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I've got zero experience with bleaching my butt… However it does make me think of this old thread that I was amused by Hygiene - Butt Crack

Not a dumb question at all. We've received party announcements from several different off-premise groups that have us on their mailing list that will say they will have a tv set up for those who want to watch the game, so it's not uncommon. I don't see a problem with it at all. If they turned the event room into a sports bar with a tv every 10 feet along the walls, then that would be a different story, but to set one up in a corner somewhere so those interested can gather around and watch or even just check in on the score occasionally, it's just another form of socializing and that's kind of what you are there for. Like you say, game is going to be over before it really gets to the prime part of the swinging evening anyways.

Evidently, yes the risk is lower compared to intercourse but there is a still a risk. ""Oral sex is not safe sex," says Terri Warren, RN, owner of Westover Heights Clinic in Portland, Ore., a private clinic specializing in STDs. "It's safer sex, but it's definitely not safe sex." ... The risks of getting an STD from unprotected oral sex are typically much lower than the risks posed by having unprotected vaginal or anal sex, Warren says." Oral Sex: Safety, Risks, Relationships, STD Transmission

You are correct. Please know that you weren't the reason for amusement in angelin's original post. The thread she referenced is a very old classic around here and us old timers think of it whenever any type of similar thread appears. However, you have a legitimate question and it deserves serious consideration. As for you question, what types have you tried so far? A quick Google search shows there are quite a few products out there. I'd also be interested to hear from one of our medical professionals on the risks involved.

For the record, that thread is the polar opposite of my question haha. Thank you for not continuing the jokes. I know everyone likes to have fun but we jump on the forums for guidance and understanding, not to be a source of amusement. I love licking, kissing, tasting and fucking every part between her legs, regardless of the color. It does not bother me the least but she is very self conscious about it and in certain positions and lighting she will become uncomfortable due to the fact.

Not using condoms or dental dams is a risk most people will take. Most people we play with use condoms for intercourse and we insist on it, as negative as they are for sensation and male erectile function. We understand that we are taking risks.

I believe we have had this question before, so the question is not dumb and helpful to more than one member. There are certain areas of the country where a large percentage of the population takes college football very seriously. You're in one of them. Alabama is one of them, and there are plenty of others as well. One TV available is a croumulent solution. It is unobtrusive, gives the big fans a chance to check out the game, and keeps the from checking their phones for scores every five minutes. Its also a great way to network with potential new friends. Enjoy the night!

Surely you two couples are the perfect match, problem solved

I just had a raspberry seed stuck in my teeth. It is not threatening to my health, but I couldn't leave it alone until it was gone. She seems to have that same sort of obsession to her husband's behavior--knows, or thinks, it isn't a threat, but wants it outta there. NOW! Seems that what is described is stereotypical female/male mating behavior. She wants a steady, satisfying relationship. He wants to play the field. Maybe I'm wrong, but does he really want the stable 4th? Seems like it could be quite doable if she has hers, plus all the women she wants to play with, and he just finds a warm place to put it, regardless of who that place is connected to. There could be an easy solution: She accepts that his goal or ideal is different than hers. I know, as a guy I'm missing some essentials, but ya know. Worn I never run with scissors. Those last two words were unnecessary.

I"m curious, how often do you speak to your FWB, how often do you see him? I'm also curious what the problem is with him sleeping with someone who has slept with a lot of other people, because that sounds like exactly the sort of person you want him with, someone who doesn't get attached. I'm also wondering if part of the reason your husband can't settle into a FWB type relationship is because you won't let him, you mistake the initial excitement of a new connection with drama and wanting too much. I have plenty of swinging friends who I have gone through phases of communicating with daily or almost daily, usually in the very beginning when we were getting to know each other and in the new toy excitement phase. After a couple of play sessions though we get more into a rhythm of being friends and communicate only when one of us has something to say, but it doesn't sound like you're letting your husband ever get to that point with anyone. You've created this mental list of things that someone must be in order for you to be comfortable with having them as a 4th in your relationship. You want someone who will see your dh regularly, only communicate with him sparingly, have no emotions of their own and not sleep with other people. Does that sound realistic to you? Can you elaborate on what it is that makes you uncomfortable, what's your fear? is it jealousy? Fear that he will leave you? fear that someone will be better than you? Until you understand what your pain is and what you're scared of you will never be able to let those fears go and allow your husband to have the freedom you obviously want to give him.

It sounds like the 4 years swinging experience has left you not being able to stomach what's good for your man. Unless you venture out into the LS from a place of 'giving' to your other half than you are not swinging but just tolerating who the other one fucks! Sorry to sound harsh but you are flying solo darling, you are not thinking about anyone other than yourself at the moment. Say good bye to the distraction and focus on your husband, just the two of you for now, it won't be forever however you two need to reconnect.

First off, welcome to the site! I will give you a lot of credit for being honest enough to admit there is an element of unfairness in this situation, with you having your cake but not wanting him to have his. Being able to be that honest with both yourself and someone else is a positive, and if there is a resolution to be found here, that honesty is going to be what you leads you to it. Here's how I see it, you have found your place in swinging and are perfectly happy in it now. So happy, you really don't want to give it up. He is still trying to find his place, and it sounds like part of the reason for that is that you aren't comfortable with where you think his place is and so as soon as he starts to settle in, you are pushing him a little to get him to try to find a new place that you think you might find more acceptable. Swinging is a team sport and both have to be on board with what the other half does, that is absolutely true, so not trying to say you don't get any say in this at all. But, when you look at it from afar, it does seem like the constant feeling a bit off balance in your swinging life together is all coming from you, while meanwhile you enjoy the stability of having found your place and not having to fight to maintain it. If you don't think you can ever let him find his place within the same framework of what you enjoy, then yes, I think you probably aren't cut out for swinging, and by having gone down the road this far trying to convince yourself that you are, there is going to be some pain involved, meaning time to end it with the FWB.

You said what??? Jesus Christ... Spoomonkey PS - I would like to add that "Hygiene - Butt Crack" is the best topic title we've had in a very long time...