Trixie1966

First off, YES I do REALLY want a nice single guy. Why would I choose this frustration or choose to waste my time? I never said I have never found one, I just said I hadn't found one lately (or in this area since we are new here). We've been in this lifestyle for 8 years and I've had my fair share of fun playmates! WesternSwing, everything you said is everything I'm experiencing now. I am amazed at what the guys say to me that they would never dare say to a girl they were trying to pick up. You are SO very right-just because we are swingers does not mean I am a cheap piece of meat! Several of the guys have asked me if I tell my hubby everything and yes, I do and although we don't require the guys meet him I do prefer that and so does the hubby. I also get a lot of married and cheating guys and some are up front about it and I imagine some of them aren't so up front. We don't state that I play alone in our SLS profile anymore just because of the sheer volume of emails I got from guys just looking to score one nighters. I think Dynamar has it right......my planets just aren't aligned right now! Thanks to everyone for reading and replying!

I've read lots of comments about single guys getting a bad rap. I really didn't completely understand why until this week but I guess I'm optimistic enough to think there still might be some nice single guys out there but I've yet to find one. I'm just wondering that other women have experienced with single guys and finding one. Background: I'm allowed to play alone so we are trying to find a single guy for me to play with on a regular basis. You'd think it would be easy enough to find a guy who wants to just have sex with no commitments, right? WRONG! We have couples we play with who think I'm good looking, outgoing and adventurous so I don't feel I am the problem because that was my first thought. I chat with the guys online for awhile to make sure we have the same expectations and talk on the phone and they all SEEM to want to get together to meet (I don't play the first time we meet). I always meet them in a very public place and hubby likes to meet them as well. However, when the day comes and it's either one excuse after another or they just plain don't show and don't call. I'm understanding and I know things come up but to not show and not call is what I consider rude. I'm also not one to give second chances which hasn't been a problem since so far none of them have had enough courage to ask for one. So why do all the single guys complain they can't find anybody to have sex with them when here I am trying to find one and can't? I'm starting to wonder what a girl has to do to get laid! lol Mrs. Trixie

I'd have to say that even if I found someone who was better at sex, that is all it will ever be with the other person is just sex. Intimacy and all the other things that go along with it (the sharing of our lives, our history, our future, etc) is part of what makes sex with the one I love so great. Just my thoughts and not everyone may feel the same.

Without a doubt, YES. Mr. is amazing at EVERYTHING and no man I play with, past, present or future will ever compare. Ever. He is number one, my soulmate, my forever.

No question is stupid! I really don't notice it during my daily routine. No constant reminder after it is healed. While it's healing it's a bit more sensitive, at least with mine it was. I had read so much about it before I had mine done that I was concerned I'd be walking around having orgasm after orgasm but it really isn't that way at all. Bumps in the road can be a bit more exciting but not so much so that I am purposely hitting potholes! Riding a horse might be pretty exciting now that I think about it. Not sure about that one but after it is healed, you can always take it out for awhile. I'd do it again in a heartbeat. It is so sexy and it makes already awesome sex even better! Trixie

I feel like saying welcome to the club because after I got mine done and hubby was driving home and hitting every bump (must be a male thing), I felt like this was some secret pleasure club that only pierced women could truly understand! Mine hurt just a little (not even close to how much it hurt getting my bellybutton done) and then it has been nothing but pure pleasure! WOW! It healed quickly too, like in 2 weeks. The thing I noticed is that it is a lot more fun driving my hubby's pickup now. It vibrates and bounces more than my SUV. I'm thinking a Harley ride would be orgasmic! Congrats and enjoy the piercing! Trixie