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You are half right. There is no CURE. But there is management. There are medications to minimize symptoms and clinical monitoring by a professional. As far as answering questions, I have already done that. You stated your wife has no interest in swinging. Therefore, you want to indulge yourself dispite her wishes and you are looking for someone to tell you its ok. You are going to destroy your marraige if you try it anyway. Again, sorry for the bluntness

I'v always enjoyed being with men 30+ years older than me. Now I am with someone 64 and he loves a full bush. So of course now I have a full bush but it's neat. He loves it and honestly I do too... What surprised me is when he has other younger men join us. Surprised how many men in their 20's and 30's love that I have a full bush too! Seems to be normal for men 55+ that I am with to really love a full bush. So pleasantly surprised and happy!

Actually this list is not up to date. Carolina Friends is now located about 90 minutes northeast of Charlotte in Greensboro, and Melting Pot for Adult fun moved to Hickory about an 90 minutes north of Charlotte. Club Alavant opened about a month ago just south of Charlotte’s Ballentyne neighborhood, however I have not been there.

My first was while he was sitting on a couch and I was on top facing the other guy. I was already excited with both of them but once he licked my I lost control and that was the first time I squirted. The guy I was riding had to hold me as I lost any ability to keep my balance as that was happening. It was the most intense continual series of orgasms. I am not going to say too many and too intense but I was literally without control! I have to tell you to try it but be prepared for what was for me the most intense orgasm I ever had!

I wanted to avoid this but felt the need to say this, as little help as it will be. I haven't been diagnosed as bi-polar but I know enough about the disorder to know I am probably there. Hyper sexuality has been the bane of our relationship for all 40 years. This can be managed. I went to therapy, got on the pills and moved 'forward'. My wife, who is full of life, loving new experiences, and wanting to laugh as much as possible, was living with a shell of who I was. Sure, I was no longer a sex addict, no longer freaking the fuck out at every little issue. I also was no longer quick witted, no longer an amazing, inventive lover, just a zombie. Through a breech in the mental health system, I was forced off the pills. The problems returned. We are managing them as best we (she) can. The only way a marriage can survive this issue is with a spouse who is capable of dealing with the consequences of remaining married. She did give me very good advise "don't put yourself in a position where the opportunity can arise". I was constantly doing that, feeding the addiction. I stopped, the problem is there, the drive is strong but since I'm nowhere I can do anything about it, I don't. I can't. We have agreed on me having a fwb which I do, who I see now and then, who my wife is aware of but doesn't want to know when or what I do. Having somewhere to go to bleed off the desire has been a big help. It's just the guilt is really horrible. I feel for ya. Really though man, avoid the LS as much as possible.

You are obviously going to do whatever you want no matter what anyone here says. You did not come here for advice. You came for backup on a decision you have already made. I wish your wife well. Nothing left to say. YOYO

I have no particular experience in YOUR situation at all. I will watch this thread with interest. I do have this to offer. ALL marriages have issues that require to couple to create coping mechanisms if they are to survive. There are thousands off them one is a neat freak the other not, one is an exercise addict the other not, one is a workaholic the other not, one is into a healthy lifestyle (foods etc) the other McDonalds, one snores the other a light sleeper one has lupus or a stroke or just gets okd. etc, etc ad infinitum. Your situation is more unique than most and will require some adaptive creativity. Whether swinging feeds the beast or is a way of dealing with it in a controlled fashion is a decision that you, your spouse and perhaps your mental health advisor need to sort out as a team.

I don't think Mrs. Alura and I even thought of the concept of leaving behind monogamy. We were too busy laughing, joking, and having fun with another couple in bed.

Nope. Because it was a mutually agreed upon change in our relationship. I feel one could only be sad about it if they were being coerced or convinced into non-monogamy by their partner/spouse and weren't fully on-board with it. If both people were on the same page, and felt the same way about monogamy and non-monogamy, they both should be excited, even if there is some nervousness about the new and uncharted territory their relationship is entering.

Oh HELL no!!! Our starting to swing was a much discussed mutual decision. We started slowly, getting our feet wet and eventually, everything else got wet and we've had a blast for more than 15 years. Our only regret is that we didn't start sooner.

I would have loved to do this. Since menopause, intercourse is pretty painful for her so oral sex and lots of finger play is what we indulge in now. We have had 5 other guys join us years ago and a fantastic time was ha Rd by all. Now I would be extremely happy to kiss and tongue her ass while she sucks another guys cock. I love her ass. She has had orgasms several times just from me doing a good rim job for her. Hoping this comes to fruition someday soon! Issue is finding a nice younger clean good looking gentleman who would be satisfied with oral sex only.and, she's REALLY good at giving head and loves cum!