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Please take the time to find some victim counseling. Be it hotline (1-800), therapist, psychologist or whatever you can lay your hands on. At this stage both of you NEED someone on the outside of the situation to talk to, someone that can relate to being a victim and who is trained to recognize all of the symptoms you are experiencing !! Often times situations like these lead to severe depression, loss of self esteem, on and on and it can go as far as financial devastation, even suicide. Not saying that you will or are at that this point, rather that it has happened to more than one person.

 

Prior to leaving my last place of employment, I was in daily contact with vast numbers of young females who had been preyed upon in one fashion or another. Most had turned to drugs, pills and sex to ease the pain ALL of them spiraled out of control and were on the way to rock bottom. To date some are dead, some are still slumped in the corner of a bar, using Xanax, GHB or Roofies to sleep off a 3 day coke binge, others are in the state or federal prison system. EVERY LAST ONE OF THEM TURNED TO SELF-HELP TO DEAL WITH THEIR PROBLEMS !!

 

Again, to reiterate, I am well aware that you are not at this point. However I do detect a certain sorrow or "Why me" vibe in your posts and think you should seek outside help to gain some additional coping skills while the impact is relatively minimal.

 

Happy thoughts and Best of luck to you

 

p.s. ........ the P.M. box is always available if you want to vent in private

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fun4Ds said:

We are still trying to deal with this, it has not been easy. A lot of people have wanted us to let the authorities handle this. We are not ready to risk the exposure; wouldn't that make us the bigger piece of shit in the swinging community? We would like to at least feel good that we can keep the people we have met identities confidential. It sucks. The investigating has been on our own so far. We are thankful to our friends and we are lucky... no... grateful to be alive. We were raped and brain fucked. It hurts on the inside more than we can show on the outside.

 

It is probably going to be a while before we get any closure to this in our personal lives. You can only imagine what it is like to not have any recollection. It has been an earth shaking kaboom. Who would have thought they needed to dope us? That's sick.

 

Some days we don't want to contact anyone and some days we want to contact everyone. Who do we point the finger at? The couple we met? The bartender who served us? The folks at the party?

 

I guess it is my fault. They say time heals all wounds. We are thinking to send the owners a letter of an apology but apologize for what? Were only guessing we were the worst. Our current swing partners tell us that if we were an ass at the party it would be way out of our character.

 

I guess we are going to have to take it as a team and put it behind us. Somehow take it as a learning experience.

 

Hi, You may want to reread this thread as a reminder that you have many people who have considered your story and feel great sympathy for you. You may also want to consider some of the advice which has been offered.

 

It is natural to be confused, and to feel some guilt and shame. You have been victimized, and you need to remember that you did absolutely nothing to bring this plight on yourselves.

 

At this point, it seems as if you might benefit from some interaction with a rape crisis counselor. We would encourage you to seek professional help immediately.

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I feel so bad for you and Mrs. fun, this is a terrible thing to happen. I really can’t add any advice that hasn’t been mentioned or you haven’t thought of.

 

I would like to thank you for coming to the board and sharing your terrible experience with others. It may help others to be more wary of their situation, not just in the swinging, but also in all other social events.

 

This is problem that all of us need to be aware of, watch each others back and step forward when we see something that’s not right.

 

Good luck!!!

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fun4Ds said:
A lot of people have wanted us to let the authorities handle this. We are not ready to risk the exposure; wouldn't that make us the bigger piece of shit in the swinging community? We would like to at least feel good that we can keep the people we have met identities confidential.

 

I would think the only people who would be upset are the people who drugged you. I would also like to think that the rest of the community would be happy that you 'outed' possible, and probable, sexual predators in your midst. Who among the people you've met would be outed besides the one's who did this? Well, if there were 3 couples there, and only one was responsible, then I guess that one other couple might be outed too.... but then again, perhaps not. And frankly, you don't know which of the other 2 couples were responsible. If it was the other 'guest' couple, I would think the hosts might actually be happy that you are concerned about the entire communities well being at heart. Does the host couple have kids? at home? perhaps everyone was drugged and the kids were drugged and raped later. Perhaps the other couple drugged both you and the hosts and raped all of you. Perhaps that's why you were banned. Maybe the other couple told the hosts the same thing happened to them so the only one's left do have done it was you. And you think that isn't going around the community if that's the case? Of course it is. If you address the hosts, simply ask them to forgive you for however you may have acted, that has gotten you banned etc. But that you really don't know what that was, so could they please at least explain it to you.

 

fun4Ds said:
we were raped and brain fucked.

 

You're right you were. If not sexually, though I doubt that, at least emotionally and mentally. And I agree with others, at least seek victim counseling.

 

fun4Ds said:
I guess it is my fault.

 

That's the same as the 'rape' victim feeling like it was their fault. It's never the victims fault. There is no excuse. How could it be your fault? Did someone ask you if you wanted a roopy and you told them yes? Did you bring it with you and take it yourself? Did you ask someone if they had the drug so you could take it? How is it your fault. Think about that. It's never the fault of the victim.

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Yes, we are going to seek some counseling, it has been very depressing. We have swinger friends but we have been on a major lifestyle break. This is not something you can talk to family about, maybe other swingers. Mrs fun has been very supportive with a lot of love notes on the table. May sound kinda strange but we are kind of making a few jokes from time to time. Like the day of the party mrs.fun said I may be in for a big surprise. Well it certainly was a surprise.

 

We thank you all for the support.

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For as far as I know, Rohypnol wouldn't be used ALONE as a recreational drug, since you will forget everithing about the experience you had while using it.

 

People do use roofies recreationally. They know their tolerance and dose accordingly just below their threshhold. Never done it myself and have no real interest in doing it.

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Please, don't feel like this is your fault in any way. That is what victims do is blame themselves. Try the victims hotline, it may help.

 

My husband is irate over this. If this was to happen to me, he'd end up in prison. That sounds awful. He'd like to help you guys out if you were closer. This whole thing just sickens us.

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fun4Ds said:

Yes, we are going to seek some counseling, it has been very depressing. We have swinger friends but we have been on a major lifestyle break. This is not something you can talk to family about, maybe other swingers. Mrs fun has been very supportive with a lot of love notes on the table. May sound kinda strange but we are kind of making a few jokes from time to time. Like the day of the party mrs.fun said I may be in for a big surprise. Well it certainly was a surprise.

 

We thank you all for the support.

 

Perhaps it is worth to say that what happens to us today IS AS INTENDED by your abuser as it was the original abuse itself. The abuser is perfectly aware of this effect, and rely on all your current feelings as a preventive measure against being reported (both to the authorities and to the social circle where he/she moves).

 

Even when I suggest you to do something about it, and that I believe that doing something about this, even when painful and risky, is a way to help you two put this behind, I will not blame on you if you doesn't want to. The abuser is the only one to blame here.

 

Having my own experiences correlated to the abuse's victim role, I've been there. I believe I know what you feel. In this abuse you don't recollect what happened, but think of how you'd feel if you were able to recollect it, I mean, people doing things to you while you're deprived from the ability to stop them. I bring this point because it have to do with your guilty feelings.

 

It uses to happen to the victim that, besides the implications of a rape, they recollect enjoying some aspects of the activities he/she was forced to do. For example, a victim of a rape may feel physical arousal for an intercourse, or even cum, which makes things even worst, because this leads to wrongly conclude that if there was something enjoyable for the victim it would make his/her "share the responsibility" for the abuse, as if what define something as a rape were not alone the violence and the forced act, but the "reward" that only the abuser is supposed to have. Something like "if I felt pleasure, then to some extent, I've been asking for this to happen".

 

Even when you don't recollect what happened, this scenario correlate with yours because you went to a swinger party seeking for sexual enjoyment, at least for the "to some extent, I've been asking for this to happen" thought.

 

One of the most difficult parts in the victim's healing process is to be able to set apart the arousal or the pleasure involved from the responsibility for what happened. To be able to say "yes, I physically enjoyed being done this or that, this is natural and not my fault, so I hate ELUSIVELY my abuser and not myself". And I guess something pretty close to this happens to you today, you hate yourself because you were seeking for having sex with strangers, disregarding the main fact here, which is the TERMS under you were up to do it.

 

Sex has nothing to do with this. The rape is defined by the process by means of which the abuser TERMS are being imposed, overriding by force your own TERMS, even to do the same you'd agree to do under your own terms.

 

To recognize and internalize this fact, and to differentiate this from the involved sexual desires require a hard and painful process that MUST be supervised, and requires an objective perspective to ensure you achieved this goal.

 

It is because of this that you two need counseling. There's nothing wrong with you two, there's no fault from you.

 

As it was told before, REMEMBER the people in this forum feels sympathy for your two, and that we're here for you.

 

I invite you to drop me as many private messages you want to vent off and/or just talk, now and along your healing process. Do NOT isolate yourselves, people support is and will be a valuable resource for you two. Don't hesitate to use this resource at will.

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Reading this and several other threads has been really enlightening! I honestly didn't even factor in the role of sexual abuse in the lifestyle or even the possibility of being drugged due to the fact that I always believed that with the lifestyle people always (well the majority) functioned with honesty. Obviously not--but thus far we've been lucky with the people we've met but this will allow us to be a lot more cautious of even those we believe we can trust.

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I wonder how many people this has happened to? I recently was at a club drinking soda water and lime. I had already had two drinks and it was a long drive home so I stopped drinking. I kept on telling hubby there was "pure vodka or something" in my drink. He blew me off until he took a sip. I felt so violated. I am so sorry that this happened to you. -r

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fun4Ds said:
mrs. fun was in the hot tub with a single guy that we (both think the world of) and I can remember while she is having what I think is a good time I leaned over and kissed her and said I love you to her. She can remember to that point that she went to our room and crashed out, that's the end of her recollection till morning.

 

I think I've scanned most of the thread here, but one thing is confusing to me. As I read the above section from the original posting, I'm left with wondering if the guy they thought the world of knows anything? Even if why they might have been banned from the club?

 

As far as fault, that ultimately lies with the person who drugged you. So keep telling yourself that it was highly unlikely in the situation you were in that you could have prevented this. Just as the Internet is a highly suspect environment, the real world is even more so. Odds are that even a normally diligent person who was "watching the drinks" would not have been able to detect someone drugging it. (From personal experience in what can be done "undetected".) So hopefully you'll stop giving yourself a guilt trip on this.

 

I empathize with you on the decision whether to bring in authorities or not. Despite what some people have written here and despite the fact that their personal opinions of things shouldn't get in the way of dealing with a crime, it has been know to happen that law officers will let their opinions interfere. How many "rape" victims have been victimized because they wore provocative clothing? So at least I understand the conflict you're going through.

 

Our sympathies and best wishes on dealing with this unfortunate incident.

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Wow, I think that is the worst thing I have heard to date and it makes me pretty angry thinking about it. You guys were drugged against your knowledge and who knows what happened....the word that comes to mind is rape. Even if nothing happened sexually your free will was raped.

 

I would be tempted to call the police, but I know you have to think this one out for yourselves.

Mrs LOL

 

Personally I think you should call the police, after all, you and your wife are both adults and what you do for thrills shouldn't make you less of a rape victim.

 

We kept quiet about our first time experience that was horrible and I remember the guilt and shame that came with it, I felt like I let Mia down, that I allowed her to be raped. First time experience was a bad one. - The Swingers Board

 

And probably because I didn't said or did anything it happened a second time, except this time I took action.

 

but this is just so wrong, why would anyone go and rob when it's there for the take, all you have to do is ask?

 

With this kind of animals I'd be just that, another animal, they should be castrated ,let to bleed to death then buried in the back yard......

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With this kind of animals I'd be just that, another animal, they should be castrated ,let to bleed to death then burried in the back yard..
Thats one thing to say, another thing to carry out. I found myself at that point. We found help, and closure, with counseling and a friend. This was a serious matter. People do get, and can be hurt, in any walk in life. How many, was the question in this case.

 

We are OK with it being, just two......

 

We're not ashamed, we're survivors.

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Fun4Ds,

 

I'm glad that the years have passed since this happened and that the two of you have recovered from this. I'm also glad that this thread has been brought back up. I have never considered the possibility that someone would drug either of us at a swinger's party or club. But I guess that my personal habits make it much more unlikely that this could happen to me personally.

 

One rule that I learned when I was in the Navy helps me here. When I went on liberty, the only thing that I would drink was an American brand beer, in a can, and if the can was opened before it was in front of me, I didn't drink it and didn't pay for it. I would tell the waitress/bar tender that when I ordered. It was not unusual for sailors on liberty to be drugged and rolled. It never happened to me.

 

Thanks for letting us know this, because it reminded me to teach this to my son who is headed for his first ship in a few days.

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A good rule of thumb a friend of mine taught me when we first entered the lifestyle - never leave your drink unattended.

 

That is great advice. Not only for swingers, but for anyone going to bars and clubs. Also, if someone is going to buy you a drink make sure that you're present when it is purchased and you take the drink directly from the bartender or waitress.

 

Sometimes paranoia is good!

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Having just skimmed this thread, primarily to find out what the outcome for fun4Ds was (glad you two came through this OK), and considering that the Mrs and I will be going to our first meet & greet tomorrow night (nerves!), here's my feeling on this:

 

1. We're going to watch our drinks tomorrow!

2. I think, in that situation, I would have involved the police. I really wouldn't care if my family / friends / co-workers found out what kind of a party we were at, someone attempted harm to me and mine. I can live with ridicule / shame, I can't live without the Mrs (what if she had a worse reaction?)

3. fun4Ds dealt with this in their own way, and while the guilty were not found and punished, unfortunately, the guilty do not always get punished. I would expect it would have been very hard to find out who might have put the drugs in the drinks, leading to the guilty still getting away with it...

 

At least, Mr and Mrs fun4Ds have coped, and continued on. It's just a shame that they had to run into this kind of situation.

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I have to admit, after reading this thread, I'm more anxious than ever about going to the Off-Premise party Mr and I've talked about attending tonight. I know the odds of anything like this happening are very slim and I know we both plan on NOT letting our drinks out of our sight, but still. I talked to Mr earlier and he fully understands, said he's kind of nervous about going, too.

We both know NOTHING is going to happen tonight. There, at least. We'll probably come home and go at it like bunnies but nothing there. Tonight is just dipping our toes into the water, so to speak.

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That is great advice. Not only for swingers, but for anyone going to bars and clubs. Also, if someone is going to buy you a drink make sure that you're present when it is purchased and you take the drink directly from the bartender or waitress.

 

Sometimes paranoia is good!

 

Well... paranoia isn't really good ,.. Caution is cool though

 

Enjoy, life :)

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Wow, this is a incredible story. I feel for the OP but it makes me wonder....... is this swinging thing such a good idea? :(

 

Why would someone putting roofies in someones drink make you question swinging in general. There is likely a higher chance of that happening at a regular club than at a swingers club.

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Why would someone putting roofies in someones drink make you question swinging in general. There is likely a higher chance of that happening at a regular club than at a swingers club.

 

:ditto:

 

I think the general rule applies anywhere, regardless of context. If there are people you don't know around drinks you plan on drinking, make sure you know what you are drinking.

 

This story makes me question humanity, not swinging.

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I just came across this thread. Glad the OP are ok. As has been recently said,this can happen anywhere. It happens in swingers clubs as well as regular clubs all the time. General rule " Never Leave Your Drink Unattended"

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It's not that you're paranoid, it's that you have a realistic awareness. Even when having fun, you (everyone) should remain in Condition Yellow.

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I'm really greatful to read this thread. I'm a very trusting person and it never occured to me to be cautious of this risk.

 

I know it was a long time ago but I'm curious if the club owner ever became receptive of listening to you two about what happened or did you just remain banned forever? I have to admit, I wouldn't want to be part of any club where the owner would not readily investigate any claim of a member being harmed in their club.

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fun4Ds said:
 On the way home our talk was mainly about we can't remember a thing EITHER of us, and the drive is very long. We get home and Mrs.fun passes out in a way that off to the hospital I go. (We live close) Doctors tell us that we have rohyfnol (aka rooffies) in our systems

 

Thanks for posting this and warning the rest of us! That is such BS!

Not your story but the deed. It will sharpen us up to be extra careful!

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Two women friends of mine (not swingers) one a flight attendant in Miami, another a friend in Los Angeles had Rohypnol dropped in their drinks. Luckily they only ad little sips and were immediately aware of a creeping drowsiness and lack of control of their extremities. they were at public locales with people they knew and the perp accompanied each to their home because they were out of it. Luckily they were conscious enough to hold on and call the police.

 

This seems like an ongoing epidemic in our society....and hosts are the first to say it want their fault and knew nothing. Its an at risk society to even socialize, with anyone for any reason. Get only bottled drinks and keep them in hand.

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I've never had this happen, nor am I aware of it happening at any of the swinger events or clubs I have attended.

 

I did have it happen to me @ a gay bar when I was 19. Me and a group of friends use to frequent a gar bar here in the city as they never carded us and we were all underage.

 

This was our spot on Friday and Saturday nights. This one night they had draft beer for $1 I'm not much of a beer drinker, so I ordered a girlie drink, a Midori Sour.

 

Within minutes I blacked out. The people I was with were totally confused, as I only had one drink and back then, I could drink a lot before I would even start to feel a buzz.

 

My bff at the time realized something was wrong and her and the two other people I was with took me straight to the hospital.

 

Since then, If I drink in public, I am the one to make my drink or I won't drink.

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It’s really not that hard to believe because this is the reason why my wife and I never went to a club again after being invited by a friend of mine and his wife. No we have never swung and we probably never will because of what happened to us in the club.

 

The only difference is when my wife was cornered with her girlfriend, they were offered drinks when they already had drinks and the gentleman were trying to take the drinks from them so they could drink the drinks that they made for them. With my wife smart thinking grabbing my buddies wife and running to us and then me confronting them and them acting completely strange  and calling for the bouncer of the club to help them I guess me, it was absolutely insane. The funny thing is my wife told me soon as we walked in that I’m not drinking anything to anybody gives me in here and that I will buy her drinks . It was almost like her Spidey sense was telling her be careful but anyway she was very nervous go on her to the club regardless because it was our first time. The idea that somebody would want to drug somebody to get what they want is absolutely horrendous.  But when I asked my wife why she was so concerned after we left the club, she said that the ladies that invited her and my buddies wife to come talk with them we’re all trying to separate them from us and trying to get them to go down the hallway  and have a conversation and then the men showed up out of nowhere in the hallway holding drinks and after remembering the situation, the drinks that they were holding were on the table set aside from all the drinks that they were drinking so I assume that’s exactly what they were going to do is drug the women and take them into a room and then we would have to find them. 

 

After that experience, my wife nor myself whatever even step into a club like that but at the same time do you know that happens in regular clubs and then even in regular clubs I don’t let anyone buy me or my wife drinks. The things that people think of to get what they want  is ridiculous but then again like my wife said you’re not dealing with adults, you are dealing with adults trying to play like children in a sexual way

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      “Trouble’s our middle name,” I joked.
       
      Our conversation continued, where do you live, what movies have you seen lately, etc. It was a screen, of course, we were all calculating if the four of us would be pleasurable bedmates. I paid my attention to Marilyn, my wife had told me numerous times not to worry about her, she can take care of herself. My hand found Marilyn’s knee, she smiled at me, encouraged me to reach a tad higher. We bent towards each other, our mouths met.
       
      Marilyn opened her lips to me, the kiss was ardent, her mouth moist. She licked at my upper lip, her hand fondled the back of my neck. Our tongues clashed, promising cupidity, mimicking what I presumed our bodies might be doing in a few scant moments.
       
      We broke for a moment, Marilyn invited, “Would you guys want to go to one of the rooms?”
       
      I, of course, was all for it, but then I heard Mary. “Uh, not right now. But thanks.”
       
      We’ve always had the guideline that if one person doesn’t want to do something, she speaks for both of us. Regretfully, I pecked at Marilyn’s lips a last time, we stood, went separate ways.
       
      “You’re not upset, are you?” Mary asked me.
       
      “Of course not, not at all. You’re not in the mood?”
       
      “Oh, I’m in the mood all right, just not with Ed.”
       
      “Something wrong with him?” I asked.
       
      “I tried to get him interested,” Mary revealed, “but his kiss was a little cold, indifferent. I put my hand on his leg, he was too busy watching you and Marilyn, he never responded. My guess is that if we went into a room, he’d be watching you two, I’m not even sure he’d get hard for me.” It was a reasonable thought, it had happened to us a couple times before. “Hope you don’t mind, bet she’d have been a firecracker.”
       
      “Maybe. But you’re a firecracker too.”
       
      We headed back to the dance floor, in search of another couple.
    • By Ntexcouple
      I have posted several stories about Dee’s and my adventures in the swinging lifestyle. Then, I lost the love of my life to a drunk driver. I never knew a hurt as bad as losing the one person that gave meaning to my very soul. The first year I was just getting by, living if you want to call it that, day to day. I would wake up, go to work, come home, and sit outside drinking and feel sorry for myself. I still had friends that Dee and I had made, and they would try to get me out from time to time, but I just felt I was the odd man out, and it was more of a pity fuck than anything else was.
       
      Sue and Don were our best friends in the lifestyle, and they tried their best, but without Dee, I just couldn’t get back into it anymore. One Saturday, I was at home setting out by the pool, drinking, and, as usual, feeling sorry for myself when Sue showed up. She walked into the backyard, took one look at me, and gave it to me with both barrels.
       
      She said that Dee was dead, and as much as we loved her, that was not going to change. She is dead, and she is gone, and the way I was living my life, I might as well be dead also. Dee loved life, and she would not want me to be living like I was. She told me it was time for me to move on and start living again. After about an hour of us talking and crying, she had to get back home. I sat there the rest of the afternoon, thinking about what she had said and how true it was. Dee would not want me moping around, just like if I had been killed in that crash; I would want her to get on with her life. I set the beer down and just thought of all the things Sue had said. I called her that night and told her she was right and it was time that I started living again. She said that they were going to go to a house party the next weekend, and they had a friend that wanted to meet me. She told me her friend had seen some pictures of me, and she would e-mail some pictures of her, and if I wanted, she would fix us up for the party. I agreed, and she sent the pictures of Nancy for me to look at.
       
      The pictures she sent were of Nancy clothed, and I know the pictures of me that Sue had were not clothed pictures but were pictures of some of the parties we had been to. So she had the advantage over me in that regard. Nancy is a good-looking woman about 7 years younger than me, 5’6"/7" tall. She had blond hair and a good-looking body, from what I saw in her swimsuit picture. I called Sue the next day and told her that I would like to meet Nancy. She gave me her phone # and said she was expecting a call from me. She also said to be at their house at 6:30 Friday night, and we would all go to the party together.
       
      I called Nancy, and we talked for about an hour just to get to know something about each other. She knew all about Dee from Sue and said she went through something like that 3 years ago. Her husband of 18 years just up and left her with twin boys to raise. She had been single a little more than a year when her sons went off to college, and she decided to start living her life for herself. She was upfront and outspoken and said that she had always liked sex, but over the years, it had become predictable and ho-hum with her husband until he left. She told me that she got into swinging with a friend from work and her husband. She found that she liked the excitement of having sex with different people, both men and women, and she was not looking for a husband, just a fuck buddy. I agreed with her and told her I was not looking for a life partner but just needed to start living again.
       
      As Friday approached, I began to get nervous about going to the party. I knew several of the couples that were going to be there because Dee and I had been with them for some time or another. Even the thought of fucking Sue, no matter how many times she and I had fucked each other, made me nervous. I stopped by Don and Sue’s house Thursday night after work and told them I did not think I could go thou with it. We were sitting at their bar, and Sue told me I was just nervous about meeting Nancy. She said that I already knew most of the couples that would be there and I just needed to relax.
       
      Sue then took my hand and told me to come with her. She walked me into the den in front of the couch and undid my pants, and pushed them down to my knees. She then told me to sit down and got on her knees in front of me. She reached into my underwear and started to stroke my dick. I could feel my dick responding to her soft touch when she said to just close my eyes and relax and enjoy. With that, she pulled my underwear down to my knees and started to lick my hard shaft and balls. When her tongue left my balls and started up my shaft, her left hand would start holding and roll my balls around oh so softly. As her tongue got to the head of my dick, her right hand would start to stroke my shaft. Her mouth opened, and she took the head of my dick in her mouth and swirled her tongue around it. I had almost forgotten how hot her mouth felt when she would suck my dick or how good she was at it. She knew just what she was doing and how to please a man with her tongue, mouth and hands.
       
      I opened my eyes to watch her head bob up and down and see my dick disappearing and reappearing from her mouth. I saw Don sitting at the bar, just watching his wife suck another man's dick. This was not the first time Don has seen his wife suck my dick, but in the past, he was with Dee or any of the other ladies in our little group. If not, he was most likely helping me with Sue, either licking her pussy or fucking her while she sucked my dick. But to watch him sitting there fully dressed while she was sucking me was a little strange and comforting at the same time. I realized just how good of friends they both were.
       
      I started to feel my climax grow deep down. I guess it had been a while, and I felt a rush of heat as I started to shoot my cum in Sue’s mouth. She sucked and stroked my shaft to get all she could out. I also forgot just how horny Sue got when she had a fresh load of cum shot in her mouth. She was humping my leg like a dog, and I could feel the heat of her pussy through both her pants and mine. As I tried to catch my breath, she looked up and asked if I was relaxed now. I told her that I was, and she said good, now go home and have a good night's sleep and they would see me at 6:30 Friday.
       
      Don started to protest that I could not come over and get his wife all hot and bothered and just leave him there alone to take care of her. Sue kissed me on the cheek and said yes, he can because he will need all his strength for when she and Nancy get a hold of me the next night.
       
      I stood up and redid my pants and told Don good luck, and as I was leaving, I heard Sue tell him to get his clothes off right now. She needed a good hard fuck.
       
      Friday came, and I arrived at Sue and Don’s house at 6:30 as planned. Nancy was not there yet, but Sue told me that we were not expected at the party until 8. Sue, Don, and I were sitting at their bar talking, and I asked where was this party we were going to and they said it was at a couple's house (Dan and Barbara) who they had met about 8 months ago. I did not know them, and I asked if they knew that I was coming, and without knowing me, were they ok with that. Sue told me that they knew and were fine with it, also that Robert and Cathy, and David and Joann would also be there, and that they all had vouched for me. Sue asked if I was still nervous, and I said yes I was.
       
      Meeting a lady for the first time, as a single, would make any man nervous, much less one you were going to a swinging house party with her as your date. Who would not be nervous? But knowing 3 couples that were going to be there helped somewhat. (Robert and Cathy were the first couple that Dee and I ever played with when we got into swinging, and David and Joann were part of the group that we got together with for about 3 years).
       
      Nancy arrived about 15 minutes later, looking stunning. She wore a low-cut gray blouse and a black skirt that stopped about halfway to her knees. Dark stockings and black high heels. She stood 5’7", about 135 lbs., and had legs to die for. Blonde hair, blue eyes, great smile, and very well-gifted up top. Her blouse was cut just right so that the mounds of her tits were showing down to the top of her nipples. She had an incredible tan line that went from a dark bronze color to almost show white ½" above her nipples. She was in her early 40’s, and I started to feel very nervous again. The four of us sat and talked until it was time to leave for the party, Sue ran and got her party bag, and we all loaded up in their SUV for the drive over. Nancy and I were going to sit in the back seat for the drive over, and as she was getting in, I saw she had on black garters that were holding up her stockings; with her low-cut blouse, I already knew she was bra-less, panty-less, well only time would tell.
       
      We arrived at the party, and I was introduced to Dan and Barbara. They are a nice-looking couple, early 40’s early 50’s, like most of the couples there. I saw that Robert and Cathy were already there, along with David and Joann. With a total of 10 couples there at the time, that made it 3 that I knew and 6 plus Nancy that I did not know. (I kept hearing Dee’s words; Mingle and meet, Mingle and meet over and over in my head).
       
      The party was going along like most house parties did, with people greeting one another, some snacks, some drinks, music, and dancing. Small groups standing around talking, a lot of flirting going on. As time went by, there were more people in different stages of undressed. A couple would be seen walking down the hall towards one of the bedrooms, more couples would be going out to enjoy the hot tub on the patio. Everyone was having a good time excluding myself. I had almost forgotten how at ease one could be and how much fun it was to be around people that thought of recreational sex the same as Dee and I did.
       
      (You see someone and you say, "I would like to fuck that person" They look at you and say, " I would like to fuck that person", and the two of you get together and fuck. Both enjoy it, and that is that. Your spouse knows about it and, most of the time, is there to enjoy it with you if not joining in. No jealousies ,no hard feelings, no fights, and most of all, no means no. But in the back of my mind, I kept thinking that I am now a single man in a couple’s lifestyle.)
       
      I was talking to a couple when I looked towards the area that had been set aside for dancing, where I saw Nancy, Joann, and Barbara all dancing together. All three had shed their blouses and were giving one hell of a sexy dance performance. I knew from what I could see from her low-cut blouse that Nancy had a nice set of tits, but to see her dancing topless they were great. They were round and firm with nipples that stood out ¾". At 43 years of age, they were more than likely bought, but real or Memorex, I did not care. I just wanted to suck on them. Her stomach was flat and firm and showed that she took care of herself at the gym. She still had her skirt on, but those long legs and that flat-toned stomach just started me to think how beautiful the meeting place must look.
       
      When the song ended, Nancy walked over to me and put her arms around my neck and kissed me. She looked me in the eyes and said, let's go. I want to have you alone first, and I had no problem with that. We walked down the hall and checked the first two bedrooms and found them occupied. The master bedroom was at the end of the hall, and when we opened the door, we saw Sue and Dan had already gotten there. We started to close the door, and Dan said to come on in. There was more than enough room on the bed; he and Sue only needed half of it.
       
      Nancy put her arms around my neck and kissed me, and whispered that she wanted me naked. At this point, she started to unbutton my shirt. I felt her firm breast pressing against my chest as I ran my hands down her sides. Her skirt had no snaps but was held up by the elastic waistband. It was just a matter of hooking my thumbs under the waistband and stretching it out a little so it would slide down her long legs. Just as I had suspected, she was panty-less. As she undid my pants, I cupped one of her tits in my hand and lowered my mouth to her nipple. My other hand found her wet hot pussy, and I started to finger fuck her with ease. Her hands had pushed my pants down to my knees, and she was stroking my swollen cock with both of her hands. I could hear her breathing getting heavier with each passing moment as I sucked her nipple and fingered her sweet wet hole. She looked me in the eye and pulled my head closer to hers for a long sexual kiss. She started slowly going down to her knees, all the while kissing my chest and stomach. When she reached my now rock-hard shaft, she cupped my balls and the base of my dick in both hands and opened her mouth to take its head into her mouth.
       
      As I stood there getting this magnificent blow-job from this woman, I looked over to the bed. Sue and Dan had moved to the sixty/nine position, and Sue was sucking his cock like she did mine the night before. Dan had his face buried between Sue’s legs, licking her sweet pussy for all its worth. He had his hands spreading it as far as he could to get his tongue in as deep as he could. I remembered just how good Sue’s pussy tasted when she would come, and she always came from a good licking. I wondered just how Nancy’s pussy would taste and did she enjoy it as much as Sue. It would not be much longer before I would find out because of the way she was sucking my dick and watching Sue and Dan, I started to unload in her mouth. My first squirt was deep inside her mouth; the second one she had pulled back but had her mouth open so that it landed in her mouth but mostly on the tongue. As she was swallowing the first two loads, the third hit her closed lips and started to run down her chin. She wiped it off with her finger and then cleaned her finger with her tongue. She stood up and looked me in the eye, and said thank you, we kissed deep and long, and then I told her it was my turn. As she landed down on the bed, I removed my shoes, socks, and pants. She was on her back naked except for her garters and stockings.
       
      I laded down beside her and started to kiss her gently on the neck; slowly, I worked my way down to her nipples, where I sucked and nibbled on each one of them. All the while, I was running my fingers in and out of her hot wet pussy. Her pussy was neatly shaved with just a puff of blond hair left above it. I have always preferred a little hair left instead of an all-shaved pussy, (I wondered if Sue had told her that and she shaved that way just for me). I was working my way down to her honey pot, and she was opening her legs for me. I normally like to work a woman by kissing, nibbling, and sucking on the inside of their legs before I dive into pussy licking. That always seemed to bring their tension up a notch, so when I did go for the gold, they were more than ready for it. With Nancy having her garters and stockings on, that kind of blocked that approach. I soon found out that she did not need that step of foreplay; I also found out that she was anything but a quiet climaxer. I had no sooner started licking, sucking, and nibbling her pussy than she started humping and screaming and cumming. She was begging me to fuck her right then, I needed a little more time to recoup from my climax before I could go on, and she didn’t seem to want to give it to me. I looked from between the legs, and I don’t know if Sue saw the whipped dog look in my eyes or if she was so turned on by Nancy's pleading for a hard fucking or what, but Sue came to my rescue once again.
       
      Sue was on top of Dan, and he was hammering away at her for all he was worth. Sue leaned over and started kissing Nancy and telling her to let it come. I was still down licking her pussy and thinking, "Let this climax run its course, and things will settle down till I recover and can produce again. With Sue's kissing and sucking Nancy's tits and Nancy sucking on Sue’s tits and a double effect. Dan announced that he was coming, and I felt myself coming back into the game. As I slid back up on Nancy to where I could enter her, Sue sat back up on Dan and started riding him hard. She was about to have her own climax and needed to concentrate on that. Just as I put the head of my dick to Nancy’s pussy she said NO, not this way; she pushed me off and got on her hands and knees and said do me from behind; I like it this way the best.
       
      I have no problem with doggie style, so I got behind her and guided the head of my dick into her pussy. I normally like to start slowly, but Nancy told me to do it hard and fast. So I jammed it into the hilt. She instantly started to rock back and forth, and it took a couple of seconds to get into her rhythm, but I got there and was on the in-stroke when she was rocking back and on the outstroke when she was going forward. Like I said before, you know when Nancy comes, everybody knows when Nancy comes, and it did not take long for her to come doggie style.
       
      After she came down from her climax, her body just went limp, and she sank onto the bed face down. Ok, I understand about fast climaxes; been there and done that a time or two myself, but this is the first time I had experienced it happening with the woman I was with. Normally it’s the man that has this happening. I lay down beside her and put my arm around he, and kissed her on her shoulder. I can hear and feel her breathing hard, but that is all the response I get. I look over and Sue is still riding Dan’s dick. I see that glazed-over look in her eyes, one that I have seen many times before, and I know that she won’t last much longer. Just then, I see Dan arch his back and drive into Sue as deep as he can go, his hands are pulling Sue down onto his shaft, and I know that he is releasing his load into her. Sue is wide-eyed and tells him Yes, give it to me, and I know from being there that she has also reached her climax. I lay there and watched her rock back and forth as Dan kept his back arched to give her as much dick as he could. I know the feeling of her pussy muscles on a dick, and I know what he is feeling at this moment. They are constricting and relaxing, constricting and relaxing as she rocks back and forth. Milking every bit of his juice out that they can. I watch as they slow down, and then Sue collapses onto Dan’s chest; she starts that silly giggle that lets you know that you did a good job.
       
      Sue rolled onto her back next to Nancy and looked at me, and asked if I was enjoying myself, and I told him yes. Dan said he needed a drink and asked if any of us wanted one. Sue wanted a margarita, Nancy wanted a glass of ice water, and I said I could use a beer. As Dan was off to get the drinks, the three of us sat up in the bed, the women sat cross-legged, and I just slid up between them and used the headboard as a backrest. I could smell the must of just fucked pussy in the air. There were two women sitting crossed-legged with their pussies open for all to see, and I still had a hard-on. Sue spoke first and said to Nancy, " Did I not tell you he was a good fuck or not" At that point, I could have crawled under the bed, except that Sue was now rubbing my hard dick. Nancy agreed and said that she can’t wait to go again. Sue said that the night was young, but Nancy would just have to wait her turn now because she was next. Thank god Dan showed up with the drinks.
       
      The four of us sat there talking and sipping our drinks. We could hear the party going on in the other part of the house with the music and the occasional orgasm from one of the partygoers or another. Sue asked if we knew where Don was, and Dan said he saw him with Joann, to which Sue said, "Well, he will be occupied for a while". All this time, Sue was stroking my hard cock, then she said that it looked like I was ready to go again, and so was she. Nancy asked her if we could all do it like they did it at the last party. Sue looked at me and then back at Nancy and said that she thought it would be all right. I must have had a questioning look on my face because Sue told me that I would defiantly like this.
       
      Sue had me sit on the side of the bed with my feet on the floor. She then turned around and straddled me backward. I felt her guide my dick into her pussy as she sat down on my lap. " As exciting as the unknown is when having sex with a new partner, it is just as exciting as being in the know and having sex with someone that you have been with before. You know just what they like, and they know what trips your button; Sue knew just what to do to trip my button." She started to rotate her hips to give my dick that just-right grinding. Feeling her slow humping up and down along with the rotation was driving me insane. About that time, I felt a tongue wrapping around my balls and work up my shaft to where I was buried into Sue’s wet box. I looked around Sue to see Nancy on her hands and knees licking not only my balls and dick but also Sue’s wet pussy, and Dan was behind Nancy just fucking away. Sue started to rotate and moan, which caused me to shove up harder; Nancy was licking and sucking faster, which made Sue moan and rotate faster. It was like a snowball rolling downhill. The more it went on, the faster it got. I don’t know what was going on with Dan, and I did not care. I know that I came harder and longer into Sue’s pussy than I can ever remember doing. I remember falling back onto the bed with Sue laying on top of me and still feeling a tongue licking the both of us, and then I heard a far-off scream that said fuck me fuck yes fuck me.
       
      Sue was pulling on my arms and telling me it was time that we rejoined the party. We walked down the hall naked and into the den. We went to the bar, and I sat down on one of the stools. Sue went and got us both a drink and stood between my legs with her arms around my neck. She asked me what I thought of Nancy, and I told her that she was definitely different than any woman that I knew. She said that there was a long story behind that and she would tell me later, but not tonight, I laid my head down between her breast, and she was holding me and rubbing the back of my head when Don came walking up to join us.
       
      Don sat down on a stool, and Sue went over and put her arms around him and asked if he was having fun; I said that he looked like he had been road hard and put up wet. To which he came back with a one-word answer. " Joann". Sue and I just laughed, and I asked if she was still a whirlwind in bed, and he said that she was a man killer if you let her.
      Sue kissed us both and said that we men better get used to the whirlwinds because they are going to rule the world someday.
       
      Note from Jay:
      I have tried to express some of my feelings, thoughts, and happenings into the stories about how I got back into swinging after Dee’s death. I know that it is not your typical swing stories that you are used to reading here. I know that I have brought up couples out of the blue for those that have not been on this site for very long. There are stories posted by " Jay and Dee" that tells how we got started in the swinging lifestyle, how we found out that Don and Sue were swingers, and stories that were milestones in Dee’s and my journey into this wonderful lifestyle.
       
      A lifestyle that I thought had ended with Dee's death. A lifestyle of freedom, pleasure, understanding, and pure joy that I thought I would never be a part of again if it were not for Sue. Some might read into these stories that I have an infatuation with Sue. That is not true. I love Sue. If you go back and read The Surprise, you will know that I have known Sue since we were in elementary school. Her older brother was my best friend until we graduated high school; now, her husband is my best friend.
       
      If it were not for Sue and Don standing by me and pulling me out of my depression, getting me back into not only the lifestyle but life itself did I meet Pam.
       
      Pam is another story all together
       
      I lost Dee in 2004, and the stories about how I got back into the swing happened in 2006. In future stories, I will try not to go back too far into the past, but sometimes my thoughts go there, to a time, a place, or a person that is so important to me that I must bring it up for the story context.
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