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Lovers4U

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About Lovers4U

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  • Birthday April 5

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    couple/m/f
  • Location
    Sacramento/Chico, CA
  • Interests
    stamps, collectables, gardening,book collecting, and much more.
  • Occupation
    Health care
  • Swinging Experience
    10 y

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    lovers4u

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  1. Being outed! My wife's profession is very sensitive to living outside the norm. she can discuss it with patients but no reveal that she and I live poly.
  2. I retired early and my sweetie is in an area of medicine and sees 20 to 30 patients a day. I am in the process of developing a "Relationship Support" program to assist singles, couples or more solve issues they encounter. I am going to use movies, materials off the internet and other information I have. It is going to be challenging but fun. We also plan to use our very private front lawn are to host small weddings. I also have invented a device that will make traveling with "hang up" clothes much easier to manage. Also am busy developing an addition to "Lazy Susan" corners in kitchens. Just call me BUSY. Trying to keep up with my sweetie. Perhaps with the travel device we can become "millionaires" and use the device whenever we travel. Millionaires? SURE! If the government quits taking so much tax money one could just live! Swinging is the antidote for grabby government!!
  3. My wife has a lover that has been with her and once in awhile we both spend time with him. As he and I have become more close I have felt my wife does love him and I see no problem with that. He cares for her just as I would when they are together. Love is a word that means many thing to persons. I like it to mean that she cares for him just like she cares for me. She will not leave as we have a different love relation. What is love? It is kind, it is blind, it overlooks some problems, it is good communication, it is caring for another, it is just being a person who is willing to be involved in another's life in ways similar to a husband or wife, it is just recognizing that involvement with another can lead to love and guidelines must be discussed with all so misunderstanding does not disturb a beautiful relationship. And love can be many other ideas. That's just our take on the love question.
  4. Because of our profession we have to disguise a portion of our names. I use my first and use the middle of my wife's which few persons know. When we become acquainted or meet the first time, then we will explain the use of one name vs. the first. There has never been any concern or misunderstanding by anyone we meet.
  5. Unless a site has a way to only allow those who are really interested and will not share the pictures, or the site has a no copy built in, than we cannot put pictures on our personal ad. Our profession would be seriously affected if the pictures and activity were exposed. It is unfortunate that life is such but we have had a few who will "risk" getting acquainted with us. We find that if a couple or single is willing to go to a restaurant for a drink or light meal, and we can pay if necessary, it is easily to talk and really find out if the fun and chemistry is there. It just takes a little more effort. We are willing also to send pictures of us by another e-mail address that is private for the couple.
  6. My wife and I have had numerous MFM threesomes and I think that the term gang bang is a misnomer. It's no different than a FMF other than the majority gender in one versus the other. The term gang bang seems to me to be where more than two men are having sex with one female or a group of men are having sex with a set number of females. The MFM and FMF can become much more intimate, and loving if desired, where the gang bang, in my thinking, because of the number of males or in a reverse i.e. many females having sex with a set number of malesthe situation almost precludes the intimacy of the MFM or FMF interaction. What are othewrs take on this comment?
  7. My lover and I are both in the professional medical field. She practices and I, an RN occasionally cover in Surgery.
  8. It is interesting that a penis of observable shorter length will become much larger when erect than a penis that is longer at flaccid state. It really just supports the idea that how the male uses it is better than just size. Sure for some size does matter but usually the male is hung up on size and not on really pleasuring the female. Yes, there are exceptions but most polls of women support the idea that size really doesn't matter. YES! It's how a man uses it.
  9. We would like to see a private folder that only requests could be given permission to open. Our professions make it imperative that our pics aren't seen by just anyone. The Swingers Lifestyle profiles does this and perhaps a similar set up could be on the Swingers Board. Life is potentially too stressful, without freaks seeing your pic and sharing with cyberspace and community.
  10. Our desire is to find a couple or single person who would be able to live with us to share, EQUALLY, the home we own, share a relationship of equality, share the rewards of ownership and maintenance, and share each other intimately in ways that we grow together. As we mature it would be great to support each other to continue maintaining, as one family, this home, travel together, share the many activities we are involved in together, with compromise and "give and take". Yes this is an ideal outcome and we fantasize and dream but what is life if this isn't a part of it. Along with this dream we would also desire each to be able to bring others into each relationship as desired and continue to enjoy other activities that include sexuality and pleasure. How this would come about must be with total honest communication from each as to their aspirations and goals.
  11. We have to use "aliases" in our posts and personals due to the high profile of our chosen professions in our community. This community, though medium population, has a "gossip tube" especially in the area of our profession. If somehow our real names were exposed it would affect our profession and make it difficult if not impossible to work. It might appear weird to some but we are very aware, as our community has a large population that espouses conservatism, though maybe only social, and large progressive liberal. We just can't take that risk if we want to continue to maintain an income to support our profession. We do tell our real names as soon as the communication develops to the point that we feel they can be discrete and respectful of our requirements.
  12. My wife has had anal with just about every guy she has been with. It isn't her favorite but she recognizes that men do enjoy it and anal does get her excited. We are more concerned about the situation and is the partner aware of the risks if not done with much concern for hygiene. No anal to vagina etc. unless complete cleaning of the penis. All threesomes we have been involved in, include anal at some point usually a DP which my wife enjoys very much.
  13. My wife and I have never cheated on each other, though on a visit to see a former friend they ended up in bed. We had discussed a relationship such as this many times and when she returned she told about what happened and I never considered it "cheating". Later we spent time occasionally with him and never thought of the cheating angle. We believe that cheating comes only from not telling a partner or trying to lie to avoid any consequences. My wife visits a man occasionally, who married after they had they had not been having sex together for awhile. His new wife knows he is with another person occasionally but not whom. She has just told him she doesn't want to know about it, period. A stretch might call this cheating but I'm not sure as his wife is aware just doesn't want to know about it. I am fully aware and even help her get ready to visit him. We have communicated to each other that when either plans to be apart for sexual activity the other will know. When we swing there isn't a problem at all. That's our philosophy but others might vary.
  14. Anatomically and physiologically there is a significant number of women who cannot orgasm with penetration. Perhaps it's the position they use for intercourse or some other reason. My wife cannot and with another man she just enjoys the fullness and variety. Afterwards she uses a vibrator and when well rested she has orgasmed more than 35 times. I very much enjoy lying next to her while she brings herself to orgasm as I am just as pleased when she does.
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