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Maria..I'm sorry for taking so long to answer...I've really gotten behind. Actually we've not had one question about it since the removing it from the profile! I am really grateful for the advice. I'm going to post a thread..when I get the chance...because our one "close couples" have been, a little more than what I'd call, hinting about going to full swap. Perhaps since we've known them for months now and Hubby has always, for lack of a better term, "handled her with extra care" she has reconsidered. I don't mean "handled" in a bad way, I just don't know how else to explain it. Perhaps treated her very carefully or tender? Thanks a bunch for asking! Thanks to all for the advice!

Well, as I posted here before, Hubby made our profile name a year ago in Feb. I looked into trying to change it simply because I don't nor would ever want to offend someone. However, making a new profile does cause some problems. First there are people who we've certified, those certs would go away, not really a big deal I guess since we could "re cert" them from our new profile. Our certs would go away, which really isn't a big deal since we've only played with two of them, who we are still very close with. We still talk with all of them and they could "re cert" our new profile as well. Truly I wouldn't care if we had any certs at all! But Hubby says that "coupleswing69" is who we "are" now for lack of a better explanation. Would people who know us think we were weird, or that something "bad" happened if we were to change it? Also, we've set up our screen names on chatting programs to match our profile , so would we change those as well? I'm trying to think up something inventive for the Board, so that our screen name here, doesn't keep anyone from reading our (mostly mine) posts and so that it doesn't offend anyone. Help?!?! What should we do?

Geesh...I think we've done everything wrong! Hubby made our profile name a year ago in Feb. I don't think I can change it now...uh oh..

I'm sorry but now I'm confused..its the blonde coming out in me I think...

I don't know that any of these are offensive alone. When someone messages, doesn't use periods, capital letters, non stop "text style" wording that can sometimes be a problem for me. We may or may not give a "we're not interested response" depending on the profile. But if the subject of the message is similar to one I recently received "hey hun" or the first line of the message is something like "ya wanna fuck". Its a pretty sure bet that they are going to get a "no thank you" response from us. Simply because we're not looking just to have sex with as many people as we can. We're looking for people that we can be friends with too. We have kids and we have picnics that we invite our swinging friends and our families to. We're not "crass" or rude people and we really wouldn't want to be friends with "crass" or rude people, let alone expose them to our families. Is that stupid?

Well I kinda think that we're abnormal....I mean truly how many 4'11" women do you see? Especially married to a guy who's 6'4"? Since we've been married people have always commented on the height difference. A close friend once told us that when we are nose to nose, my toes are in it and when we're toes to toes, my nose is in it...lol. I do truly wish I was taller...*sigh* but I think Hubby likes it when were "toes to toes...lol

Uh oh...I have the Ken and Barbie one in ours...I put it there mostly because I'm only 4'11" and he is almost 6'4"...I had a couple that we met once say to me "I thought you'd be taller!" duh...apparently they didn't read the profile...or skipped the "stat" part. How tall did they thing that 4'11" is if they did read it? Let me tell ya...its not that tall! Geesh I'm going to take out the Ken and Barbie part...I didn't know that people didn't like that. Thanks for the info!

I'm not really sure how to answer this question since I have a lacking in comparison. I would say over 6 inches is nicely hung and over 8 inches is well hung? Perhaps I'm wrong? IDK?

We do try to make a trip to the club of our choice (actually the only one that we've been to) about every 2 months and its about $150 for that night. However, we do have 2 close couples that we go out with regulary, about every 2 weeks. By the time we pay the babysitter (the sitter normally keeps both sets of kiddos luckily), snacks and pizza for the kids and sitter, dinner for us and drinks, it hits us about the same price range. We have actually done some budget searching as well and are going to cut back to once a month. Whether it be a club or going out. We love having fun and going out but we've got 3 kiddos to put through college soon and one wants to be a D.O. Of curse family first! But Mom and Dad need some fun too to help retain their sanity! Hope this helps some!

Well to start, it wasn't my Hubby complaining....it was me. Actually he's never complained. Of course there is the possibility that there is some OTHER REASON that these two couples don't play with us. We do soft play, by the way, with both of them. Everyone involved enjoys themselves. At least that's my take from the from the noise that we all make...lol. We also have family picnics, holiday parties, and go out as friends without play involved (sometimes...lol). So is there another reason, could be, perhaps I should ask them! Thanks for thought.

Thanks a bunch Maria....and to answer your question we do soft play with both couples. To be honest, now that you've "typed" it, when we do soft play the "she" that is intimidated seems to enjoy herself thoroughly, while keeping an eye on her husband. So perhaps she is "fearful" that "he" would be upset that she enjoyed it. I think maybe we should strike up this conversation with them. By any means we don't want to hurt anyone's relationship that's for sure. Maybe she is just "fearful" of what her Hubby would think about her enjoying it....thanks for bringing that thought to the table.

Thanks Spoonmonkey for reminding me to cool my jets.......I am very defensive of my husband especially when he is being blamed for "getting off" about something he is very shy about. Especially when I posted the question. All coming from a man calls a woman a cow . Bravo to all of you who have given some great advice! I've made some changes to the profile and have learned some "verbiage"...lol. My very first thought was to no longer post here but I'm not willing to give up the advice and friends that I'm making here. Thanks to all of you!

I'd just like to make the statement that I (the WIFE) didn't even tell my husband that I had posted this question. He hasn't posted here since April I believe. To be honest, he is very shy about the fact, so I came here seeking help. Glad to know that when people (especially wives) have questions like these, that its blamed on a husband who is getting off on his cock size. As far as it rarely happening...we have two couples who we have become very close friends without benefits because in one couple the female is intimidated and in the other the husband is. We love their friendship because we talk OPENLY about everything. However I was seeking advice on how to keep this from being a factor. SO for you it may rarely happen but for us its happened twice in a year! I thought that the Swinger's Board was a place where you could seek advice and ask questions without being ridiculed. Apparently, I was wrong. Thanks a lot.

Any one willing to give us a profile review (coupleswing69)? Any advice will be appreciated! Thanks!

Hey all! I never imagined that I would get this much advice in such a short time! I have taken the advice to redo our profile some. I also took out my bra size statement. I think the pic says it all. Which by the way I wish that Hubby would change but he says its his favorite...lol Thanks to everyone for reviewing our profile and giving me the ideas. Perhaps that will stop the "question" and the "thinking"......lol. Please keep the advice coming! Thank you Tybee for understanding that I was trying to explain his size without stating it exactly...lol and for the archive link!