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There is a huge difference between being a brute and being honest. It's not sugar coating to practice a modicum of tact.

A lot of people confuse rudeness with honesty and that's unfortunate. OTOH, some people just manage to unintentionally say exactly the wrong thing. I've personally, inadvertently, insulted at least two people this week because my choice of phrasing hit a hot button for them. We don't always say the right thing at the right time and it can cause bad feeling. I'm not excusing it, either in the fellow you where dealing with or for myself. I'm just saying, it happens. A friend of mine calls it "opening mouth to change feet." Sometimes, we just need to rise above. If it's someone you plan on dealing with again, be honest and say "the way you said that hurt my feelings" ... then build on how they reply. If it's someone you will never deal with again, bitch about it a little and then move on. Life's too short to let the bastards drag you down.

If you can't take rejection in any form (no response to email, no call back after a meeting, no thanks, a direct, she's (or he's) just not into you or her or a sugarcoated we're just not a match followed by what we call the insincere Florida "I'm sorry") then you're probably too thin skinned to be involved in swinging at all. Everybody gets rejected in this hobby at one time or another, its just part of the experience. Accept it and move on. We rejected a couple early on based upon where we were at in our progression, the guy was a bit aggressive and we were still quite tentative. Fast forward 5 years ahead, we ran into this same couple at Trapeze, got reacquainted and had a marvelous evening. We had caught up to them and the reason Mrs Doc was uncomfortable had disappeared.

Thank you, thank you. We are confronted with this kind of statistical illogic every day in the news. People trying to be sensational. I find it so frustrating (tiring, actually) to be constantly ciphering the real facts from the "facts" presented in a way to make it fit someone's script. Thanks again.

My wife Laura and I are attracted to couples and guys that are muscular, tan (prefer all over), smooth and not afraid to try new things and like group play (gee, sounds like me she says). Masculine, Feminine, we are both, you know yin-yang. I can take a guy and turn right around and be the bottom while my wife watches, films or joins in.

i love it... it is hot and i come so hard with a finger in my butt

Unfortunately, we forget that not all people really know how to behave. For what ever the reason, it just isn't there. Very admirable that you have such a wonderful attribute to your character. It's almost mythical to possess a trait such as tact. I am sorry that you felt the sting of such an ugly remark. Seems as if you made out like a bandit in the end. From the reaction of the other couple, I would dare to say it wouldn't have been everything you wanted it to be anyways. Keep your chin up.

You forgot the "No lemon guarantee" It's humorous. But we don't feel we can take you seriously, and would probably think of it as a fake profile. It also gives us the impression of a used car sales man. This is just our opinion, and would probably move on to the next profile.

I like it, much more than anal intercourse. A finger in my bum while having vaginal sex or oral sex makes my orgasm more intense, while anal sex alone doesn't make me cum unless it's DP.

Don't forget that our society dictates what is "right or wrong", and forgets what feels natural and good to us. As a happily married woman, I love to see my hubby suck on a cock with me, and he likes when we together eat a cum filled pussy. We are both very oral people and have learned to appreciate the different tastes of guys' cum. Nothing wrong with this, just makes us more slutty I guess, but so our all of our friends.

All good advice. Swinging is about trust...less than total trust, no swinging. So, first I would really evaluate what sort of trust you have in one another, and that takes introspection as well as communicating, really communicating. Even getting to that level of communicating can and probably will take some time, and then once you are there, only then can you really start to evaluate and being to build upon the trust. Short answer - talk and then talk more and take your time

Lots of guys are "situationally Bi" My hubby was that way before I met him, then he found out that I like to see my male lovers suck a cock with me. I am one of those gals that asks, "You want some?" while holding a massive cock in a threesome. I agree that it is a great way to see how a lover is secure with his sexuality and by the way, all mammals are innately Bisexual, it is our society that generates the rules. My current husband shares my feelings and bisexuality.

We aren't cuckold, but on occasion Tony likes to just watch me and a playmate enjoy each other. We used to have a couple friends we knew well enough to let them go bareback with me. To me those were some of the hottest times. When we did, Tony loved eating the cream pie, and sucking my juices off of our friend. He's lately been wanting me to have 2 friends play with me while he watches. I'm sure we can find willing participants, but won't be anyone we know enough to go bareback. He's often told me he'd like me to do a gangbang where he'd clean me up after each one, but I think it's not quite a reality.