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jjtrindc last won the day on October 10 2008

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About jjtrindc

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  • Birthday 01/18/1970

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  1. Julie - It really is amazing to come across a site as comprehensive as this and realize that it all pretty much comes down to the dedication of one person. I do communications work for a profession and it's a heck of a lot of work and can take up more hours than exist in a day. I think your site is a real resource whether you are a newbie, experienced or somewhere in between. Thank you!
  2. Coordinating between our vanilla and swinger lives is a constant challenge. So many sexy couples out there, so little time. We finally got a sitter for Saturday night, but unfortunately couldn't coordinate with ANY of the couples we had been corresponding with. We decided to try out Tabu for the first time and had a great time! My beautiful bride and I spend most of the time with each other on the dance floor. A bad habit for us as swingers is that we tend to get so into each other we rarely do the meet and greet thing. Ended the night in the group room and shared a bed with a very sexy eastern european couple who we had complimented earlier in the evening. She was wearing a very sexy silver dress. While we didn't swap, a little light touching between the four of us really enhanced the whole experience. We put on quite the show for each other. Even got a nice kiss from the unicorn on the next bed while doing my wife from behind. Long trek home but well worth it. Even had enough in us for another go at 3am and super loud orgasm by my wife. Glad we didn't wake the kids (or the neighbors). We'll be back Tabu crowd...we'll be back!
  3. We've had similar conversations, and sometimes I can tell my wife is nervous if the wife of the couple we are meeting is really tiny...but I remind her constantly she is by beauty and my sex goddess otherwise we wouldn't have been together and married for 20+ years. The lifestyle is all about meeting new people with different interests, different body types, and different sizes...it's a venerable box of chocolates. Time to eat!
  4. All good advice here, but have to say that we totally know where you are coming from. So often we go to clubs and get so into each other, dancing, making out, etc, that we never end up playing with others. We often get comments from other couples about how it looks like we are having so much fun together. It's not that we are against playing or anything, but its not our priority. We still go home with big smiles on our faces At the end of the day, go and enjoy the sexy vibe and each other. Let the rest happen when you are ready.
  5. I agree with the other respondents. The real issue here isn't swinging. Take that out of the equation and ask yourselves whether you want to be friends with someone who is bad mouthing others (and now you) behind their backs. Take the high road and leave the baggage behind!
  6. One place we would suggest is a place like Desire. Last time we went, the crowd we ended up hanging with was made up of swingers and nudists...but nobody actually used any labels. It was pretty easy to pick up on who were swingers and who were nudists by the type of vibe they put out. Key is to avoid going during a takeover which tends to be a much more sexual crowd. As for us, we deliberately picked a takeover crowd for our return to Desire Cancun...lol!
  7. As a couple with two small kids, it's great to get this perspective from the other side. We have a general rule about trying to exchange a few emails before meeting to try and get a general sense if we are comfortable with that couple, etc. That also gives us a chance to start exchanging potential dates so that we can find a sitter. If we are the ones taking the initiative, we'll generally say "hey, we're trying to get our sitter for X date" does that work for you? At least from our perspective we feel a bit guilty about asking couples without kids to plan for a playdate two or three weekends down the road. It can be a bit of a catch 22 with sitters and the lifestyle given the late nights, last minute meeting requests, making sure your sitter isn't already booked (a problem with the good ones). We are doubly challenged because we have absolutely no family around us to pitch in. We find the kids/no kids discussion similar to any other as it relates to respect and compatibility. For any couple, tolerance of kids (or not), boundaries, vanilla commitments, body types, attitudes, etc has to be there if there is any chance of true compatibility. If I may, I would like to throw out a website called "care.com" which has really been helpful in trying to find a sitter without going through postings at the local school or craigslist. Indeed, we've long felt that there must be a business opportunity here. There must be a market for a baby-sitting service for lifestyle couples ...especially if you teamed up with a local club and made sure you had a team available to handle of the parents. Any partners out there???
  8. To your credit, you already know the answer - talking about it! Key is to find some time outside of your busy day where you can be alone and have some quiet time to talk without distraction. Perhaps take her out for drinks. Perhaps just after you get into bed at night. There is no doubt that talking about it for the first time where its a serious possibility is a bit nerve racking. Most of us on this board have been there. Talk it out. Assure her that you are comfortable. Lay down some ground rules, etc. Also, don't necessarily consider the first conversation the "decision" maker. Talk over a few days so that it begins to settle in and you can discuss any other questions, thoughts, concerns that pop up. As to the potential playmate, some may caution about playing with friends. Hard to know what your relationship is with this particular person by your description, but something to consider. Don't want to ruin a good friendship over a lifestyle experience. Most of all, have fun!
  9. We have to agree with the original poster. As soon as a play situation seems to be diverting away from where you are uncomfortable, or you sense that your partner is uncomfortable, it's time to call for a quick timeout. At this point, you should be polite to the others involved, but if they are true lifestlyle people they will understand and not be offended. Everyone should want to make sure that everyone else is comfortable. If not, there is no reason to be playing with them. Now it's up to you whether MFM's are off the table, but that should happen after a long discussion with your wife. In a party situation, one partner can easily get so into the situation that they may not necessarily realize that there is a problem. We are giving your wife the benefit of the doubt there, but only you two will know the real situation after communicating about that scenario and your rules going forward. Good luck.
  10. When we first started, we were curious about the signals as well. For some couples it's literally hand gestures (kinda like signaling to steal second base)...for others it's a code phrase. We finally decided that for us it was just a bit too complicated and too easy for something to be misinterpreted. Having been together for so long, we generally have a pretty good idea of what each other is thinking. We also go into situations with a general understanding of our boundaries for that night. Ultimately, we find a way to talk privately to check in with each other whether that means going to have a dance or refreshing our drinks.
  11. For us, a night out at a club means babysitter, nice dinner, club fees ($40 on premise, upwards of $100 on premise). For us, it's our time...away from kids, jobs, life, etc. I doubt we'll be giving it up anytime soon, but can understand where others will cut back. Indeed, meeting a couple online and just having them over vs. the club scene means less $$. Ultimately, people need there own getaways so while I'm sure clubs will feel a pinch hopefully they will remain strong -- so support your club or you may find yourselves with less and less lifestyle options.
  12. There is a private group that does put together a party about once a year that features a 'glory hole' wall. This group is more, shall we say, action oriented. Never had a chance to attend. Intriguing yes, but does raise an interesting question about whether gh's are "appropriate" at swing clubs. Could make for fun contests like 'can you find your mate' - lol.
  13. Didn't you know that before you can officially be admitted into the swinger club that you have to walk outside on the coldest day of the year in nothing but your high heels? It's in the rule book. Section 32e. Of course, we all need a picture to verify. Once you get your membership card, a long trenchcoat is the way to go!
  14. That's what I call breaking the ice! And yes, for many of us, it can be hard to get to that next big step. But practice makes perfect (wink). For all you with Ipods or mp3 players, the couple that does the "swingercast" podcast just did a segment on this exact topic. We haven't had a chance to listen, but their podcasts are generally pretty entertaining. Check 'em out either at their website or via iTunes.
  15. Unfortunately a tough lesson to learn, but I'm sure most on this board probably had a bit too much fun in our parents house growing up that would have resulted in some awkward conversations had we been caught. We agree with the above posters, it's time to find your own place if that is doable. It will not only give you freedom in your sexual activities, but overall in terms of living life as an adult. It wasn't until I moved out (across the country actually), until I became my own person. As for your mom, only you can answer what kind of relationship you want with her. If you want to remain close, then you need to suck it up and apologize. You don't need to apologize for what you were doing, but that you showed disrespect for living in their house according to their rules. I would suggest doing that alone and then again with your g/f present.
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