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We got a message from a guy yesterday on one of the sites we are on that said “ I could fuck it I am in town for the day”. Open his profile and there is next to nothing on it and just the usual cock pic. Normally I just ignore these kind of idiots, but instead I replied “ we will take a pass. There is nothing about your profile that is appealing and we have real lives and don’t just drop everything to hook up with random people we know nothing about”. His response was “ well this is a swingers site after all”. Which made me realize that many people seem to think that if people are swingers they will fuck anybody and everybody. This misconception is about the furthest thing from the truth for us anyways. It does help explain why so many people including some couples out there think they can put absolutely no effort into their profiles, themselves or talking to people and people will just be desperate to have sex with them. Our experience is that swingers are not just sex fiends that fuck anyone that is available. At least not the ones that we would be interested in. If anything we are even more selective, because there are so many options out there.
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How do you respond to a message that just says Hey or do you respond at all?
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What do you use for an opening email to people you are interested in online? My goto is something like... 'Hey read your profile and thought it was interesting! We are a friendly, outgoing professional couple having fun with this. Take a look at our profile and let us know if there is any interest. Good luck on here, and in the life style' What do you think? What do you use? What have you found successful that people like?- 10 replies
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People have been showing at Facebook as "we think you might know this person" and I recognize them. But not from Facebook or high-school or anything. They are creatures who have sent my wife or myself messages using SLS. Some being people whom we have completely ignored and to whom we have never replied. Have any of you noticed anything similar. Have SLS made a pact with The Devil?
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For all my hesitation and stress over mailing and meeting, I happened on a couple when checking out a club attendance list. I find them very interesting and would love to meet them. I get anxiety over the idea of meeting with a couple that I don't really know anything about and don't know of any common ground. I just don't know what to say there. I am too far out of my element there. I don't like being out of my element. So this couple is physically similar to us and has choices and interests that we share. I am actually interested in getting together with them just to talk about those things if nothing else. Any tips on formulating an e-mail to initiate possible interest? I have sent a few of these things with nothing really coming of it, partially on our part in some cases. I'd really like this one to be different. The Rose -
The discussion in another thread got me to thinking if there is a correlation between couples with nudes as their main photo or with fully nude photos and emails from SM's. It is a very small test group in the other thread but it appears that couples with no nude photos get a lot less emails (or none) from single guys. Anyone else care to weigh in on their observations or opinions? -
The Age Old... why haven't they replied?
JustAskJulie posted a topic in Finding People to Swing With
This is a specific example of a general issue. All those cases of people wondering why someone hasn't responded to their message yet... I have to wonder if some of them aren't cases similar to what we are experiencing below (we are the ones who haven't responded yet). Ok, so we have this message in our inbox on SLS and it's been there for a couple of days. We know it's there and we've read it through our mail history (but haven't actually opened it). We've been on there quite a few times, so why is it we haven't opened it? Because this is like the 10th email on SLS from this couple, the first came in about a week and a half ago. They live 90+ miles away so it's not like we get a lot of opportunities to meet them. They contacted us FIRST and now it's like they want to have this online friendship or something, which is all great. But I'm just not in for talking about all the details of YOUR day with someone I don't really know and haven't met and may or may not meet. We visit the area where they live quite often (Nashville) and we might meet them at some point if they get out to Menages... So anyway, I was looking at this message sitting there for the 7th or so time and thinking.... I wonder if the people on the other side of this message are the same ones we see posting here asking "why haven't they responded?". It's not that we won't respond, we will. But hell, as soon as we respond they will respond again and I just don't have the time to keep that conversation going, let alone the interest (yet). And to be honest, the constant back and forth is tiring and is (if anything) making me lose interest in them rather than building it. So, we wait a few days in between responses, to cut down on the number of responses we have to give. -
Hello everyone, We don't know if you read our intro...but here's our issue We met this couple via the internet about 3 weeks ago. They contacted us.Initially, the male of the couple sent us an e-mail expressing their interest in us. Okay, that was fine and he was very nice. However, we never get to chat or send e-mail back and forth to the wife. Apparently, the mother-in-law is staying at their home until late August sometime. We called them and spoke to them a few weekends ago on the phone for all of 10 minutes (the only time we've conversed with them both, BTW). In the beginning, he was getting into the habit of sending me (female member) IM's during the weekdays while he's at "work" (He always talked about the four of us, a few innuendos here and there. There was one comment he made that bothered me a bit, however. I was trying to express how important it is to my husband and I both that any couple we get together with has to respect boundaries and be totally in love with each other. I said I've read too many horror stories about people crossing the line and actually falling for people they've swung with. He then says, I'd never leave my wife...I love her a lot, etc. and then he says...well, ya never know; then he says he's just kidding?...red flag anyone?? Anyway, we can never really send IM'S or chat on the weekends via the computer so all 4 of us can chat (which is when my hunny's home). Supposedly due to the M-I-L being there. Well, my hunny and I discussed all of this and he expressed concern about the IM's on the weekdays, so, of course, I stopped conversing in this manner. After that, the concept changed a little. The male member got a bit distant, not rude, just distant. And, here's where we're wondering if we should even pursue this (We should mention we do have a date set up at the end of this month to meet them). They were supposed to call us this past Saturday night...my hunny and I were kicking back having some drinks and having our own fun...the time came and wait for them to call. They never did! So, we go online Sunday and notice they had been online. That a.m. Monday, we get an e-mail from him apologizing for not calling, that he "forgot" to write down the number. Okay, shit happens, right? So, we tell him that is fine,and we noticed they were online Sunday, which he said was weird, because they never logged on . But, we're a bit concerned because we've had minimal contact with the wife. We asked him to ask her if there's anything she'd like to discuss with us and also told him she is more than welcome when she has the chance to send us an e-mail so we can get to know her, too. He writes back the next day saying that he spoke with her and she says she's more comfortable talking when we meet. He also says that they'd like to call this Saturday, but they have no set agenda, meaning they like to just call and say hello. Well, we said that was fine. However, if we're not really going to do any talking...basically, what's the point? So, now, we've written back and said we'd be in contact the week before we're supposed to meet to discuss where and when, etc. Okay, anyone can give us their $.02 on this one. My hunny's a bit irritated and I'm just plain confused What does this sound like to you all??? We both think that there should be a bit more getting-to- know-you going on here. As I said, when the male member and I were exchanging IM's, it was all good, but when I stopped...the concept changed. We would've been fine exchanging IM's if all 4 of us were involved. We think if we met these people at a club and just decided to "fuck" then fine...why worry about talking? But, in this instance, it's a bit different...We should mention that "they" expressed and emphasized that friendship to them is more important...But, we're at the point where friendship ain't all that important Hee,Hee!!
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Reading Mrs. O's "Is it just me?" thread got me to thinking about how I have a tendency to purposely not respond immediately to an email that I receive. If I'm online when the email comes in I won't immediately respond to it (unless it's an urgent email in need of action) simply because I don't want the person on the other end to turn around and assume "oh she's online we can have a conversation now" and then write me back expecting me to turn around and do the same again (this could go on for hours). I wonder if this isn't what happens tho when we are answering ads and such. Couple A: Reads an ad for a couple they are interested in and sends and email Couple B: receives email (whenever) and responds. It just so happens that when Couple B responded Couple A was online so they figured that if they wrote back immediately Couple B would still be online and they could talk some more. Couple B, however, signed off line right after answering their email. Couple A, not knowing that Couple B signed off, wonders why their new friends haven't responded already. I had a point... but now I have no idea what it is...lol. SO, I'll ask a question or two. How long between emails do you usually wait to respond? How long do you wait before wondering why someone hasn't responded to you? How long do you give them before you start thinking they are blowing you off? And at what point (if any) do you write them again asking if they got your last email? And on the opposite end of that, at what point of opening your email and seeing more than one email from the same person do you get creeped out and start feeling a little pressured?
