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Sexinthetardis last won the day on November 29 2014
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Sexinthetardis started following Small party etiquette - lack of attraction, Texting/sexting with swing partners?, Swinger clubwear - sexy or degrading? and and 5 others
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Why are there so few male pics on SLS profiles?
Sexinthetardis replied to Shorecpl4u's topic in Finding People to Swing With
I find it confusing when people say "men aren't as sexy as the women" as a reason for the lopsided pics. Men are sexy to straight and bisexual women...well, at least they are when they're not hairy, wart-covered trolls with decayed teeth. Which I assume they are when they won't come off with a face pic -
Why didn't they say there was no chemistry sooner?
Sexinthetardis replied to robel12550's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
When we first started we were so bad at all the critical elements of swinging -- especially communication, both with each other and with other couples. The discomfort of potentially hurting people's feelings really got in our way of doing the right thing and being straight with them. A couple of times that meant we played when we really weren't terribly interested. A couple of times it meant we did a lousy job of letting people down. One couple in particular -- they were very friendly, a nice looking couple, we enjoyed meeting and having drinks with them. We were both attracted to her and I felt I should be attracted to him but I just wasn't. I kept thinking as I got to know him the attraction would build but it was the opposite, something about him just creeped me out. We let that play out longer than we should have until we just sort of skulked away hoping they wouldn't notice *eye roll* and I'm sure they found our signals very confusing and frustrating. We've learned to be honest with as much kindness and grace as we can, and just tell people when we don't feel that physically chemistry. Which does happen sometimes even when we truly enjoy their company socially. Having been at this a while we have also more than a few times been on the receiving end of those confusing and unclear signals ourselves and yes it's very annoying and we wished they would find the balls to just be honest. You have to be willing to read and accept people's nonverbal cues, generally they are conveying exactly what we need to know. -
For real, every time I glance at the title of this thread I suffer from an involuntary eye roll. Just had to get that out LOL
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That's great to hear Glida
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My libido seems to ebb and flow and while I can't say it's typical for all women, it seems rather common. Hubby says it's the same for him sometimes and his libido is way higher than mine usually. Just mentally so much can get in the way -- being tired, stressed from work, distracted, etc. Even working out, which we agree in theory is great for our sex lives, sometimes makes us feel too exhausted to bother. In the past I believed that I needed to be "in the mood" in order to have sex. Now I find that often if I just get started regardless of my enthusiasm, my body usually catches up and we often start sex feeling rather "blah" and end with "wow that was hot!" Also there are some supplements that may help. I take l-arginine and korean panax ginseng to counteract the effect of birth control pills which seemed to be affecting my sex drive more and more. Helps with blood flow so I get aroused and reach orgasm much easier now.
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Will pay for someone to seduce my wife
Sexinthetardis replied to rocketboy's topic in Curious About Swinging?
Really hoping this is a troll post. If not, my deepest sympathy to your wife.- 23 replies
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It's so great to be able to come here for advice on this kind of stuff. Our profile does reference my husband's being on the larger side but we've actually disagreed about this and he'd rather not have it in there -- he thinks it's a bit obnoxious. My point was that some women really don't enjoy or even find it painful having sex with a larger guy, so I thought we should give sort of a "heads up" (hehe see what I did there?) Anyone, I do trust the judgment on here so do you all think it's better unmentioned and assume if there is an issue we can just deal with it at the time? Thanks!
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Well it's a rainy, dreary day today and I would so love to be naked on a sunny beach somewhere, surrounded by other happy, naked people!
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What is a horny bi-curious husband to do?
Sexinthetardis replied to new&Playful's topic in Curious About Swinging?
If she enjoys fantasizing and talking about different sexual experiences, then engage in that with her, but no please don't try to cajole, guilt or in any way manipulate her into something she is not interested in or ready for. I would be so pissed and hurt if I told my husband I did not want to swing and then he went behind my back to try to create the situation anyway hoping he could then convince me.- 19 replies
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"Like" is a strong word here . I LIKE the taste of chocolate. I will TOLERATE the taste of cum in service of great sex, because I LIKE great sex LOL
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I didn't use to, I would have felt too awkward, but my hubby loves dirty talk and now I have a filthier mouth than him LOL I think it catches some play partners off guard a bit when I do it but mostly they seem to like it. We rein it in with friends but when it's just the two of us, it's on! We give voice to each other's naughtiest fantasies in explicit detail, such a turn on!
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Texting/sexting with swing partners?
Sexinthetardis replied to fortworth's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
These are the same reasons we don't feel comfortable with it. Besides I don't even "sext" with my husband. We text for communication purposes. A little light flirting we're fine with but not more than that. -
I think there is a place for someone like you. I'm not very girly either. I'm most comfortable in a t shirt, shorts and flip flops. For work I'm a khakis and sensible shoes kind of girl. When hubby and I go to clubs, sometimes I'll wear a little dress and low heels, pretty conservative by swingers club standards. Occasionally though, I will wear something downright skanky, just depends on my mood. I'm no Barbie prototype -- I'm in my 40's, small boobs, built more athletic than va-va-voom. And I am a feminist You be you, feel comfortable, wear whatever suits you, etc. But keep in mind feminists come in all shapes, sizes, and mode of dress, you never know based on someone's looks or clothing (or lack thereof). I've met some very smart, interesting women in the lifestyle who enjoyed getting in touch with their inner porn star. Not mutually exclusive, you know?