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My posting took a strange direction. NO RAPE FANTASY!!! I wasn’t looking for anything close to be called rape, real or fantasy. Don’t be offended, I looked for a hard fuck, a different fuck, an exciting experience with a new man and going further outside my real me with a woman. In the movie she was a prostitute having random sex. I’m not a prostitute I just wanted random exciting sex. My husband is wonderful talking about how we can go outside our norms. Our meeting is for sex not for friendship. I was attracted to a look that is not a look I usually am attracted to. Last night things went fast with very little getting to know time. I was not the usual me, I didn’t care. Fifteen minutes after meeting I was ready. I was open telling him I wanted hard and aggressive. My husband and the wife wanted watch both nude. He lived up to my wants not my expectations. I wanted to howl like in the movies, I didn’t. He kept going about 10 minutes of very hard thrusting, I enjoyed up to the time he ran out of steam. I can tell he sensed I was completely satisfied, asking if I enjoyed. Then the lookers got busy my husband slightly more aggressive from our normal. I am not a voyeur or an exhibitionist, it is still normalizing the new lifestyle. Step 2, I wanted her to take me orally as they did in the movie. She got me. I felt I needed to reciprocate. I felt like I did it right by the way she responded. Rest time, small talk and one more time. This time, all four of us on the bed with Ladies Up. Cowgirls, this time I was the controller and this time very satisfied. Hard aggressive was fun if not great, it was different, something that we all wanted. Every person is different, the reason for us to meet others.

We are ten year swinging veterans, just over Medicare age. We lived in the New York metro area and never had trouble meeting new swinging partners in the area. We recently moved to south Florida for the extended winter. We are on two online swinging sites. Plenty of interest from metro New Yorkers, little interest from Floridians. Cannot complain, enough is going on, but we are a little surprised. We thought people our age group would be here. Maybe they and we are aging out of this hobby.

If you haven't been to Secret's you need to go or at least look up the pictures on the Google reviews- it's crazy how decorative people have gone on the "condos" which are old hotel rooms redone. The resort is very top notch 👌. I also suspect people say they take a couple's week at Walt Disney World but go to Secret's.

I hadn't been on here in a while- congrats on your retirements! So there's Trapeze and Rooftop Resort in Fort Lauderdale Florida area, Secret's Hideaway Resort in Kissimmee near Orlando. We definitely saw people at Secret's who were senior citizens when attending in February 2023. We're over 50 ourselves. Have heard that Trapeze trends younger but no direct knowledge of that. Rooftop Resort in Fort Lauderdale advertises a great bunch of events. Unfortunately we haven't made it yet because we are usually visiting our vanilla relatives in Fort Lauderdale and can't get free for an evening... 😆 I had a "couple for male" posting on Doublelist meetup site (a free private successor to Craigslist personals) that generated alot of interest when we visited Fort Lauderdale in January but then again vanilla scheduling stopped us from any playing around. Fort Lauderdale and Miami also pick up people going on cruises with a day or two in a hotel prior to the cruise who might cut loose somewhat... And Haulover Nude beach towards Miami is supposed to be fun too from what I've read...

It can be difficult without the right communication, and impossible to enjoy with a partner unwilling to communicate like you experienced. Some are put off if it doesn't align with their own fantasy, some want to please and go about making that fantasy said in the moment come to fruition, some make unnecessary judgements... So much can go wrong when we let someone into our head like that, especially under the most heightened arousal. I absolutely loved that I can do that with my husband and not worry about anything at all. Screwing that up would be like losing trust to me. I'm glad I decided to ask an open minded group here, one that my husband had actually told me about. Thanks for your understanding and encouragement!

Fantasies are just that a fantasy! In a healthy relationship people should be able to share their fantasies as just that a fantasy. There are fantasies I have and I share them with the missus knowing that some of them are not her fantasies! Same goes for her with me. No one should ever feel pressured to do anything they are not interested in doing. If someone can not be fulfilled if every one of their fantasies don’t happen then they will never be satisfied. If I tried to guilt her into doing something she didn’t want to do or her to me there would be a problem. That is a good way to push someone away and make them question their relationship. People should spend more time thinking about the positive things they have going in their relationship then focusing on what they feel they are missing out on.

I love a woman that can and will express her fantasies during sex and outside of sex. I DO NOT however, expect any of those fantasies to be made real. I think teasing and foreplay (as it was once called) are super hot. They are lubricant for the mind and when used before, during and even after sex, makes the entire experience more fulfilling. At least for me. I'd hope your husband can enjoy the moment, and not assign expectations. Really being in the moment is hot as fuck.

We play with the same small group primarily with one of our friends being more aggressive. I once asked if he was hurting the women never hearing any complaints. It made me become somewhat more forceful too.

Poor Things with Emma Stone Worried adds excitement to the unknown every time we meet anyone new. We are still getting used to initial flutters, our first time having sex, just getting naked took time adding to the excitement. I figure most people looking on a swingers site are more hardcore, we are still newbies, our first was only months ago. I want restrained aggressiveness, not painful, pleasurably aggressive. We are married six years with half during the pandemic, plenty of role play. We had many laughs about the Amazon delivery knew about packages. My husband can be aggressive sexually and very satisfying in a predictable way. That sounds bad, it’s not. He is also an avid gym goer who looks at asses on the elliptical and enjoys telling me about it. He also tells me about some real gym rats that would “fuck me good”. We are open about wants and sexy talk, he knows because I told him about my feelings with the few we met. The excitement of newness and the unknown. FaceTime with the woman has gotten me even more wanting to meet. I think she won’t be afraid that something extra I want. Please have the reality meet the anticipation.

I think one of the perks of the Lifestyle is the freedom to experiment with people and situations outside your norm. Be adventurous. Push your boundaries. Usually you find there was nothing to be afraid of. Was the movie "Poor Things"?

So yes most women are in some form of relationshipmost are either married to a man or dating a man. I have been to several social events and play parties since this post and I have seen the spectrum. I've met a couple lesbians but most of the women seem to be in committed relationships with men and fall in the bisexual to bicurious category. Most are there with their husband's permission but I have meet a few who have been there secretly. I have created a few solid friendships that have continued outside the skirt club environment. One has developed into a true BFF relationship and another is more of a monthly to bi-monthly rendezvous for casual sex. I really enjoy the play parties, they are very disarming and the hostesses are great at helping break the ice and get things moving in a fun stress-free direction. The website has a social feature so you can meet people before events. Often a group of ladies in NY get together for drinks before the play parties so they go in knowing someone which is nice. It is way different that a swing club environment. It's all female energy, very respectful, and not aggressive. Some women at play parties just watch and socialize many participate in the "play" part of the evening. And the play is very naked and orgasmic so if you're wondering if it's a lot of naked women fucking and sucking pussy, it most definitely is. I never thought I'd be into orgies but being fingered in a bed with 10 other women writhing and moaning around me, up against me, occasionally kissing me, or touching me. Well let's just say I'm very into it now.

We saw on SLS events that Temptations had the exact same fake profiles signed up as “attending” that Caligula would have for all its events, so we never went.

Are the women there mostly partnered? With a man or a woman? Are they looking for further sexual relationships or not. Thank you for the information. If I were single, I would definitely put myself out there as a bisexual. Although I am married to a wonderful man and also have a boyfriend our poly family, which includes two other women who share the guys, I consider myself more Lesbian than straight. Although I started out 100% straight living with and satisfying two men, once I started sharing them with two women who became my lovers, and we had babies who we are now raising in one large household, the emotional bond among us females became incredibly strong. (And the Lesbian sex is great, although we still need dick.) I think that this type of organization for women only that allows them to discuss and explore is a wonderful idea. It acknowledges as well that monogamy is not for everyone.

Agree, agree, agree. Hot tubs are for 4-play and for getting started but never had any good sex there 'cause of the lube thing. Great for breaking the ice, so to speak, and great for playing and getting to know the potential partners. We use ours!!!

We've found intercourse in the hot tub is problematic at best. While we've never had an infection problem, we do find that the water washes away the lubricant, causing sex to be less than fun. Better to dry off and go to bed. Hot tubs make a great venue for starting play with another couple, but we move to the bedroom for the serious stuff.

I don't have any suggestions other than getting a golf cart and pimping it out with loofahs, pineapples, flamingos, and every other swinger symbol, and drive around in it daily. Extra points if you add pink fringe to the roof.