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we just met 2 really nice couples and all went to a room together. Mostly playing with partner but a good bit of fff, mfm, and fmf mixed in. Just a lot of fun and will definitely go back. Thank you all for all of the tips and advice

It was an awesome night. Had fun hanging out with the Mrs. Then met some really fun people and ended up in a fun 6-some. We will definitely be back!

My husband and I have not had any other partners in our life before. We have been married 27 years and have talking about giving this a try for some time now. We decided it was time and we are headed to Hedo in August. We are real excited and nervous at the same time. Don't know if we will find anyone to swap or not. So, is it hard to see your partner with another person for the first time? Also, how do you know if the couple/person is into swinging and how do you go about asking if they are interested? Sorry for so many questions.

Update....last night we went to a house party, my first...better than I expected....once the nerves passed I was on fire...then we fucked like rabbits when we got home, until the sun came up....and again 3 hours later....this morning over breakfast his comment "I don't need solo play....this is what I've been waiting for" As so I welcome myself into the world of swinging!!

It has never been hard for me (male), and she says she had a few twinges early on, but those soon went away. There's a bit of explanation that goes with that too. Our first few experiences went better for me than they did for her. It's not like we keep score or are jealous of something the other is getting that we aren't, because that is totally not the case inside or outside of swinging, but when something is still new and along with that newness comes the uncomfortableness and not really being sure how best to handle these new things, then it's to be expected that that would be the most likely time for those feelings to occur. But, even then, they were fleeting and mild. So, there's the negative. Now, the positive. Once you get over past any little bumps in that initial learning curve, then we both absolutely enjoy watching each other get pleasured by their playmate. Not only watching it, but talking about it later, and seeing the lasting big smile on the face and spring in the step that follows a good swinging session. We take joyful pleasure in seeing the other happy and having fun.

Seeing your partner having sex with someone else can be hard to watch if it was unplanned.

Welcome to the Swingers Board! Sorry it was something like this that brought you here, but we are glad to have you as a member nonetheless. Short answer - he's cheating, and he's using swinging as cover for it, which is total BS. So you two quit having sex, then started to work things out to the point where at least you were sexually interested in one another again, and then within a few days he is already bringing up the swinging subject again instead of staying focused on just the two of you? That's a sure sign there is a serious problem in the relationship, and swinging isn't going to be any part of a solution. In fact, if you go down that road again with him, my guess is it will not end well. Swinging is like a turbo charger, it won't change the direction you are going, it will just make you go faster. If you are already headed downhill, swinging is just going to get you to the bottom faster. Now is the time to slam on the brakes, turn off the car, and start fixing what needs fixing before even thinking about starting it up again.

Hello and welcome! If you two decide to involve others in your sex life, then it must be established that your marriage, feelings, needs, and wants come first. While our first swinging experience took place without me being present (only because the opportunity presented itself) we decided that we will never play separately again simply because we want to both enjoy it together. What your husband was doing sounds a lot like cheating, especially if he was evasive and angry when confronted. Did he feel he is owed a free pass because you had sex with someone else? Even though he was there but didn't join, maybe he felt jealousy or possibly regret and was "getting even"? Whatever it is, communicate with each other honestly and openly and see how you both will move forward together. And whatever you decide to do, I wish you both the very best of luck and happiness.

Yes, I frequently find when I'm with a couple the man will want some degree of erotic engagement with me. By agreement with my wife, I play only in groups or with couples in committed relationships. And it turns out that with many of the couples I've played with over the years, the husband wants some contact with me as well. It might be as little as touching my butt or fondling my balls while I'm engaged with his wife/GF, up through giving me oral and sometimes including penetrative sex between the two of us. (Indeed, during my first MFM, more than 30 years ago with a couple I knew socially, the husband fondled my balls while I was fucking his wife missionary. I also thought at first it was the woman reaching down over my ass. But when she and I conferred the next day, she confirmed it was her hubby who was holding my balls while I ejaculated in her pussy. (In 1982 no one used condoms.) One point of nomenclature; I've found in threesomes with two men and a woman, MFM is generally used to describe a tryst where the contact will be exclusively or primarily between the mean and the woman. MMF suggests that the two men will have substantial contact with one another.

I agree the meet and greet is a great option to consider, sort of a halfway step between where you are now and an on-premise swing club. Your concern is understandable, and you certainly aren't the first to have those concerns. A well-managed club though, while wild by PTA meeting standards (even though the same people are attending both ), is not really as over the top as you might think. Most clubs have various areas of the club, and while yes, venturing into the play areas late in the evening once things really get rocking is likely to cause some wide eyes at first, the rest of the club where the bar and dance floor are, you'd have a hard time distinguishing that from any normal nightclub type environment. There may be some partial nudity even there, especially late in the evening, but not as much as you probably expect. A good way to evaluate a club is to look at their club rules and whether they offer couples-only nights. Few rules and no restricted admission = wide open environment and probably not a good choice for your first time out to an on-premise club.

Hi Curioshusband, If you sign up for one or more of the websites CoupleInMD79 mentioned, you should be able to find announcements on there for any Meet and Greet events being held in your area. There's usually an option for a free membership that will have limited functionality, but might give you access to those announcements. Otherwise, there might be a fee to join by the month. As written above, those are usually held at a bar, restaurant or similar place. I would not recommend going alone to your first event. All that will happen is that the local swingers you meet there will assume you are simply a cheating husband if you don't bring your wife, and then you will have problems later when you do bring her, because people will remember you went alone your first time and will wonder about you. Remember, in swinging (as in everything) you and your wife are a team. One of the most rewarding parts of the lifestyle is discovering *together* how nice the people are. I can see that you're concerned about your wife finding something distasteful about the atmosphere and getting turned off. It's great that you're concerned about her having a good time, but I think going without her would backfire. To any concern about the atmosphere, I can say I've never been to a meet and greet that was anything but convivial and friendly in a way that's completely appropriate for a public place. Not only that, but you could probably go to the bar together and just watch the M&G from afar until and unless you both feel ready to walk over to the group and start meeting other folks. That way, you could both see that the people there aren't scary. Good luck!

I think the etiquette for avoiding an uncomfortable situation in swinging is much the same as avoiding it in vanilla life... avoid it. If you can at all politely not approach the couple in question, don't approach them. If you can't, then limit your interaction to, at most, a polite: "Hi, how are you? I'm fine. Have fun. Excuse me." followed by removing yourself gently from their area and not approaching them again. No reason to make it more complicated than that.