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Put up a ad on CC it was flagged which I really don't get. Someone answer before hand. We exchanged email most of the day yesterday. He is married wants to see his wife with another man. But at the end of the emails he told me that his wife wouldn't not be part of it but he was still willing to do it be behind her back. I don't feel comfortable about it.  We don't want or need the drama that may come with it. I told him we are going to pass didn't feel comfortable without his wife. 

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You did the right thing. I don’t know what CC is, but join SLS, SDC or another national platform. There are plenty of swingers where it is obvious ( from certifications) that both spouses are on board. You can also have your wife talk to the other wife (“voice verify”) before you meet. This can be faked, but what can you do. You will not have a relaxing swing session unless all parties consent. You don’t want cheaters or coerced people. 

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Yes unfortunately it is all to common!  Guys just using their wife to try and get some for themselves when she is never actually on board and doesn’t know anything about it in the first place.  Forget about pieces of crap like this guy.  We can usually weed them out very quickly at this point.  If the wife isn’t actually aware of it then they are not swingers.  He is just a cheater and they don’t deserve to be part of this lifestyle.

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Sorry CC =CL. I am happy that I did turn him down. He emailed me blaming me for not wanting to have fun.  At first he wanted his wife to be involved and both couples could meet up and start flirting and maybe she would get on board if not we all would go our separate ways. He went from wanting her there to he didn't care and didn't want her involved at all. I agree with enhancer that he just wanted to cheat on his wife. I even told him I was more concerned more about his wife than he was. 

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Looking for other couples on CL (which, as pointed out, hasn't allowed meet up posts in years) is like buying gold and rare gems at a swap meet...whatever you get is probably not real and not worth the time to find. If you want to catch fish, first try fishing where you already know the fish are: Stick to websites where swinger are (see 'please visit our sponsors' at the top of the page). While you will still run across fakes and flakes there (especially if they are 'free' members, which is why it is important to actually join whatever site has the most members close to you), at least you know that most of the people are serious about swinging.

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Thanks all. Yes you can put ads on CL but they get flagged fairly quickly. I have a free account with SLS trying to get husband on board going that route. He wants either to go to a bar or swinger club. I started a new thread with more questions. I think the guy just wanted to cheat on his wife and he thought  we would be happy with that. 

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"Free" accounts with SLS are generally considered less credible; if you want to gain more attention on SLS, pay a few $. Make it a point to optimize profile and photos. Have at least one "private" gallery that you can open to signal interest to others.

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You will spend more at a bar in one night hoping to find someone than it costs to join one of the websites. Once again, by joining it shows that you are much more "serious" about swinging. People spend hundreds...thousands of dollars on hobbies...golf, off roading, biking, etc, but for some reason they want to find other people to have sex with (which seems like a MUCH funner hobby to have) but don't want to spend a few dollars to join. I'm an IT guy and I hate paying for anything on the internet, but I didn't mind paying to find other couples to play with. With couples especially, you get what you pay for ;)

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