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I would love to help, we have all been new at some point in time! First I will say that unfortunately I do not live in NY (although was born and raised there) and have only been to one club in the city which I do not recommend. I don't want to name it because that's not nice. It was very cliquish and at around midnight every single person went into the playroom, which is odd for any club. I will say that generally speaking, swingers are very friendly and warm and happy to meet new couples. Always a good idea to let people know at some point that you are new to swinging. If you do go to a club, try to arrive early so you don't walk into a party already hopping. Find a spot so you can sit and observe for awhile. Take it slow and don't have any expectations before you go. Just take it as it comes. Make sure your wife is happy and comfortable. Let her make the decisions that night. If she likes it, she'll go back. If she doesn't... Good Luck!

Because men are trying (at least the ones that make the effort) to convey a masculine sense of "sexy" where as the the items you mentioned is more applying the traditional feminine sexy to a male body.. Nothing is 100% but for who the hetro male is trying to impress that Borat bikini generally isn't going to work beyond being a joke. I'd be happy if we could just keep the flip flops and shorts out of our local clubs.

We've noticed in recent months that Pet has a new super power. He no longer goes limp right after he comes, instead he comes and we keep going and he stays hard as long as I want him to. He's managed to pull off a few multiple orgasms, but once he gets that initial one he's not overly concerned with a second (much to my pleasure). I'm wondering how common this actually is. I know I posted in another thread that it was my experience that most guys are 1 and done (and a few disagreed that they had not had the same experience - lucky them). I'm also wondering since this is a recently acquired super power for Pet, if it's related to him having had a vascectomy in the last year.

Hi Newbie42. We're from PA, so I can't help you with NYC. Also, don't know your age or exactly what you are looking for. However, here is an idea you may want to consider. Check out Hedonism II in Negril Jamaica. We go there twice a year (when it is cold here) and love it. It is a beautiful resort with wonderful staff, delicious food, and lots to do. There are areas of the resort that are clothing optional and areas that are nude only. It is all-inclusive, so all food, drinks, entertainment, water sports, etc. are included in one price. You can go kayaking, snorkeling, scuba diving, play games, or just hang out by the pool. We always meet awesome people from all over who are open minded and want to have fun. There are usually lots of PDA's (public displays of affection) around the nude pool and hot tub, especially late at night, and there is a "Playroom" open late at night, if you are interested in that. It is more of a clothing optional resort rather than a swingers resort, but there are plenty of opportunities to meet and hook up with people if that is what you want, or you can just enjoy the atmosphere and sexy vibe and just play with your significant other. The only rules are RESPECT and No Means NO. There is lots of info and many reviews online. You can check out their website for which groups will be there on which weeks, then go to the individual group websites and see if you think that is a group you would want to go with. We love Jon's Fluffernutters (fluffernutters.com) You will get a better rate if you go book with a group rather than through the resort. Lots of questions and answers about Hedo 2 on Adult Travel Forum. Good luck!

Has anyone heard of, or tried this condom? It seems like it is new but gets good reviews. LELO Hex condom.

I like Trojan double ecstasy. They have lube inside and out. With a little imagination, it feels like you are in a vag. I give samples to guys about to do my wife and the guys generally give good reviews. Both to my wife and the condom.

It may be that the best looks in theme costumes are found in the gay men's catalogs.

Women go to private parties and clubs in some very sexy gear, see-through, skin-tight, camel toes etc. Delightful to look at. Perhaps somebody can explain why men dont wear similar stuff. eg Lycra wrestling gear, Zentai suits, bike pants, skin tight leather etc as a lot of the gay people wear. Are the men too shy? I mean its not as if it is ruder than people watching you having sex

We recently enjoyed a MFM and I had almost forgotten how arousing it is to watch her really enjoying herself with another man. I thought i was done after round one and they kept going and it was just as enjoyable watching and hearing them together as it was participating. It has been a while since i got off twice in one evening but.......wow needless to say it was a great night.

We had one 'real life' weird experience meeting a new couple -- we've written about it elsewhere. But can you top this one for an on-line weird experience? We were looking at a couple's profile on SLS -- we're interested, but haven't contacted them yet -- we're looking at their photos, and there's one picture of them in a bar/grill that happens to be one of our favorite places, where we go two or three times a year. It's not a landmark -- we've seen dozens of couple's photos near park entrances, or some other famous place, but this isn't a landmark or 'destination' foodie place at all. "Our favorite joint in a photo?" That's not the weird part. This is the weird part: Mrs. SJB and I were in the background. On the left-hand side of the photo, unaware of the couple two tables over having their picture taken -- there we are, casually hanging out with some vanilla friends. How the heck did we miss this opportunity to meet them? And now: Oh, the shame! Our photos -- our faces! -- open for all to see on a swingers' website! How will we ever explain this to friends and family?!!!???

Here is a link to information at the CDC website: Trichomoniasis - CDC Fact Sheet It is often a symptomatic, but is treatable once diagnosed.

I find I have no preference as to women's hair. I do, however, find people who are repulsed by pubic hair unattractive. There is something intensely off-putting about those who prefer to sterilize sex. Maybe it's my European origins, but I like things more real. As for men, it is a HUGE turn-off when anything (chest, legs, and certainly pubes) is shaved. Light trimming is OK, but anything more than that, and I feel like I am fucking a woman.

My ex and I had an old Victorian home, we renovated the bathroom. It's very distinctive. On XHamster I saw a shot of a woman's legs in that bathtub! But, unless my ex has lost 30 pounds, it's not her. I'd love to know the story behind that picture!

Twice I've had Facebook friends message me to tell me they were no longer swinging... people I had no idea were swingers in the first place.

Personally, the sweet smell of a woman's sex is amplified by the tangled garden that is her pubic region. We have done both shaved and unshaved and they are two different animals altogether.

We've been to Trapeze, and yes, we've been to the back. It's not that big of deal really. It's kind of like a lot of things in swinging in that when you look around you see that everyone else is doing the same thing and so no one is taking one bit of notice you are wearing a towel instead of your usual clothes. Walk back there with your street clothes on, and then heads would turn and you would feel like a thousand eyes were upon you Trap is different than a lot of other clubs in that they have hot tubs and a pool in the back area, so I wouldn't make too much of them having that rule. If they didn't have all of that, then it would seem a little more odd, but since those things are the focal point of the back area, it all kind of works out in a good way. Good luck and have fun! I know it's nerve wracking the first time, but it will be fine. My advice is to go early and let the crowd and energy build around you, instead of going late and walking into that environment "cold" which could make it feel more overwhelming. Going early has the advantage of getting a good table too. Just to close with a story that might help ease your mind, two of my favorite swinging experiences happened there. One was we met a German couple there and working around the language barrier had a really interesting conversation about the differences in swinging in the two countries. They had only been here a few months but were going to be in the States for three years, so they were just as interested in the advice we were offering as we were in what swinging was like in their country. The other was just one of those making connection experiences you only get in swinging. We were having sex with each other in the back on one of the big couches. A little bit into that, another couple came along and took advantage of the extra space on the couch and started doing the same thing. Right in the heat of things, the other woman reached over and took Mrs. cplnuswing's hand and held it and they stayed that way while things came to a climax and we all finished. They got up and without exchanging anything beyond a silent knowing smile, we all went our own ways.