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We had a blast! Went to a LS club in OKC last night for the first time not knowing what to expect. I was thinking it would be much smaller with an older and cliquey crowd of 10-15 couples max. This place was huge and packed with 100-150 people. Great DJ, huge spread of finger foods, majorly diverse crowd. We dressed to impress and it showed. We had tons of people approach just to introduce themselves and chat. Nobody was pushy or creepy. Everyone was having fun and we felt instantly comfortable. OF COURSE, our first night we ran into a couple I know from my vanilla life. ? This also happened at our first BDSM club foray in Denver. They walked up, said hi, and chatted for a bit. Neither him or her had met my wife until that time. His wife was totally into mine and came back naked later to tell her she was the hottest girl at the club and fawned over her. I thought we'd probably see someone at some point because we are pretty well known in general for vanilla life stuff but not the first night! ? It actually made the whole evening more comfortable tbh. We ended up sitting with some wives for most of the night and people watching. All in all, it was an amazing night. We are looking forward to attending again at the next event in two weeks. The BYOL was awesome too. We'd have spent twice the entry fee in liquor on a normal club night. The no pressure feeling was awesome too. Usually when my wife is alone at a bar, either me going to the restroom or when she does, she has constant pressure from guys and here it was never like that or uncomfortable for even a second. We were both pleased and ready for the next one.

First off, welcome to the Swingers Board! It sounds like you guys are doing a great job of being on the right track with getting started! You've talked about things together, which is the most important of all, and then have a plan to just take it slow, which is also important. In terms of the being social, I would just say be yourselves. You might not feel comfortable being the life of the party flitting from one group to the next, now or ever. That's really more of a personality type thing and that's not us either. But, you can introduce yourselves to those at the tables around yours, give a big smile and a Hi to those you meet while at the bar getting a drink, etc. Just do those low-level things and they probably will result in hitting it off with someone to where the conversation grows. A good club shouldn't have any "predators". Anybody who has that objective or can't take no for an answer should be immediately shown the door. So, just say "sorry, not interested" if someone gets pushy and should they keep it up, then let the club know and they will take care of it. Most swingers are very understanding of newness...they were there too one. So, a "sorry, but we're not ready for that yet" doesn't necessarily close the door forever with them. They know how it is, they may never see you again, or you may become regulars at the club and regular playmates eventually. Good luck and hope you have a great time. Please let us know how it goes!

Some women do, some women don't. My wife is regular prescription birth control and always uses condoms when we swing. OTOH, I had a regular play partner who wasn't on anything and we always used condoms. It really depends.