mid 20s.

 

I think what I have gained with age isn't the willingness to try poly, but rather the experience and mindset to do it successfully.

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