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I'm 59 and have effectively been married for 41 years. Got married at 18. Young women? Yeah, they are like a Ferrari, nice to look at, but who the hell wants to own one? My girlfriend has saggy boobs, she lost a lot of weight so she has wrinkles. C-section scar. All of the battle scars of life. Just like I am turning grey and losing my hair, don't have the muscle tone that I once had. Between us we have 5 kids and a passel of grand kids. She wants to get a boob job and tummy tuck. I don't want her to have either of those done. There is nothing more beautiful to me than her sitting on the deck naked, with all the faults that I don't give a damn about, sipping a cold beer watching the sun set. There is one thing that you are not taking into consideration. Yes, we see the changes in you. But what we really see is the sexy 18-20 year old woman that is still there, underneath it all. And with all the changes, we wouldn't undo any of them. They are what make you the woman that you are! Yes, there are men who don't accept that those changes are a part of life. They still long for that tight young 18-20 year old woman and you see them chase them. Damn fools if you ask me. I have a friend who is like that. I told him one day that he was like an old dog chasing a car. If he caught it, he wouldn't know what to do with it. Hahaha Your husband doesn't sound like he is one of those. So stand proud babe. Revel in the mature loving woman that you are. I bet if you asked your hubby the right question, you would find out that his answer that to the question about which of your bodies he preferred is more that he wished that you were both younger and knew what you knew now....

As a husband of 16 years and a father of 3, I can definitely say that sometimes the physical changes can be alarming, but never unwelcome. We all are on a journey with the same end; and how you get there affects the vessel. My wife has always and forever been my best friend; but there have been periods where the physical has waned for whatever reasons (3 kids, 9 miscarriages will wreak havoc on a woman's body). That being said, my affection, love and attraction to her has also never been solely physical. As we all get older, needs do change and sometimes the "taut tummy tight package" 20 year olds simply get exhausting. Have you ever tried TALKING to somebody in their early 20s? IT'S TERRIBLE!! that being said, my wife is who I choose to be with and who I choose to express the vast majority of physicality with. Because she IS the mother of my children, she IS the woman I married, and she DOESN'T have a taut tummy anymore. Which is 400% ok.

Have you ever played and asked for a name only as your playmate goes out the door?

We do drinks and appetizers. 45 minutes and goodbye if we are not interested...that's how we roll. Invite you over to play without a vanilla meet - no way.

Beauty is only skin deep, but sexiness is something that is projected from deep inside and usually has little to do with beauty.

You need love/trust/communication. Get those in order first then start opening up the communication by talking about your sexual fantasies and ask her for hers. Once you can talk about sex... (see sig at bottom). You MUST have a great (not just good) relationship to be successful. She must know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you will be there for her thru anything. Swinging will make a great relationship better than ever imagined, but it also works as a magnifying glass and will show every crack and weakness a 'good' (or less) relationship has. Don't be in a rush, take your time and never forget she is your priority. Good luck and let us know how things are going.

Bring here here to Swingersboard. She will be able to see that we are normal people.

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For me facing those "negative emotions" was the best and most important part of our swinging. What her negative emotions might be who can tell. Some are jealousy, others might be shame, especially if she feels a lot of guilt from a religious background. Some will tell you they had NO issues with negative feelings and that if you do, you shouldn't swing. I think this is wrong myself. Learning to control and overcome those negative feelings can be quite liberating. Not feeling guilty about enjoying sex or being jealous, or whatever the issue may be is a great feeling. So basically there IS a risk in swinging, and there is a reward. Knowing your personality and hers, you have to assess if this is for you. And one last thing. We have seen posts like this in the past, where the man was ready to go and the woman had reservations but after the swinging, HE was the one with the issues and she thought it was great. Don't be so focused on her feelings you don't face your own.