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Help I have a Problem.. So we received an email ( I don't know what site she found us on) from This Lady Gina.. She was close in age, and lived close.. So we Exchanged PG Pics, they chose to cover their faces as well ( which I respected) Now mind you EVERY ad or web page I have always said we are very new to the Lifestyle ( Still looking for our first Full-swap).. Anyway we decided on Meeting tonight.. THAT'S when the crazy started.. We were meeting at a local watering hole.. BUT they didn't want to eat dinner with us.. Next I get a Email this morning saying they would like more explicit photo's before we meet... I didn't send them, but her Next request was Her Husband didn't want to come to meet us.. She wanted us to Follow her to Their house. and Me have sex with Some man I Have Never even Met, I am all for No Friendship But this is a Bit Extreme.. Am I wrong for wanting to call it off??? This is My 1st Time Full-swapping I guess maybe I would like to at least meet them before...

Ok Ok I guess I didn't listen because after I wrote this post I Texted her and said Thanks but no thanks.. well she texted me back later and Apologized and asked if we would at least meet them for dinner, which we said yes... Well come to find out they are just as new as we are and they had no clue how to go about it.. We went Back to their place, started playing and the other Male was having issues, but I allowed My other 1/2 to still finish with her.. But it was kind of a let down.. Oh well onto the next one..

My wife and I played in the BDSM world and recently switched over to swinging to meet some new people. I thought the same rules with couples applied, but maybe not. In the D/s world respect for another Dom and what is his is a big deal, but that doesn't seem to apply with a couple we just met. Did the coffee thing all that was cool, got on a 4 way KIK to communicate until we could meet next month. After a short period of time every time I look at my phone the new Mr is texting my Mrs. This has happened every single day and I think he is up tp 12 pictures nude and non-nude he has requested and been given. I chalked it up to beginning enthusiasm, and in the evenings we all engaged in group sextext and talking, so after a week or so I thought it would even out. However three weeks later, every day he is texting her with long threads. She is submissive and of course enjoys the attention, so I have let her enjoy herself. Other couples we have met this constant texting doesn't seem to come from the guys, and I would never see this is in BDSM world. I am very open about play, but this has actually gotten on my nerves. I can't figure out if I'm jealous and protective or just annoyed and feeling disrespected. Not new to group sex but new to swinging, so I would love to hear some thought

Technically, we're not married yet. We're common-law right now but we both refer to each other as husband/wife, fiance. Anyways, I've been reading about this lifestyle and I'm intrigued. I'd like to bring it up and see if my wife would consider it. I'm really not sure how she'll react, and here's why. 1. On one hand, she is the more sexually adventurous one - by far. She did porn before we were together. She even told me that when she changed in her bedroom that she got excited when she noticed a neighbor looking through the window (from their own house) and didn't mind. There's no doubt she loves being admired and is comfortable in front of other people. 2. On the other hand, there is this timing issue. We just found out we're having a baby. No, I don't plan on getting into this lifestyle before the baby is born. However, I'm wondering if I should wait until after it's born to even bring it up. I know she's becoming more self-conscious about her body and I don't want her to think this is about me wanting someone else. It's really about something to spice up our life together. 3. We're both a little insecure and jealous. I've read that this sort of lifestyle, if approached properly, can help alleviate those feelings of jealousy and couples become closer and more comfortable. I'm an open-minded guy but I've always told her a hard limit for me was bringing more people into our sexual equation. I'm not sure what's come over me lately but the thought of the two of us sharing each other with like minded people really turns me on. I really have to force myself to imagine her with someone else, to try to imagine the sensation. I'd hate for it to backfire in a jealous rage but I don't think that will happen, though it may take some getting used to. It's about personal growth. Anyways, would love to hear your thoughts on this. How you got started. Did it help with jealousy or make it worse? Did it help or create any sexual insecurities? Hope to hear from you.

Hello. We have visited a couple of clubs and had some interesting experiences. No intercourse yet but we are making steady progress. One thing that I recognized is that nobody approaches us unless I step away to the bathroom, or to make a drink. At the last party several people approached my girl, but never while I was there. I would constantly come back from whatever I was doing to find a new single guy/couple chatting it up with my g/f. I'm not sure how I feel about that...

You can discuss your thoughts without being confrontational or disrespectful...I thought your response was harsh as well, though I understood the message. Tone and choice of words are important. It might be wise for you to fully understand the D/s world before launching into a rant about the poster.

They should talk to her in front of you. They might be intimidated by you. They might want to be sure that she is as into it as you are and feel she'll be more honest about it without you around.

This is for the ladies. Maybe we can do a separate thread for the lads, but at the moment I'm more interested in the ladies retelling. Describe the very first time you had your first full swap experience. Yes this area is filled with retellings of the linear events leading up to the moment, but I'm more interested in hearing about your emotions and the feelings you felt the moment someone not your husband/partner entered your body. What position were you in? How did you feel leading up to it? What was in your mind that moment he slid himself completely inside you? Was it surreal? Terrifying? Liberating? How did you feel when he finished? Did you orgasm? Yes some context of what lead you there is helpful, but unlike the other threads, I'd love to hear the emotional details of how you felt and your state of mind. Your feelings. Please share.

My first time was with a 45 year old black neighbor. Hubby wanted me to do him bareback. He was at our house, my bed room. I was so scared. I remember I felt so cold when he took my clothes off even though the house was warm. I remember I was shaking. I felt weak. My mouth went dry. My nipples were so hard they hurt. He felt my privates. I didn't like it he was too eager and his nails were too long. I looked over at my husband. He was smiling. When the guy took off his clothes I was expecting a huge hung cock but it was normal. The same size as my husband's but he did have the prettiest huge balls. His scrotum was so smooth and shiny. I remember I was so nervous and cold that when he hugged me his body was so warm and soft. He was hairless. My hubby is hairy. His body felt so hot against mine that I reached out and hugged him tight against me. He felt so good and he smelled so good too. His cologne was a little too strong but I didn't care. He tried to kiss me but I didn't want to. I let him give me a peck on the cheek. He turned me and set me on the bed. I was cold again. I couldn't grasp the fact I was naked in front of a man, a black man and he is going to have sex with me. I didn't know how to act. I didn't know what to do. Then my husband said lay on the bed honey. I got on the bed and pulled a pillow under my head. So cold. My legs were closed. He was looking at my breasts. I hoped he liked them. Then he looked at my closed legs and he pulled them apart. I was hesitant to let him at first but I gave in and let him look and I was embarrassed. This man was going to see my ass hole. I was worried I might smell bad down there even though I had taken a bath and had scrubbed my privates soapy hard. He slid his body between my legs and slid his thighs along my sides and there I actually jerked with surprise when I felt his cock suddenly press against my privates. Then he laid on me and oh his warm body felt so good. I put my arms around him and held him close. I felt his cock poking around down there for my vagina opening. I just kept looking in his dark brown eyes. I was thinking oh God this is going to happen. It's real. This is real. His cock finally found my opening and he was pushing in. I closed my eyes and thought no turning back now and I hoped I was wet enough. Oh please I thought don't let it hurt. Two kids had come out of there but still --. His cock slid in as smooth as silk. I felt his pubic bone press against my pubic bone and I felt a nice tingle from my clit. The head of his cock was laying gently against my cervix. He was a perfect fit and his body so warm. His breath smelt like mint. Sh-t, how did mine smell oh God. I panicked. Called to my husband. He came to the of side of bed. I held, now my lover, head down by my neck so he couldn't see me pointing to my mouth for some breath fresher like Certs. Hubby laughed and got me some mints. Chewed them as my new lover sucked and squeezed my cold breasts. Felt so good. He was warming them up. I was becoming warm. I wasn't shaking any more. I was liking the feeling of his warm very hard cock in me rubbing my vagina walls. He was beginning to feel like my husband in me. He was kind. He even stopped stroking and asked if I was ok. Was he hurting me. I said no. He smiled and began slowly stroking again. He would gently bump my cervix at times. I became very comfortable with him. I looked at my hubby and there he was with his pants down wrinkled on the floor around his ankles and stroking his cock. He looked so boyish. I chuckled. That drained all my fear away. I was thinking I like this. I started feeling this man that had invaded my body. He had a hard round ass. Firm muscles. His kinky hair felt so cool. I liked the feel of it. Then he laid his chest on my breasts mashing them so nicely. Felt good. He laid his head beside me where we were cheek to cheek. He had very smooth face. He felt nice. He whispered you are so nice. He said you are such a nice woman. You keep your yard so pretty. I hope this isn't awkward for you. I had to smile. I was so relaxed at that point and was building to what I was sure to be a great orgasm and it was. I laid my legs on his shoulders and raised my ass off the bed and pulled him as close to me as I could. I was cumming again and I wanted him deep inside me. Wow he was sending me past the moon. I even kissed him. A whole lot. He was a great kisser. Feeling his huge balls slapping my ass was thrilling. I wasn't cold any more. I began to sweat. Couldn't get enough of him but I wanted him to cum in me, don't know why I just wanted to feel it. I was squeezing his cock tight as I could with my vagina to bring him to orgasm and finally we came at the same time. Love cumming at the same time. We made love for two hours. I was completely satisfied. My whole body felt refreshed and calm but tired. I knew I smelled like a locker room. He was sweaty too. I got off the bed. He was laying on his back on the other side of the bed. I got him up and we took a bath. So much fun washing him. Washed him bare handed especially his cock. It felt so good. It was clean now so I sucked it till it was real hard again and I put my hands on the wall stuck my ass up to him and he entered me from behind. Wow felt so good. So deep. We came one more time together. After the shower, I was hungry so I had two fine gentlemen take me to dinner. I felt so female, so special. I felt like royalty. That is how I felt my first time shared.

Well, hello there. Welcome to The Swingers Board. That is a very complete description of the issues you are dealing with. Believe me, you are not alone. Stepping into this world is outside everybody's comfort zone. It goes against everything the puritans have fed us our whole life. I am kinda in your husbands shoes. My wife is passive with me but very willing and open to new adventures. She does need some light prodding but like you, always has a great time. I don't really sense a lot of negative issues coming from you, just the jitters we are all familiar with. He probably is just as nervous but for a lot of us, that is a BIG part of the excitement. I love the hunt, the first meeting, talking about it later, anticipating the sex. The sex is icing but just one part of the whole experience. Concerning jealousy, there is no way to know how you will handle this. As long as you are communicating with the other couple, and you are, if you freak out and have to leave, they will understand. Many of us find ourselves experiencing emotions we were not expecting. I am flooded with pride for some reason when I am watching my wife expressing herself with another man. You sound committed to this. You don't sound like you are being forced to do anything. Close your eyes. Take 3 deep breaths. Go for it with an open mind. Hopefully your next post will start with 'Wow, that was awesome'.

Like many of life's peak moments, you do not know how either of you will feel, you have to experience it! Stay excited in a good way and savor the moment! Life is a banquet, enjoy it! Contrary to conventional wisdom, sex is a wonderful, powerful and mysterious force. Explore it with your partner and maintain your love for and interest in your partner. If either of you don't like swinging, stop. If one of you has a subpar experience (common), meet another couple and forge ahead! Good luck, you can only be a virgin twice (non lifestyle and lifestyle)!

If my husband was texting a playmate a lot and it bothered me, I would tell them. Sounds like fairly standard flirting at this point though. Be clear about what it is that bothers you. Too much texting or too much attention directed to someone who is not you? Do you want to set guidelines about how often they can text or have some block out times when neither of you text others? Open communication is key

The answer is probably all of the above since it probably happens different times for different reasons. I can see how that would feel aggravating or make you wonder what you are doing wrong, but since there are so many possible reasons, then I'd try not to worry about it much. If you know these people have seen you together and it should be obvious you are a couple, then if they are intentionally waiting until you move away, then they are foolish swingers since anyone with much experience knows the path to playtime goes through making good connection with both sides of the couple.

I would just reply, "Sorry, I don't think it's going to work out." I would not engage them any further. This may be a bait and switch type thing, general flakiness or drama. You don't need it and it's not worth it. When we started we went to someone's house without meeting in public. It was a very bad experience and later we learned the husband was a dangerous individual. Have you considered going to an event like a meet and greet or a club?

My wife had a total hysterectomy when she was 32 years old because of cancer. She lost total care for sex. She went religious. I thought our swinging was over. Talked to my doctor. He put her on estrogen shots. Did the trick. She was back. Horny as ever until four years ago she was taken off her estrogen shots. Said at her age could cause cancer. Found a great GYN and she started her on a estrogen cream to be put in her vagina. She is as active as ever now. It does effect some women very negatively toward sex.

You might find greater success if you and your girlfriend approach people together. After the initial conversation people are usually more open to getting to know others.

Somewhere in the region of 80 men and 10 women (although the women weren't penetrative obviously so however you decide to count that). Of those only around 5 men and 5 women were through swinging (though a good deal more were while in an open relationship, say another 10 guys) My husband has me beat by quite a way but we figure seeing as I get to count the men and women I will catch him up eventually.

"so I have let her enjoy herself". Right there is the difference!! Swingers share as opposed dominating. I don't "let" Mrs Doc do anything. We are a team and equal partners in this hobby. The vast majority of swinging couples we know feel very much the same as we do which tends to eliminate jealousy and macho concerns about being disrespected. You may want to spend some time reading and compare and contrast the clear differences between swinging and BDSM before you jump into the deep end of the swinging pool.