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Hello everyone! So a few weeks ago I came out to my wife as bi. She took it great it turned her on. Now we are looking to do a bi 3way. We looked on Grindr and all the guys are just creepy. My question is where is the best place to find a partner for us? Thank you in advance. 

 

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Hi, welcome to the site!

 

I'll second what Baconheads said, the best place to find swingers, of any persuasion, is on the swinger sites like SLS, SDC, Swingtowns.  In a threesome for example, doesn't matter if bi or straight people involved, the most important thing is understanding swinging and what each's role is.

 

Have fun!

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3Fun is a site that’s dedicated to couples looking for a third and singles looking for a couple.  Quite a few seem to be couples with bi males. The site isn’t as big as SLS or SDC, but in my experience the proportion of "real" MF profiles (as opposed to guys who are only fanaticizing) is much higher.

 

Feeld caters more to people looking for partners for poly relationships, but again there are fewer profiles that misrepresent the individuals. And a good number of the men are "heteroflexible" which it seems generally me and bi.

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On 1/27/2022 at 11:26 PM, herpob said:

Guess he took the info and ran?   But did any of it pan out?

Yes!  One post and done.  I wish people would follow up on their stories.

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On 4/13/2022 at 2:45 PM, Baconheads said:

Yes!  One post and done.  I wish people would follow up on their stories.

I know - curious minds want to knoooooowwwwww....

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All the couples we play with are fully bi and feel that more people are bi than you think if they were honest with themselves really

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