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Bumping this thread back up. As a "mature" couple, both our vanilla and LS friends are also in that "mature" age cohort where medical issues surface with increasing frequency and sometimes with alarming severity. At the risk of overgeneralization, we'll share this observation: LS couples seem to weather health issues better than the vanilla couples we know. We think there are two reasons for this. First, the LS couples seem to be more focused on maintaining their physical, emotional, and mental health. They look after themselves. Second, the LS couples seem to be partners in addressing problems as they come up, finding ways to address and adapt as situations change. None of us gets younger, few get healthier with age. What LS couples being to the table are consistent attitudes of mutual commitment to healthy behaviors and to supporting the other when illness strikes.

I think those are very wise observations. In general, I think lifestyle couples do have this unique combination of willingness to operate more independently in some ways, and and openness and willingness to operate more as a team than most in other ways.

If a cheater is otherwise a good spouse, supporting a wife and children, but is getting no sex, I could see cheating as better for all than divorce.

If not you, it will be some other woman. If he is on Ashley Madison looking for women then you can bet he is looking other places. He is looking for side pussy and he will find it! Tricia if it doesn't bother either of the 3 of you, go for it, it may be the fuck of your life.

I will be meeting him later today in a hotel, about an hour away. Michael wants to meet him before we go to a room for safety reasons, not to join us. Michael thinks I’m going to be disappointed, I’m more optimistic and excited. I’m sure I will hear more about his wife and his life. I don’t judge others when it comes to sex or how others live their lives. I have read much on morality and how it plays a role in swinging, we don’t push our morals on others. The vast majority of the population would say Swinging is immoral. There are those on here who say swinging should only be done as a couple, something I would have agreed with years ago, we’ve changed our feelings. Most morality is based on religion, deep rooted or superficially. Monogamy has never been a must if you read the history of man. Most characters in history have had sex out of marriage. If you deep dive into the lives of men in “the Bible”, Abraham was told by his wife Sarah, who couldn’t have children to have a child with her slave. There are many other stories of other men having several wives. Back to my “cheater”, should he divorce his sexless wife? Marriage is much more than sex. I know nothing about him or his marriage or family or why he finds looking for sex from someone, me, a better option to divorce. Sex is physical pleasure, not love or a more meaningful reason to stay together. In our brief messaging he never said anything negative about his family life except his curiosity to what he knows other men and women do.

We could care less why a person cheats! If you are in an unhappy marriage you can choose to leave it. If you are not on the same page sexually you are not a good match. Regardless of what anyone says a compatible sex life is a super important part of a relationship. Without it there will always be resentment. You made the wrong choice in a partner and you learned a lesson. Change is not a bad thing. Move on and start over. I did after a 16 year marriage with two children and everyone was better off for it. Is it hard? Yes, but it is worth it to be happy again. Cheating is right up there with lying, stealing and domestic abuse for us! It is a characteristic that makes a person undesirable to be around let alone consider having intimate time with. We are not religious at all, but we do have morales, believe in karma, respect and choose to live our life treating people how we would want to be treated in return. Just, because we are not the ones cheating it does not take away the fact that we would be taking part in the act of human betrayal towards another person that could possibly destroy their life and faith in people. That would make us no better than the cheater in our mind. We prefer to be decent human beings even when so many others are not. I consider myself extremely lucky to have landed one of the good people when I met Missus Enhancer. Knowing what kind of shitty selfish people are out there helps me never take her for granted.

We have seen and heard the same. Yes. Wow. There is a word for that woman: Asexual. And while being asexual may be fine and dandy, it is less so when an asexual person commits to marriage with a sexual person. Yet indeed that happens.

It’s often said to go at the pace of the slower partner. She said she’s only doing this because you like it. What are your priorities here? Enjoying your kinks or her comfort? It seems she feels pushed into this and that is unfair to not just her but other couples unaware of this that you may meet.

Does she really want to swing or is she just taking one for the team? By your story it sounds to me that she is doing it for you so she won't lose you. Tread lightly, play it cool to let her ease into more swinging, jealousy is something that all deal with in the swinging lifestyle. As she gets more experienced she may be more open to share you.

We will definitely do it again. I loved the intensity of it. A cock in my mouth, lips on my nipples, a cock in my pussy. Just so much fun. The guys were all strangers other than the husband of the couple we had played with before. That made it fun too. I`m not sure what we would do differently. Maybe have mr occ film it? Add another guy? I would do more DP. I was really surprised how much I liked that. Anal isn't my favorite. But when it's in a combo like that it was amazing. So all good so far .