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Hey everyone. I recently have become somewhat bi curious and have found myself wondering what it would be like to do certain things with a guy, or be in a threesome with another guy and a girl and have everyone interact with one another. In the past I have been in threesomes with two women and have had foursomes where we strictly swapped partners. I've also watched my then-girlfriend with a male friend of mine, but I didn't join in; I was just a spectator. I'm very comfortable and open about sexuality and sexual situations, but I guess I am just nervous and unsure of how to initiate any type of bi situation, or even finding the right person/couple for that matter. I'm curious how some other members' first bi experiences went, how you came to be in the situation, and if you have any advice on the subject. Thanks in advance!
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We have been with a few bi curious woman couples and every one of them would kiss, feel my wife up, let her feel up the bi curious one, even let my wife eat her but not return the favor. Then we have met the Bi curious lady who will do anything. Why do they call themselves bi curious? This really has us baffled
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Julie, I don't know anything about all those percentages and all, and I guess I'm still lost over that thread a few months ago concerning the dental damn... lol I want to ask a question in all seriousness here. It's not meant to rile anyone up or degenerate into a name-calling post. Since I don't have any idea about the answer, here goes: How long does a woman stay Bi-Curious?? I ask because we personally know women who have been swinging for many years and are still saying they are Bi-Curious! In my opinion, either you are straight or bisexual. Ron, Husband of Stratecpl
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Hi everyone, Im a 32 year old man. And Im happily married. Recently I started to seriously consider having a threesome with another lady to spice up our sex life. I happen to *KNOW* for a fact that my wife is very bi-curious which makes things even easier for us, but the thing Im really not sure about is whether my wife would eventually become gay or not. I really don’t want to jeopardize the marriage and have that door opened. Your advice is most appreciated. -
We are new to swinging. Haven't done anything yet other than talk about it. My wife admits that she is really into other women's breasts. She says she isn't gay, but gets turned on by nude boobs. Seems like there are quite a few women like this. What is the best way to help her indulge: Swingers club, Strip club, Escort?
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I have posted before and have appreciated all the thoughtful feedback. My wife brought up swinging a while back and we continue to do our research. My question this time regards bisexuality. I am not at all bi-curious, but my wife has some curiosity. Her concern is that if she tries it and does not like it, how much will that limit who we can play with? I think her curiosity is two fold. On the one hand she is legitimately interested in exploring sex with a woman. On the other hand I think she feels that it helps my ego to think that her main motivation is to be with women. She has not said it specifically, but I suspect that may be the case. As for me, I don't care what her motivations are. Obviously my motivation is to have new sexual experiences with other women, so I am fine if her motivation is to have sex with other men. All that aside, which is a non-issue that she thinks may be an issue, what happens if she does not like having sex with women? Will that greatly limit the number of people who will play with us?
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So, I've been reading around on this site, adding my two cents very rarely because it always seems what I would say has already been said (gosh you guys are good!). But, now I have a true "wondering". I usually only see the women on SLS and other "friend finder" sites listed as bi, bi-curious, bi-comfortable, etc. I've only seen a few men. In the world of swinging, does the bi-sexuality rest on the female? Is that the connection between most couples? I ask this in all earnestness (and ignorance). I am what I would call bi-curious. Recently, however, I heard an interview on NPR with Micheal Stipes of R.E.M. He brought up an interesting thought when asked about his sexual orientation. He said he saw sexuality as a continuum and that all of us moved around on that continuum...the point being that none of us are really "straight" "bi" or "gay/lesbian". It was an interesting, gentle, intellectual attack on labeling human sexuality. I find that hot. I find the idea of sexuality to be fluid, but so many men seem absolutely closed to the idea of any cross-over activity between males. Am I missing something? Or is there a taboo against this in the swinging world? Just wondering. Maybe I should make this a poll. -
So I have noticed from other polls on this site that the incident of bisexual behavior is far higher than any mainstream polls taken. I have two theories as to why this may be. One is that bisexuals are more inclined to swing. The second is that a swinger who identifies as straight is more likely to explore same sex behavior. I expect there is a combination of both occurring. I plan on doing one poll for men and one for women. This poll is for men only. Due to the taboo of bisexual men that doesn’t exist for women I’m curious to see how different the results will be. Choose one of the first two options only if you have no interest in any future same sex activity. Choose any of the other three if you are open to further same sex activity. After reading other forums I should have used heteroflexible a term some like. I would put heteroflexible and Bicurious as pretty close together so you can choose 3 for that option. -
It occurred to me recently that the definition of bi-curious covers a wide range of interest level. Here are 2 examples: Woman 1: A wife who's hubby wants to see her with another woman. She has never fantasized about other women. She is interested on a very minimal level and only for her husband's pleasure. She is not at all sure if she will like it. Woman 2: A woman who has always fantasized about other women but has never had the experience. She is very interested and quite sure she will enjoy the experience when it happens. She may be actively seeking women to play with. Obviously there are many other situations and interest levels. With this range of interest levels is it fair to lump every bi-curious woman in to same definition? I've seen couples here say they don't want to play with bi-curious women, only bi. How can woman 2 get her chance? She would like to call herself bi based on her very high interest level but can't since she has never actually been with another woman. Is there another way to identify herself? Any suggestions?
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Well the thing is my partner has this huge fantasy to watch me suck off another guy, or have another guy suck me off, while she either watches or in involved. I'm personally not attracted to males in any way, but if we the right guy found to join us in general, I wouldn't mind sticking my dick in him, or having him suck me off. And as far as it goes, although I find no attraction to guys, after hearing how much of a turn-on it would be to my partner, I have become curious to give sucking another guy's cock, but now I'm wondering how I should go about this? I think the person I have join us has to be someone that I actually can personally feel is attractive in my mind, other than that I know things have to work up to this. I guess no one will say this is wrong, but what do you think?
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3 months ago my profile was "straight". But after visiting the clubs, reading stories together, and watching some videos, I have now changed it to bi-curious, because I really am. Tonight we are meeting another couple at the club, and she is bi-sexual. They are soft-swap only, which is fine, we haven't even done that yet anyway! So IF the chemistry is there and anything happens, we're all for starting out this way. So has anyone that started out bi-curious have any advice for a first-timer? I am not just "curious" to feel what it's like or anything, I really do want it. I'm not worried about not liking it, or it turning me off.
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Sorry if there's a thread on this already but I did a search and nothing came up. I see in a lot of couples profiles that the women describe their sexuality as 'bi with the right woman'. What does that mean????? Either you are bi or not or into bi play or not, IMO. Of course you won't be attracted to and interested in playing with every woman....just the same as you're not with all men. I just don't get this qualification...and would love someone to explain it.
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As we get more experienced with swinging 1-2 years now, we are surprised that in the majority of profiles when we talk with other couples that girl / girl play is a condition of swinging. We would estimate 90% of couples out there insist on some girl/girl play, originally we thought swinging was about swapping partners, we are curious how many others have found the same. It certainly limits the playing field if our ladies are straight!
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Hello ALL!!! Currently, I have posted on my swinger profiles that I am bi-curious. But I am finding it a little annoying that couples make this precedence that I will be active with both of them. I almost feel like I need to list myself as straight to allow myself some breathing room to open up instead of everyone assuming I am an opportunity for them. I find it funny most men have this highly formulated excuse as to why they don't list their bisexual classification. Since they can fly hawkeye, then it's not assumed and they don't feel the pressure to perform. If something happens, it will happen behind closed doors where no one will know. As if some sort of blue ball disease will fall on them if they list themselves bi-anything. The totally 100% straight line always makes me giggle! I think it's extremely unbalanced and the pressure for women to be bisexual sucks. I am highly clairvoyant so I feel and hear what's going through their (other couple) minds, how they try to control and manipulate our relations [speaking from a totally undefensive place.]. I feel a tremendous sense of pressure from both the man and the woman of their attraction to/expectations of me. It's enough dealing with the attraction of one member (male) of the couple but then 2. I can feel how the husbands are craving to see their wives in action with me. The pressure becomes nauseating, uncomfortable, and disempowering. What I found was, I was burying this down in my body and making myself unwell. I have stopped this pattern. I have not had a bi experience yet. I am still throwing the idea around. It seems in the lifestyle as if it's expected that women SHOULD be bisexual and favored if so. I've heard, "Well, no ones forcing you to do anything!" No, no one will ever force me to do anything. But I feel that sense from people and what they desire. Because if you're not bi enough for them then we don't want to be friends. Yuck! I say, everybody needs to sit in a bucket of ice and cool down. So, my questions boil down to: Does it help to list myself as Straight to allow myself some breathing room? I was told I narrow my chances of meeting cool people by listing myself as straight. (There again, tremendous pressure is then hinged on getting a high level of interest from couples because of my sexual orientation listing.) How do I deal with this pressure? I am nuts for feeling this way? Has anyone else had similiar feelings? Maybe it just boils down to my desire to make everyone happy. Forget it! Right? I love people. That is the sole reason I'm in this lifestyle! But the desires get a little overwhelming for me. HELP!!!!
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To start, I should let you know a little about our swinging life. Our first experience was last November. We played with them only once. The second couple we played with was in January and we played with them 3 times. We are still friends with both couples and both times it was full swap, seperate rooms. We took a break for a while just to make sure it was all settling okay and "re-joined" the lifestyle a couple of months ago, but we have only played twice since then... the most recent of those times being the focus of my little issue. The first time was soft swap, same room, which I was trying because I wanted to see if I could do full swap, same room... something Mr. Magrathea would like to try. Turns out, I know myself pretty well and when I said seperate rooms only I was spot on. Then came Friday...... We invited J & M out for dinner and then to our house. They are the couple that we tried the same room thing with about a month and a half ago. They are soft swap, same room and we are full swap, seperate rooms so we all concluded that it wasn't a match right now and we would be vanilla(ish). Also, neither M nor I are bisexual. Write that down, it will be important later. Anyway, the evening started out with J announcing that the vanilla thing was totally official (he's waffled on it a few times) and then we all just hung out. Once my babies went to bed we started drinking. M and I weren't messing around about drinking so we had about 8 or 9 shots. At that point the question of what toys we own came up and we brought out the box. In the box we have this glow in the dark glitter stuff and M and I put some on just for fun. Shortly thereafter we decided it needed to be washed off. I said I was going to hop in the shower and J said something like, "you both can take one together" to which we promptly agreed. M and I thought it would be fun to put on a little show for the boys, but somehow our show ventured away from being just a show. We ended up kissing and fingering eachother even when the guys weren't there. Then we decided they should go to the store for a strap on. While they were gone, we couldn't keep our hands off eachother. We fooled around a bit and she went down on me. When the guys got home we ended up having sex with our husband on the same bed and after as we all laid there they mentioned that they went all the way to the store for the toys. We decided to try them and M fucked me with the strap on. Here's the issue: I really did have fun, so much so that I would be interested in exploring it further, but I have a bit of 'buyers remorse'. The current working theory is that I am NOT bi and I sort of like that theory. I am torn between wanting to play with another woman and feeling a bit shamed because I already have. I talked to my husband a bit and he claims to have "always known" and says that I'm denying myself. I just don't know what to do with everything that has happened. I guess I just want your thoughts and maybe a few probing questions so I can try and work this out. Thanks bunches. Mag -
In trying to locate a compatible couple it seems most of the female half are bi or bi-curious which makes compatibly an issue. Why is this?
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It seems TO ME that when a woman says she is BI Curious, it really means she is willing to allow another woman do things to her, but not to reciprocate. Is anyone finding this out,too?
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Someone we're chatting with online the other day asked me if I was bi or straight or bi curious. I truthfully didn't know what to tell her. I've never been with another woman, but the thought turns me on greatly. I find myself looking at other women (but an attractive guy can turn my head just as quickly) and two women together in porn has always turned me on more than a man/woman combination. So, do I call myself bi-curious because I haven't actually had the experience yet, or am I actually bi by default just because of my interest in the opposite sex or is it just a personal preference as to what one considers themselves?facelick
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We are still at the talking stage. We have talked a lot about it and are interested in proceeding further. One problem is that there seem to be very few couples with straight females and bisexual/bi-curious males. My wife is VERY straight but I have been fantasizing about masturbating another cock and sucking a cock for years. She is aware and thinks it would be hot to watch.
