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My husband and I went to a club this last weekend and we had no expectations. Our "goal" for the evening was to go and have sex in one of the windowed play rooms and that was basically it. While we were there I made a connection with another woman and we danced, had some drinks, and then she leaned in and asked me if I thought sucking her husband's dick would be fun. Her husband was very attractive to me and my husband liked him a lot so they led us to a room and things got hot and heavy really quick. She told me she was going to give me a "lesson" and started going down on my husband and pulled off every couple of moments to say what she was doing and why I need to do the same for her guy. We ditched our clothes and I started trying to emulate what she had did while she watched and stroked my husband. The hottest moment was when she told my husband to "hold on" because she has to help me "take him deeper" and she came over and started rubbing on my body but pushed my head even further down so I was basically choking on him. I started rubbing myself at that point and she told me I was "such a good girl" and I swear to god I think I will get myself off thinking about her saying that for years to come, haha. She went back to pleasuring my husband and as I noticed her guy was getting close, I pulled off and said I wanted him to finish on my chest and for her to lick it off. She grabbed me and told me to start sucking on my husband while she finished her own off on my chest and started licking me. My husband exploded and then her and I had a lovely deep kiss afterwards and we just kind of hung out for a bit enjoying the afterbuzz. We got their number and apparently there's a party coming up in October that's a resort takeover and we're going to try hard to go! After we got back to our hotel we had the craziest sex I think we've ever had, like he shoved me up against the window and nailed me. Yesterday my husband randomly texted me, "I love that other people get to know what naughty things you can do with your sweet mouth" and it took all of my self control to not insist he leave work and come fuck me immediately, haha. We're both really happy with how things went down. I am a fitness freak and careful with my body. I obviously am attracted to and in love with my husband but he's not so into dieting and fitness and we both felt concern that I'd get interest from the male partner but the female partner wouldn't be so into it. I was surprised this couple was so into us because in my perception they were way more attractive but I'm not complaining!

I'm going to be very frank here but.. if my husband wasn't as enthusiastic as I am about exhibitionism and non-monogamy, I'd probably back off and forget about it. The thought of my husband going to the club with me because he felt he had to makes me feel ill. I know he didn't and we had a great time, but it really sounds like she's "taking one for the team" right now. In your shoes I'd stop pushing and just honor that she's not ok with non-monogamy.

I'm definitely glad we approached things without a bunch of expectations and criteria! We'd obviously talked a lot about how we felt about the lifestyle in general but because we went only expecting to have sex with each other, the other fun we had was a great bonus! It was also a great reassurance that neither of us get jealous seeing each other enjoy someone else, we were both a little nervous that we liked the idea of it but the reality may be a bit too intense and it's so nice that wasn't the case!

If there was just some way to let everyone see that less than perfect doesn't mean a thing...

Yeah we were kind of "negative" going in. I assumed my bit of stomach from pregnancy/c-sectionc and not having perfect and perky boobs would knock me down and my husband was a bit like... "Uh who's going to want to sleep with me?" I was like "Well I like sleeping with you!" and he was like "No one gives a crap about a half inch of loose skin". We decided to let the fear go and just go have some fun public sex and we bumped into some awesome and sexy people! I'd be lying if I didn't admit we both hope we get a hard swap at the party in a couple of weeks but even if we "just" end up screwing each other with an audience, that's totally ok. Having M tell me about how awesome it was to watch me suck another guy off, I really hope I get the chance to watch him go down on another lady!

This is why we say always go to clubs with no expectations and just enjoy whatever happens. Sometimes nothing will happen, sometimes something wonderful happens, but if you go with huge expectations, the reality usually won't match and the self imposed pressure makes the evening less-than-enjoyable. Great to here that your first visit was...memorable. Congratulations and welcome to the club! We await to hear about your next experience!

As others have said "Quit guessing and start asking." This is the only way you will know for sure. I might suggest you figure out what you will want to respond for all the possible answers. Have fun with this conversation.

She might be, or she may just be curious. Or she might just enjoy watching women going at it, without actually wanting to live that fantasy herself. It certainly is true that many women in the lifestyle take the opportunity to explore playing with other women. And most of us men find that to be really hot! You know what we're going to tell you... the best way to find out is to ask her straight up if she has any bi fantasies!

Hello, Funnyhat, and welcome to SwingersBoard! I'm not 100% sure I've gotten your question clearly. I think you're saying that your wife stated that if her friend wanted to have a threesome with you and your wife, your wife thinks that you would be up for it. And you want to know whether your wife's statement is actually her way of asking to try a threesome with you two and this woman. Do I have that right? I'm not sure what your wife's friend's "feeling your leg under the table with her leg" was all about. Could have been accidental brushing contact, or stealthy flirting. And the fact that your wife enjoys lesbian porn is fun, but may only be a fantasy, rather than an actual desire she has. Then again, it may not be just a fantasy! The best way to sort all this out is to simply talk to your wife about it. If you poke around here much, you'll see that open, honest communication is an important element of a healthy swinging relationship. Rather than Han guess, it would make things much clearer if you sat your wife down and asked her whether she wants a threesome with another woman. Let her know that she should feel safe to tell you what she's thinking. If your wife tells you that she really is interested in an FFM threesome, and if you are interested in it as well, you two will want to discuss exactly what kinds of contact are allowed by all of you. Are you allowed to have sexual contact with the other woman, or just your wife? Is your wife comfortable with you having intercourse with the other woman, or is that off the table? Setting rules and limits like this beforehand can help to avoid misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Finally, I'll mention a word about the fact that the "other woman" we're talking about is a friend of your wife's. While that scenario sounds like it might be fun, there is always a risk that something might go wrong- your wife's friend might not like what happens, your wife might not like what she sees, or either you or your wife could get a flash of jealousy. Any of these could put your wife's friendship with her friend at risk. Or it could just get weird between the three of you afterwards. So you two might want to consider whether she wants to risk her friendship with this woman in order to live out this fantasy. You could instead find a different woman to try this with! Good luck!

We get all the concern about std's. However, if the selection process if well refined and you're past the age of procreation, what's the point?

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Dear LH, The concerns are common and valid. A couple of suggestions... 1. While groups tend to be respectful and discreet, the simple fact is that the more people present, the more people who know who you are. If discretion is a priority, you may find it easier to do couples' dating. A. Your profile on dating sites (SLS, SDC,...) can fairly readily be kept anonymous. Be thoughtful about the photos that are included. B. Trust your instincts. If something about another couple's profile seems off, move on. Don't persist in messaging and so on. On the other hand, if the couple seems reasonable and especially if they have some "certs" --meaning other couples have met them and thought enough of them to comment about it--go ahead and meet somewhere...public. C. Make your first meeting pure vanilla and in a public place. Arrange the meeting only after you have had voice contact, especially among the ladies. Depending on the size of your hometown, it might or might not matter. After all, it's nothing more than dinner or drinks at the local place. The worst that happens that someone wanders over to your table and wants to know how you met the other couple. The universal answer, "friends of friends". At worst, you've met another couple either in your hometown or in the town in the next county. Every LS couple also has a vanilla life. Next time you're out at the local Red Lobster, or Tex-Mex place, or upscale burger joint, look around. You'll see plenty of foursomes dining together. They are dressed just like you, not calling attention to themselves. Not every time, and not every place, but some of those foursomes are on LS dates. Yes, you probably already know LS people. They are among your co-workers and vanilla friends and your neighbors. Still, a look at a profile should help you eliminate any probability of calling those folks for a date. Regardless, people in the LS are typically quite discreet. No one particularly wants their private life spilling over into vanilla life. 2. Safety. Yup, personal safety and STIs are always a question. Yup, it's okay to ask (at an appropriate time) about testing and STIs. Yup, it's okay to say that condoms are a must, or no penetration or whatever. No, there is no such thing as "safe". It's a question of risk management. It's worth reflecting on whether the things that concern you are truly high risk. A. Talk to your doctor(s) honestly, and let them know that you are (or might become) non-monogamous. Ask that you be screened regularly. No, your doctor will not think badly of you. Quite the opposite. You are dealing with a personal and public health issue forthrightly. And yes, your conversations with your health care providers are private. Speaking as a healthcare professional, I've heard it all. Much rather have patients who are candid and deal in reality. B. Don't hesitate to set boundaries--with spouse and with the other couple. Once set, respect them unless everyone agrees. We have NEVER found play couples through vanilla friends. However, we have formed significant friendships with our play couples to the point that we know and have been involved in significant events in their vanilla lives.

It sounds like you are more interested in finding someone to swing with than a life partner. If that is the case, you need to look elsewhere than trying to 'convert' vanilla women to your cause. Swinging REQUIRES serious commitment: love, trust, communication. Six months does not make a serious commitment, it is usually still in the NRE stage. Either try to find a woman already into swinging (usually a 'unicorn' - a single woman into swinging...good luck) or find a woman, establish a LONG TERM relationship and MAYBE 10 years down the road suggest swinging to her. If she's game, you're good, if not, start over.

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