Suburbia
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Suburbia last won the day on August 16 2010
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130 ExcellentAbout Suburbia
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- Birthday 08/21/1972
Personal Info
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Relationship Status
couple
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Location
Beavercreek, OH
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Interests
camping, drive in, playing, he likes football, she likes big dicks.
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Occupation
executive mom and stay-at-home Dad
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Swinging Experience
since June 2010
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SLS Name
suburbia
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Favorite Club(s)
swingerzonecentral
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Suburbia started following Is male bisexuality an evolving thing?, Should our first MFM be with a friend or stranger?, Lifestyle cruise question and and 4 others
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This is how my wife and I started. She sat me down after it came to pass that both of us had stepped out and said "we can either do this together or we can do it behind each others back." It has been wonderful ever since.
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I don't think that what you are describing is a "situation." Its you saying "Hey honey, do you want to..." And her replying "No." Issue closed. You have your fantasies, keep them to yourself you are a big boy and she has made her opinion clearly known. To push it or even bring it up again would show a complete disregard for her. Swinging is a veto situation.... each spouse has total veto authority at all times.
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Should our first MFM be with a friend or stranger?
Suburbia replied to bimarriedguy82's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
People you fuck and then become friends were fuckfriends first and then friends later. So it won't change the relationship because that is where it began. Having sex with someone more often than not changes the relationship. Sometimes for the good, more often for the bad. For us the potential gain isn't worth the risk of potential loss. I'm pretty certain, Cajunstep, we are on the same page on this. -
A credit score for having sex?
Suburbia replied to Trojan Defense's topic in Polls & Never-Ending Threads
I don't like the idea because it pigeon holes couples into a group. I find labels are nearly always bad in this part of my life. Just because my wife and I are wild in July doesn't mean we will feel wild in September but try us again in December. -
Should our first MFM be with a friend or stranger?
Suburbia replied to bimarriedguy82's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
Stranger. Our rule of thumb is "You Don't Fuck Your Friends." Both figuratively and literally. -
There are definitely some good thoughts here. SW-PA-couple... I don't share a difference between prejudice and bigotry in my lexicon, but I appreciate and respect that you do. I would like to say, in fairness, that I am bigoted against those who show an intolerance against LGBT.
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Who brought up the idea of swinging? OR has it been brought up?
Suburbia replied to JustAskJulie's topic in Swingers Talk
Mrs. Suburbia brought it up first and it was such a natural fit for us we both sighed and said... This is what we were missing! -
There is a line somewhere between personal preference and bigotry. Everyone probably has to define it for themselves. It crosses the line to my mind but I respect that it wouldn't cross the line to others. I think making a judgement about all others in a group based on the actions of one person in that group is bigotry. However, as soon as I write that I think: By the same token I might say I don't want to sleep with brown haired men because they remind me of my ex who hit me. Is this bigotry toward brown haired men or is it just personal preference? You might be right and Alura's statements might not be bigoted and may just be personal preference. I'm inclined to lead toward bigotry. If someone says they are disinclined to sleep with us because my husband is bi I appreciate and respect that. If someone says they are disinclined to sleep with us because my husband is bi and therefore has a higher risk of having HIV/AIDS I'll not only believe they are wrong, but bigoted against non-straight people and using AIDS to fear monger their hatred. But I do see that the lines are blurry and not everyone is going to agree with me.
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My husband loves that and will steal it from now on he tells me Situationally heteroflexible.
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I am shocked to see such open bigotry amongst the lifestyle!
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I think it's a little bit of both. You have just described very accurately my husband. He calls himself bi-curious, I call him bi. But the fact he is that he sort of likes a dick when there is a female connection with it but he wouldn't be 1:1 with a man or kiss a man. Nor could he carry a relationship with a man. Sexuality is a sliding scale and not a on/off switch. He is not straight, he is not gay... he's not even quite bi. Somewhere just to the left of straight but to the right of bi lay my husband. And it sounds like you as well are about in there. People like labels, although here is a great example of a sexuality not fitting a label. He calls it bi-curious.
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My husband is bi. I can't tell you how the lifestyle has evolved over the years... but I can tell you that some couples don't want anything to do with us because he is bi. Even with assurances that there would never be any unwanted touching. It has limited our opportunities so severely that he spoke with me about changing his profile from bi-curious to straight. I would not let him. My point here is that many bi men probably used to (and many probably still do) say they are straight to avoid the social stigma. I think our lifestyle is on the leading edge of progressive in the vanilla world so if the vanilla world is more accepting our lifestyle is that much more accepting.
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Lifestyle cruise question
Suburbia replied to Cranbrook's topic in Swinger Clubs, Parties, Resorts, and Cruises
Do you and your wife play with each other in front of others? If so that is very in the lifestyle. If you are just open minded and enjoy the excitement I also think there is a spot for that in the lifestyle, after all, we exhibitionists have to have someone to exhibit for. In short, I have NO problem with you going on the cruise. No always means no and a polite No works whether you are gay, straight, bi, swingers or vanilla. In fact, I'd share a table with you, I bet it would be fun. -
My fiance says he wants to swing, but I'm scared...
Suburbia replied to teenibopper27's topic in Curious About Swinging?
I quoted this whole post' sunshine because this mans words are gold. I cosign on this 100% -
How to get out of a bad play situation?
Suburbia replied to ClosetSwinger's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
It was his own words that ended it... even going the extra mile to make the attempt... the moment he said "You are not leaving until..." The hotel will gladly make arrangements for a taxi. No words necessary at that moment, he crossed a line, just leave. It doesn't have to be ugly, but it can no longer be polite because he crossed a line. Its a very dangerous statement to just toss around casually. I am certain that my husband would have stopped things at that moment, and if he didn't he would have gotten the signal from me. "I'm sorry but this situation is not working out for us and we need to leave now." All rebuttals would either go unanswered or a curt "we're leaving now." At that moment of "you are not leaving until" crossed a major line with me. No always means no its a fundamental law of swinging. None of us like to hurt someone's feelings. But we really do need to practice being okay saying no. Its not easy for a lot of us but it is very necessary for the play we do.