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California
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since 2007
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asncpl started following Women, what's your preference for handling multiple men?, BDSM & Swinging, Dinner before playing and and 6 others
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We are actively involved with both swinging and BDSM, and we've managed to keep them separate mostly. Sometimes light BDSM overlaps into swinging, like some spanking or restraint, but it was discussed beforehand. I have never come across a situation where it's a requirement for swinging. I have had situations where the partners asked about BDSM play, I said no, and they still wanted to play without it. My experience is that serious BDSM people are among the most respectful out there. Before every play I've ever had, all involved spent a decent amount of time discussing what's going to happen, what are the limits and boundaries, and how to stop a scene. There is no requirement in BDSM; only request. I think you are right to be concerned, especially if it's not your cup of tea.
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I have to eat but I prefer to do it a few hours before play and not with the other couple. This is just me, but I'm too worried about gas, bad breath, food stuck between my teeth to go eat and play right after with another couple. I need a couple of hours between meal and play for digestion and some flossing.
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What drove me wild is actually Joel Kinnaman in Altered Carbon, but let's not digress. After being at it for so long, we actually had similar feelings. So I don't think there is anything wrong with you. And like others said, mixing it up helps. For us, that means more roleplay. I think I mentioned before that we are into cuckold roleplay these days, which really gets Mr. A going. As we get older, we find that mental stimulation counts as much as physical. The kinks may be the same, but half the fun is getting there. Setting up playful situations and unique meeting places get me going before I even take my clothes off. And we often solicit new ideas from play partners, so we don't have to do all the thinking ourselves.
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How does a woman nicely tell a man he is too big?
asncpl replied to njbm's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
I'm slightly taller than your wife, barely 5'2, and I also have some vaginal dryness issue due to the birth control I take. The pain she feels is likely the penis hitting the cervix. I usually do try to be a good sport about it, applying plenty of lube and trying different positions. It also helps to have lots of foreplay and go slow. Arousal actually makes more room inside the vagina (google "vagina tenting"). I also have no problem telling a guy that I can only take half of it and that he can't put the whole enchilada in. Half or whatever is better than not playing, and you can be creative like using a small vibrator on the part of the cock that he can't put inside. Oral sex and handjobs are also alternatives. It doesn't have to be all-or-nothing approach. If you really don't want to play at all, I would be honest about it and put it in a complimentary way. I think most men would be flatter if a woman says he's huge.- 16 replies
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Exploring gang-bang scenarios with couples
asncpl replied to KuriousKitty101's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
I don't think other couples have to "give up" their husbands for an evening. Having been to a few similar parties myself, I've seen the wives participate as "fluffers", or if they are bisexual, they can play among themselves. Many, including myself, find watching just as erotic and engaging. In my experience too, single guys are very flaky, unless you have a club or a group planning it for you. -
That's pretty much summed up our experience. So we made some adjustments. Mr. A wouldn't be in the room, but I'll keep my mobile phone line open or, if the guy is not shy, I'll have Facetime going and leave my phone on the nightstand so Mr. A can see.
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I was 13. He was 16. It was consensual but I really didn't know what I was doing or what I wanted. And it wasn't even that much fun. It hurt, and then it was over. In hindsight, which is always 20/20, I should've waited.
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I see that your profile says couples only but . . .
asncpl replied to SW_PA_Couple's topic in Finding People to Swing With
Other than the biological urge identified by njbm, I'm wondering has this ever worked? Actually, here is a better question: has anyone actually decided to connect with a single male despite posting a profile that says "couples only"? I know I haven't. Makes me wonder what is the success rate of this approach is. -
I have to say I'm not into it either. Hate it when cum gets in my eyes and hair. I have guys asked to cum on my face and I offered to swallow instead and no one has said no yet.
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Women, what's your preference for handling multiple men?
asncpl replied to Fi86's topic in Polls & Never-Ending Threads
Feel so slutty:blush:...I like everything except DAP which I have never tried. And judging from the poll results, not many others have either. Is that even possible? -
We do dabble in cuckold fantasy but it's something that evolved from swinging. What I've seen, including our own experience, is that usually the husband is the cuck and the bull is someone from outside the relationship. The turn-on is the humiliation suffered by the husband/cuck in having someone else satisfies his wife, and that whole purpose is lost if the cuck is someone you barely know. What you described seems like more of a dom/sub relationship. Anyhow, your best bet may be just to ask your Daddy Dom if that's something he wants to try.
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How bisexual are you and the husbands you know? Is it oral sex only or anal intercourse with another guy? Our experience, and Mr. A is completely bisexual too, is that many husbands are ok with receiving oral sex from another man, especially when it's the a tag team from both husband and wife. As you go from that to giving a blowjob and to anal sex, the percentages decrease significantly.
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I get distracted by music with lyrics, so I prefer a bit of electronica or lounge, something relaxing but not so much that I fall asleep.
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We have never let "420 friendly" deter us from contacting or meeting another couple. We have partake but it's also not a deal breaker. But I'll say so far none of the "420 friendly" partners we have meet were crazy druggies. If we also want to partake, they'd gladly share, and if we don't, they have no problem with it. I am not a big 420 person but sometimes it does make me horny. I know there are different strain or kinds. But in the grand scheme of things, it's not something that's high on the list of choosing partners.
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Hot wife vs. cuckold, what's the difference?
asncpl replied to MarniJohn's topic in Curious About Swinging?
I'd also add that hotwife is more about physical sex, but cuckolding explores the emotional and mental aspects, in addition to sex. A hotwife may simply have sex with men other than her husband, but the humiliation and dom/sub role of a cuckold relationship add something more of a mental stimulation.