Reading a recent thread about swinging and menopause reminds me of a question I have had since my early swinging days.
First of all, I never considered my period to be a serious impediment to sex. There is a little added mess to clean up and sanitary precautions that must be taken, but I have always done full vaginal penetration during my period. In my naivite, I assumed that most other women felt the same.
This lead to a real problem on my fourth (fifth maybe?) swinging experience. My boyfriend (now hubby) and I had planned a threesome with one of my close girlfriends. She was only 20 and her period was still a little irregular, and on the night of our date, she showed up and said that she couldn't because she had just started her period a week early. She expected me to understand implicitly, but I totally didn't get it. I ended up embarrassing her and myself really badly. Of course we talked and worked things out because she was a friend (in fact, we swing together about once a year even though we live on separate continents). Still, I learned an important lesson. Some women do NOT want to do the deed when they're on the rag. Can anyone offer a good explanation?
Does it feel uncomfortable, does it seem gross, is there just a certain stigma about menstrual blood? Maybe I am way off base with all of these.
Dayna (the friend) says she just doesn't feel sexy. Sometimes I feel a little blase too (bloated, etc), but I have found that 1 regular strength orgasm relieves cramps and tension better than 50 extra strength Motrin.
Any others out there feel the same as Dayna or me?