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Update....last night we went to a house party, my first...better than I expected....once the nerves passed I was on fire...then we fucked like rabbits when we got home, until the sun came up....and again 3 hours later....this morning over breakfast his comment "I don't need solo play....this is what I've been waiting for" As so I welcome myself into the world of swinging!!

Where the hell is the facepalm smiley when you need it? So our new neighbours just moved in not long ago. Mr. intuition and I were fretting about whether or not they'd be busybody assholes or the type who think a used toilet makes for a clever lawn ornament if you use it as a planter. We saw the moving-in party, but as we live down a long laneway with only a few houses on the whole road, we couldn't tell much from the drive-by except that they were definitely upright bipedal types who apparently could move furniture and had the kind of friends to help them do it. Mr. intuition and I let them get settled in and didn't disturb them, meaning to go over and introduce ourselves. We needn't have bothered; I was up at the store or something and when I came back Mr. intuition let me know that the neighbours came over to say hello...bearing a platter of muffins. It turns out we've got Barbie and Ken Flanders living next door. They can't even be in their 30's yet, they go to church twice on Sunday and bible study every Wednesday, and they're sweet and wholesome as apple pie. They bought a house with lots of bedrooms because they plan to fill them up with kids. And apparently she wants to get a goat. At hearing their religious disposition, I must admit I was a bit pouty about that, not that we think that fucking the neighbours is ever a good idea. But I did ask, nonetheless what they looked like. Far be it from us to not at least throw some what-ifs around for fun, eh? "Oh, they're uh...they're cute." says Mr. intuition. "You should take them over some of that strawberry shortcake dessert or something. Introduce yourself and say hello." He was being all coy. So I made a dessert and took it over the next evening. Well I'm glad I at least brushed my hair and put on some lipstick. Young Ned/Ken Flanders opens the door and holy shit. Folks, my social graces aren't all that, but I don't remember the last time I was at a loss for words. So I'm standing there literally like: "...Uh...hi...I'm...Mrs. intuition." Had to think for a minute there. What was my name again?? LOL As I said, HOLY fucking shit. Do you have some doves in there? Are fucking doves going to come flying out from behind you or something? My very young, very nice and innocent-seeming, very religious neighbour looks like he stepped out of a Calvin Klein ad. Well...I mean, I have no idea what he looks like in his underwear, but I'm pretty sure he'd do okay. I came back to the house and shot Mr. intuition a dirty look. "Yeah, you're a funny guy." I said, "Thanks for the heads-up, y'dick. I stood there stammering like an idiot." Mr. intuition was amused at my awkwardness. I have since met Maude/Barbie Flanders and can verify that they are definitely a matched set. She is freaking adorable. A petite pretty little blonde, and so nice. Mr. intuition and I have made a lot of dirty jokes at their expense, often arising from her choosing muffins as a greeting gift. A lot of muff(in)-eating jokes. The funniest part is that neither of us got to eat any. Mr. intuition put them on the island, went in to take a shower, and came out to find our 19 year old son eating the last one. We have also mowed their lawn for them as their new mower hadn't arrived yet, so that was another subject area that was rife with dirty humour material. Mr. intuition gets back from next door and says, "Trimmed Maude's backyard." "Did you trim it good?" "Yup. It's bare right up to the back door. Trimmed her bush, while I was at it." "Of course, that makes sense. Might as well while you're at it, right? You got all the equipment out after all..." I am almost afraid for them. Do they know what kind of godless heathens they've moved next to?? LOL At least we're harmless. More or less. We're supposed to go out to dinner with them sometime soon. I think I'm actually afraid to. We're most comfortable with Black Diamond conversation, and these guys are on the Bunny Slopes. It situations like this that make me even more certain there is a God. And he has a sick sense of humour.

Welcome to the Swingers Board! Sorry it was something like this that brought you here, but we are glad to have you as a member nonetheless. Short answer - he's cheating, and he's using swinging as cover for it, which is total BS. So you two quit having sex, then started to work things out to the point where at least you were sexually interested in one another again, and then within a few days he is already bringing up the swinging subject again instead of staying focused on just the two of you? That's a sure sign there is a serious problem in the relationship, and swinging isn't going to be any part of a solution. In fact, if you go down that road again with him, my guess is it will not end well. Swinging is like a turbo charger, it won't change the direction you are going, it will just make you go faster. If you are already headed downhill, swinging is just going to get you to the bottom faster. Now is the time to slam on the brakes, turn off the car, and start fixing what needs fixing before even thinking about starting it up again.

Speaking from experience, I can say "Be careful" with this. Backing up for a second: I think that in order to give you useful advice, it would help me to know a little more about your relationship and your history with approaching swinging. How long have you been together? Do you feel secure in your relationship? Is it a permanent relationship, or just for fun? Are either of you the jealous type? Are you both into swinging for the fun you'll have together, or just exploring because it's sexy and titillating? Whose idea was it? Did you talk a lot before meeting the one couple? Did you choose the couple together? And many more questions, but you get the idea. Usually in swinging, it helps the man to have a woman with him. Males swinging alone can have a more difficult time, because the ladies are generally more in demand. Does your boyfriend want to *swing* alone, or just have an excuse to mess around while keeping you in his back pocket? Whatever you decide, best of luck, and I recommend coming back here to discuss things with the members of this board. EDIT: I just saw your new post. Thanks for coming back! If you and your boyfriend are into different physical types, that's fine. It shouldn't be too hard to find couples where the woman is to your boyfriend's taste, and the man is to yours. You may have to put in some time looking at profiles together, or you can go to parties and meet a lot of people at once. If there's no four-way match, I believe your best bet is to wait things out and keep socializing until you find the right couple. Again, it can take some time. Keep talking to one another and meeting new couples. Parties and clubs are a good way to meet a lot of people at once.

My wife and Finally took a trip to sin city. We had been swinging many times before but wanted more. First we went to a topless show. My wife is Bi so this got her in the mood and very wet. Then we went to the Green Door Club. It was about 1 a.m. when we arrived and there were only a few people milling about. We walked around to see what the place offered. Since we were both horny we were not going to just stand around. We wanted another couple but at that moment, we were the only couple. So we ended up in a"couples only" room. We started making out heavy. She laid back on the bed and I removed her soaked panties. She loves to be fingered and this was a good time. I slowly fingered her with one finger then faster... She had many orgasms and this made for the first one already. I love a wet pussy! Then I was using two fingers on her and a handsome black man in his 30's sat on the bed and started rubbing her leg. She was having orgasm after orgasm by now and he was helping! He opened her legs wider and told her to be louder as I further fingered her wet pussy. The man's cock was very hard as he held her leg as I finger fucked my wife but he was telling her to cum and be loud! This was a real turn-on for all of us. The I shoved 3 fingers in her now dripping snatch and kept going. Of course my cock was hard but this was hot! The guy's cock was even harder. By now there were several onlookers and a few couples. One woman from the couple standing leaned over and started to suck the black guy's cock. This was ok, but by then I thought he deserved his cock to be treated to my wife's dripping pussy. Now she has never had black cock, so this made it even more intense. As the woman was sucking the black cock her husband said she likes pussy too! Mmmmm. So does my wife and with that the woman stopped sucking cock and crawled between my wife's legs and started to feast!!! She ate my wife's pussy and I was fingering the woman's wet pussy. The black man puts a condom on (my wife likes it bareback) and started fucking the woman as she ate my wife. I was rubbing the woman's clit and hard nipples. In about 2-3 minutes the black cock emptied his load in the condom. The woman was still eating my wife so I got behind her and entered her freshly fucked pussy bareback as she continued to munch on my wife's cum soaked snatch. Soon I fill the woman's cunt with my hot cum. After this we left to get back to the Monte Carlo so I could eat that cum filled pussy and put my throbbing cock in her. We have talked about this many times and my wife admits that she would have taken the black cock. Now, I want to see her take a black cock and have him fill her with cum.

Me thinks you know already the answer to your question. Happy to have you here at Swingersboard.

Women are typically more advenuurous and more perceptive than men give them credit. Both of you should investigate together. You never know. She might even find something she likes for which you have no intetest. And that would be OK, wouldn't it?

Hi SexyTnCouple. Congrats to you for 27 years, and for deciding to check out Hedo! Continue to be excited, but don't be nervous. I hope that you will find as we did that Hedo is a very special place. The staff there is second to none, and the folks who go there are awesome. We have met so many great people from all over and all walks of life. Almost everyone follows the "Respect" and "No means No" rules, and there is no pressure to do anything you don't want to. There are usually many opportunities to watch or be watched, or soft swap, or full swap, whatever you want. Just go, get naked, go to the nude bar, order a drink, say hello to the person next to you, and you will have a new friend and after a few minutes you will not even realize you are both naked. As far as finding out about people, just ask them if they are in the lifestyle or what they are into. Nobody at Hedo will be offended. I am confident you will have the best vacation of your lives. Good luck!

It has never been hard for me (male), and she says she had a few twinges early on, but those soon went away. There's a bit of explanation that goes with that too. Our first few experiences went better for me than they did for her. It's not like we keep score or are jealous of something the other is getting that we aren't, because that is totally not the case inside or outside of swinging, but when something is still new and along with that newness comes the uncomfortableness and not really being sure how best to handle these new things, then it's to be expected that that would be the most likely time for those feelings to occur. But, even then, they were fleeting and mild. So, there's the negative. Now, the positive. Once you get over past any little bumps in that initial learning curve, then we both absolutely enjoy watching each other get pleasured by their playmate. Not only watching it, but talking about it later, and seeing the lasting big smile on the face and spring in the step that follows a good swinging session. We take joyful pleasure in seeing the other happy and having fun.

First, a big welcome to this board, you've found the best source of information and helpful people for taking the plunge! It's not hard, and in fact rather exciting, if you are ready for it. After 27 years, we hope you are comfortable enough to accept and realize that you'll still be together later. Speaking from our personal experience, seeing our partner with another and them giving and receiving pleasure is exciting - something that is so special that we like to watch the other, hence same room only. Since you are starting out, we recommend you look carefully around this board about starting out, discussing and setting ground rules, and other problems that people have encountered, so you don't make the same mistakes. BTW, we love hedo,and suggest that you go with no expectations other than to have a great time. Say hello to Winston for us!

Hello and welcome! If you two decide to involve others in your sex life, then it must be established that your marriage, feelings, needs, and wants come first. While our first swinging experience took place without me being present (only because the opportunity presented itself) we decided that we will never play separately again simply because we want to both enjoy it together. What your husband was doing sounds a lot like cheating, especially if he was evasive and angry when confronted. Did he feel he is owed a free pass because you had sex with someone else? Even though he was there but didn't join, maybe he felt jealousy or possibly regret and was "getting even"? Whatever it is, communicate with each other honestly and openly and see how you both will move forward together. And whatever you decide to do, I wish you both the very best of luck and happiness.

LMAO...the exact same thing happened to me during a foursome. I honestly thought it was my wife, but much later after we talked about it we realized it was the husband and not my wife at all. I thought it was kinda weird as I wish he had just said something. I mean for me it is not that big a deal. We do have a pair of playmates where there is contact between all four of us. Honestly, I don't spend a lot of time looking for it, but I am into it if it happens. It can be situation dependent.

Hi Curioshusband, If you sign up for one or more of the websites CoupleInMD79 mentioned, you should be able to find announcements on there for any Meet and Greet events being held in your area. There's usually an option for a free membership that will have limited functionality, but might give you access to those announcements. Otherwise, there might be a fee to join by the month. As written above, those are usually held at a bar, restaurant or similar place. I would not recommend going alone to your first event. All that will happen is that the local swingers you meet there will assume you are simply a cheating husband if you don't bring your wife, and then you will have problems later when you do bring her, because people will remember you went alone your first time and will wonder about you. Remember, in swinging (as in everything) you and your wife are a team. One of the most rewarding parts of the lifestyle is discovering *together* how nice the people are. I can see that you're concerned about your wife finding something distasteful about the atmosphere and getting turned off. It's great that you're concerned about her having a good time, but I think going without her would backfire. To any concern about the atmosphere, I can say I've never been to a meet and greet that was anything but convivial and friendly in a way that's completely appropriate for a public place. Not only that, but you could probably go to the bar together and just watch the M&G from afar until and unless you both feel ready to walk over to the group and start meeting other folks. That way, you could both see that the people there aren't scary. Good luck!

So, we are new users, and this will be a long post, but we wanted to share our experiences. Most will be written from my, the husband's point of view. I enjoy writing, and see this as a great outlet. There will be several posts to this thread with numerous stories full of detail. As a little introduction, T and I had talked and joked about swinging for years. We never had a serious discussion about it, and didn't really talk about it in bed. I knew that she had an interest in other women, but had never had any experiences. We had experimented taking photos and sending them to a voyeur site for a while, but T was a little self conscious about her body and being recognized. This first post will be a general overview of how I felt at the end of the year, and now, two years out. After a year in the LS, I am happy to say that we are still together, and things are actually better than ever. Whether it is due to the lifestyle or not, who knows. We did not get nearly as crazy as many couples do, so if you want to read a Penthouse Letters type review, that is not what happened, and not what you will find here. As I look back on it, I have mixed thoughts about going in to the lifestyle. That being said, we will experiment and play with other couples again. I am not writing to talk anyone out of experimenting, or to advocate experimenting for that matter. I am just going to lay out what happened so that you can make a more educated decision for yourselves. The Cons of the Lifestyle for me were: - It introduces a level of stress to your life that you probably have not experienced in a long time. "Do they like us?" "Will they show up?" "What is wrong with me?" are all questions that you can plan on asking yourself. - There is no taking back or re-doing what happened. It is done. Final. In the books. Make your decisions and set your boundaries ahead of time. - I discovered a level of insecurity within myself that I never knew I would have. I questioned my attractiveness, my manhood, my wife's level of attraction to me. It led me to seek out a Dr. that would put me on Testosterone therapy, which I have since gone off (Another topic altogether). The Pros of the Lifestyle for me were: - It adds a level of excitement to your sex life, even outside of your lifestyle experiences that cannot be matched. - We built a much deeper level of trust and communication between each other. - Strange to say this, but it is almost a "Hobby" that you have in common. - It is a secret that you keep from your family and friends, which makes it exciting. - We grew to appreciate each other more. Our names will just be initials, and the names of others will be changed as well out of respect for them. I look forward to hearing about other's experiences, and answering any questions that you all may have.

When it comes to swinging and interacting with others, breast size does not matter at all. The number one thing is an open minded, wild attitude. Age, weight and endowments are never a factor. As far as surgical enhancement, don't do it for swinging; but if you think you will like the results in general, think about it.

Hey guys, just a quick update. Thank you all for the support and tips. We went again and had a great time. She ended up playing with a few at the time and met another great guy that we ended up taking home. He was really good and she finally managed to cum without fingers, something she has never managed to do. It was an amazing time and is bringing us together. Went on BC as well which was the biggest issue. Cheers

I hear what you're saying and I'm not going to say what he's doing is ok. However, speaking from my personal experience... I broke up with my friend-with-benefits back around February. It was an amicable break-up. I knew it was time for us to end things and so did she. Still, four months later, I still think about her, I still miss her sometimes and I still talk to my wife about how I would have liked things to have played out differently. What I'm trying to say it, two months isn't that long if the infatuation is there. Again, none of that is intended to justify his behavior. I empathize with how I imagine he feels. It doesn't mean he's handling it properly. Clearly, he's hurting you. That needs to be addressed. If he isn't willing to address it than I think you should seriously consider removing yourself from the situation. You can control how he feels or how he acts. You can only control how you feel and how you act.

Maggie and I went to couples playhouse in the Chicago area on 7/5. We were supposed to go for our first time on 6/13 but life got in the way. I started a new position with the company I am with and Maggie had some family drama. We were to stressed out to go. But we finally did it! They do a Sunday at the pool kinda thing. 2 pool ,a hot tub, sand volley ball, and bags. It goes from 10:30 to 5:30. We got there about 1:30 and checked in and got our newbie tour. There was some sex going in a couple of the play rooms when we got the tour. Outside most were nude and semi nude. More nudity then we expected but we were comfortable with it since we have been to a couple of nudist resorts and a nude beach. I have had prior experience with it but it was all new to Maggie. I am proud to say she took to the resorts and beach very well. She is over coming body issues that she has. I am so proud of her to have the courage to go native. As a result she was comfortable with the nudity and public sex. We laid on a blanket and watched nude volleyball and Nude bags. Had a few drinks and relaxed. There was a couple next to us that we watched where the guy got a blow job. And a little later behind us 2 couples swapped and both guys got blow jobs. We went inside and looked around upstairs at the play rooms. There was a large group having an orgie with a few spectators. Maggie was put off by it. We had a little bump in the road. We talked and she got passed it. After that we got naked and went in the pool. There were several other couples in with us. It was a large pool so they weren't in real close proximity. We did some kissing and I was nibbling at her nipples and neck. She loves that. She rubbed my cock and got me hard and we fucked a little. In the pool. After a bit we moved to a play room with a love swing in it. We had no experience with one before. Took a few minutes to figure out how to get Maggie in it but we did we loved it. I was able to sit on a small stool and lick her pussy to orgasm. It was so comfortable. We have to get one now. We had a couple of people peek in on us. What a turn on. After her orgasm she sucked me hard again and we fucked some more. She asked me how I wanted to finish and I told her I wanted her to suck me off in the pool. She was a little reluctant but was really in the moment. So we went back down and she went to work. There were several people around and watching. It turned me on incredibly but I couldn't cum. So we went to the sure thing. Doggie. It made me incredibly hot fucking her while others casually walked by and watched. I came hard and we were both spent. Perfect timing. The club was just closing. All in all it was a huge success. We both had a great time. We didn't really interact with other couples because we are not ready to play with others. I am so proud of Maggie. She has jumped some huge hurdles in a short time. It was our 2nd anniversary together and it was an incredible gift she gave me. I love her so much. I couldn't ask for a better partner in crime.

We have one and we love it. It's a great "ice breaker" - for example, we always take ours to Naughty in N'Awlins and have photos of it on our phone, we'll be chatting with a couple and mention we brought it, and often they will be interested in trying it out with us. We also have a photo of it on our profiles on boards, and have had couples say the wife would really like to try it out. We just had a couple we met online and have played with a couple of times come to the house and we had it as part of our play. The other wife had never ridden one, so she started. We started with her hubby running the controls and my wife and I sucking on her tits and kissing her as he slowly ramped up the speed until she came HARD. Once we all laughed as she collapsed and then got enough strength to get off, my wife got on it, I ran the controls, and the two women made out as my wife rode it, then she gestured and the two guys stood next to her and she took turns sucking our cocks while the other wife sucked her nipples, and it didn't take long for her to cum. One of our favorite times with it was at Naughty in N'Awlins, where we had 3 women playing on it, two women kissing on the woman who was riding while one of the guys ran the controls, then when one would cum they would switch places. I wish I had that on video, one of the hottest things I've ever seen! We do pull it out at home for just the two of us once in a while, but not every week. It's not a toy you can just grab in the heat of the moment! And our den is on another floor from our bedroom, so if we play in the den the Wifey has to have some time before her rubbery legs can make it up the stairs!

My wife's first time, our first time, was awesome. My first experience watching my wife having sex with another man in front of me is something I'll never forget. She was like a virgin. She was so nervous. I had talked to her about doing it before and she seemed somewhat interested. I tried to take every opportunity to make it a reality but she was always too shy to go through with it until this time. It looked like it hurt her at first when he began to penetrate her but he was very gentle and patient with her and took his time. I didn't see how big his cock was because he got undressed with his back to me. She kept her eyes closed as she lay there on her back waiting for him and her eyes were still closed as he got between her legs and positioned himself over her. It was incredible to watch her begin to relax and get horny as he slowly put more and more of his cock into her. She resisted kissing him at first, he had to settle for kissing and sucking on her neck which looked like it was warming her up. She seemed to like that. I knew she had totally surrendered to him when she pulled her knees up to let him fully penetrate her. He held his hips down against her and moved them side to side. He was enjoying having all of his cock in her and she was too. So was I. I was so hard I could feel the pulse in my cock. She opened her eyes and they looked at each other for a moment. He began to slowly move his cock in and out of her as he leaned down and started kissing her. She really got into kissing him. I wasn't prepared for that. I began to feel jealous. I was prepared to watch her getting fucked by another man but I wasn't prepared to watch them "make love". They made love to each other like that as he slowly fucked her for what seemed to me to be a long time. I wanted to take my turn and I was getting impatient. I had been stroking my cock but I had to stop because I felt like I was about to start cumming. They both started breathing heavier and moaning as they kissed. He was fucking her harder and more passionately. They stopped kissing as if to come up for air. She closed her eyes pressing her head down on the bed gripping the sheets. It looked like she was going to cum. He braced himself over her, arching his back, with his cock deep inside her. I knew by the sound he made that he was cumming in her. I didn't know if she came too or not but it looked like it. She never came with me while I fucked her. She always had to use a vibrator. It was an indescribable feeling knowing that another man was cumming in my wife and that he might have made her cum also with his cock.. He stayed on top of her after he came and they began to kiss again They were both really relaxed and the kissing was getting more passionate. I couldn't wait any longer and got on the bed with them. When he pulled out of her his cock looked huge. It was a lot bigger than mine. He was still hard and it was wet with cum. He could probably have kept fucking her. He got off the bed and let me have my turn. She was so wet from his cum that I barely felt her. I came almost as soon as I entered her. She lay there with her eyes closed looking bored. I felt small but I didn't care. It felt good to me to be fucking her after he fucked her and it felt good to add my cum with his inside her. I tried to talk to her after he left but she didn't want to talk about it. We didn't have sex for the rest of the week. I thought about what happened every day. I couldn't get the images out of my mind. I saw them having sex, making love and fucking over and over. I finally got her to start to talk about what happened with me, it was just after noon on Saturday, we were having lunch. She was starting to communicate with me that she liked the sex but was confused about the emotions she was feeling. I was getting horny talking to her about it and was thinking about having sex with her when the there was a knock on the door. It was him again, drunk, hoping to have sex with her again. I didn't get a chance to talk to her about it, about having sex with him again. I didn't know what to expect. Last weekend he was shy and respectful but today he was aggressive. Having him show up was unexpected but I wasn't going to mind if he had sex with her again. I just didn't get a chance to talk to her about it. I didn't know what she was thinking. She didn't seem happy at all that he was there. Maybe because he was drunk. I loved talking her into doing it. I loved turning her from being unwilling into very willing. This time he was doing all the talking. I let him take charge. She tried to let him know that she wasn't in the mood but he wasn't listening. I was thinking of stepping in and stopping him but she let him tease her and undress her. It didn't seem to matter to him what her or I thought. He didn't ask. I guess he assumed that since her and I let him have sex with her before that he could do it again. It was almost as if I was watching her get raped He laid her down the bed, got undressed quickly and began fucking her as soon as he got on the bed. Again it hurt her, she wasn't used to a cock that big She cried out this time, as he first entered her but this time he didn't seem to care. I just watched as her expression of pain faded and turned into pleasure. He didn't last long this time. She opened her eyes and looked over at me as he started to cum and mouthed the words "I love you" . I mouthed the words "I love you too" as he spasmmed over her cumming in her. The whole episode was over in less than five minutes. She laid there, kept her legs open after he got off the bed, and looked over at me waiting for me to take my turn. After the second time it was no problem getting her to do it again. We kept doing it with the same guy. He apologized for being drunk and aggressive with her that time and was polite and respectful afterwards. Sex with him was becoming comfortable. She was no longer nervous or shy. The more we all did it together the better him and I were getting at pleasing her and she was loving it. She loved getting attention from the two of us and became hornier and more "sex crazy" than anything I ever saw from her before.