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bjersr last won the day on January 31 2011

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About bjersr

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  • Birthday 08/15/1964

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Atlanta
  • Interests
    Aviation, working on cars, Lifting weights, Playing the Violin
  • Occupation
    Pilot/Teacher
  • Anniversary
    10/12/1987

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    bjersr
  • Favorite Club(s)
    Trapeze

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  1. I see a lot of ads for people looking for other "Fit" individuals. To preface this I'm state (not just some fly by night organization) certified Health and Wellness instructor and a record holding weight lifter, so I feel like I kind of know what I'm talking about. So what is the definition of fit? I see a lot of skinny people who claim to be fit, I see a lot of people who've had A LOT of plastic surgery claiming to be fit. So I was wondering what most people think is fit. I know and understand and acknowledge that we are all entitled to search out who we are attracted to.
  2. If you have low T levels then get to a endocrinologist. Educate yourself on what testosterone does for the male body. Don't get hung up on the "steroids will turn you into a monster" bullshit. I've been giving myself injections one every 10 days for years and it is a straight up miracle drug for me. Yes you have to monitor your PSA levels but if you are over 35 you should be doing that anyway. As far as ED drugs, All of the over the counter "testosterone boosters" are a complete waste of money. If they raise your test levels its only by just a tiny bit. Horny Goat weed is a very good natural ED drug if you can find it. If your doc won't give you Viagra or Cialis then find a new doc. I like Cialis because it last more than one day. I get the 10mg and cut them in half.
  3. We went to the Desire in Cabo when it was Temptations. It's small but very nice. the staff is outstanding and the rooms are nice. The beach is not very good though. If you tip them just a little, especially the pool wait staff, they will take care of you even better. There is a place like a Super Wal-mart just up the hill if you forget anything. We enjoyed that place when it was just topless I can only imagine it would be even better nude HAVE FUN.
  4. We've been twice and had a great time. We are swingers but didn't swing the first time. It was a much more fun crowd the first time. We are exclusive with a couple now and we all went down last summer it was kind of dead. But we had our best friend so it didn't matter too much to us. Our friends have been to Hedo several times and said the only thing about Hedo that was better is they had entertainment every night. But we love Desire.
  5. Just thought I would put in my 2 cents worth. We eventually decided to goto Desire RM (Pearl wasn't open then) our first visit in Sept 2011. It was great very laid back and relaxing. We didn't play with anyone however. We had some close friends that had been to Hedo and talk about how run down it was, and that helped us to decided. Over the past year we have become very good friends with the cpl that had been to Hedo and we all went to Desire RM together this past June 2012. It was wonderful even better than before because we had someone to hang out with and play with, because we have basically become exclusive with them. We went to visit Pearl it is very nice but it usually is only about half full right now because people don't know about it. It is more expensive but the rooms are much nicer. We were talking the other day and I think the 4 of us are going to try Hedo next summer. They go down with a big group and said we should go with them. So we will see. Our 25th wedding anniversary is coming up in Sept. and we are thinking about going back to desire again LOL. That will be 3 times in one year. One last thing the crowd can turn it into a completely different kind of place.
  6. Hey Noobwithboobs, It's too bad you live so far away, we would hit you up. With that said I kind of have to agree with Two4youinswva about the soft swap and no kissing. As far as you profile. The opening line is a little negative. You say the same basic thing again near the bottom. I would just take the first line out. if you met the right couple and felt comfortable with them would you be flexible on the kissing and soft swap. If so mention that. I almost hate to say this but you said to be brutally honest. If you don't want to kiss and you are only into Soft swap, are you sure you are ready for the "Lifestyle". I don't want you to leave because you are a sexy couple, but it's not for everyone. Something we have found is that it seems like it's ether feast or famine. We will get hit on a lot and then nothing for a while. Sometimes it just takes patience. I think we posted a very similar post as you several months ago, and we finally got some interest and are having a great time.
  7. Thanks for the input and you make a couple of very good points. Again I knew I could depend of the people here for great info.
  8. We recently changed of profile on SLS and AFF. You guys have always been helpful and offered great advise. Take a look if you don't mind. Our old one was the frist one we ever posted and it seemed a little stuffy, we are far from that. We also have a better idea of what we are looking for. Thanks it's "Bjersr" on both sites
  9. Any advice? Get a car that gets good gas mileage LOL. Thats a poor attempt at humor. We live in a rural area also. All of our regular play friends live at least an hour away, some about 2. We have just got use to it. Like others have said sometime it's better not to play in your own backyard so to speak. It's not that we are against playing near where we live we just haven't met many couple near where we live that we are interested in. Quality of character and compatiblity in the couples we play with is more important that location. Keep looking you will find what you are looking for.
  10. The exact thing happens to us. I am a power lifter so I carry a lot of weight. I’m 601 275 I was almost 300, I lost 25 lbs because of surgery. I just put it in our profile. I state clearly I am not HWP but I’m not fat. There are a lot of couples that say they are looking for a couple when they are really just looking for another woman. When I take my shirt off and they feel how hard my muscles are they usually don’t complain LOL. We were at a swinging club recently standing at the bar with no shirt on and a towel around my waist. The next thing I know I feel a woman’s hands run up and down my back. Then I hear “I just love man with a wide back“. So keep looking there are plenty of wonderful women with great attitudes toward us BIG GUYS. My wife loves big guys. Whenever we get turned down because of my size or they are just looking for her. She tells them no thanks and then tells me, they don’t know what they are missing. Stay positive and you will find the right couple that will appreciate you AND your husband.
  11. There is a medical condition called retrograde ejaculation. Where when a man has an orgasm it goes into his bladder instead of out the penis. I recently had back surgery and the nerve that controls this can get damaged or traumatized during this surgery. I suffer from this slightly, but it usually fixes itself in 6 months to a year. Some guys have it permanently. So sometimes a man can have an orgasm and nothing comes out. Have I faked an orgasm yes. When I was younger I would cum prematurely, but I would stay hard. I would keep pumping then eventually pretend like I came.
  12. We have found a group that is going down the same time we are and even joined their forum. They seem like a nice group of folks. That is making it even harder to decide. We are leaning more toward Desire with Hedo running a close second. Temptations is still in the running because of the cost. I'm with the airlines and we use an travel agency that gets discounts for airline employees. Temptation gives a DEEP discount. Get an OK one on Hedo and hardly any on Desire LOL. Still though the pics of Desire look awesome. I heard pluses and minuses on Hedo and Temptations, but I don't think I've heard anything negative about Desires.
  13. First off thanks for all the input. We have posted this on 2 other boards on top of this one. We've got the same basic response on all three. We will probably be going to Desire, but have not made up our minds fully yet. Again thanks for all the input.
  14. I guess what we are looking for is which one is the most Lifestyle friendly. We are not going to have sex all day. We manly want to relax meet some new people and have some fun. But at the end of the day we would like to find some couples to play with. Some friends just got back from Hedo they have been 4 times. This year was the worst due to some facility problem. (No hot water in the room for 2 days). And the AC didn't work all that well. Sounds like desire might be the best fit. Our friends did tell us it's more fun to go to Hedo with a group. We have found a group to hook up with but we are still unsure where to go. thanks for all the advise so far.
  15. We are planning a trip for Sept. But we are trying to decide which one to go to. We've heard some good thing about all three. We went to Temptations in Cabo last year, but the one we are thinking about going to this time is in Cancun. Any info or advise would be greatly appreciated. We are not worried about going to Mexico. We were just down there in April and had no problem. Thanks ahead of time
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