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Welcome. Honestly, the only thing to do is ask. You could even just say "hey, I know you really enjoy how we play with the dildo. What would you think about using a real guy?" The trick here is, if your relationship isn't in a place where you can have an open and honest conversation about swinging or having a threesome, than your relationship isn't in a place where you should do it.

Thank you. You guys rock. I suppose when starting over like I am with the circumstances as they are, any amount of certainty probably can't be expected. We're all pretty much just relying on personal character and a reasonable amount of caution. Oh, and sunbuckus, that post was golden OK - here's the latest. We've had fairly limited contact this last week, but was invited over yesterday for a visit. There was no discernible tension and I was figuring that most of my concerns were probably originating from inside of me. Kind of like the scary movie line - "The call is coming from INSIDE the house". We were relaxing, just having coffee and chatting when he asked in an interested tone how I was feeling about them as a couple AND as individuals. Can you see why I like these guys? We must have spent the better part of an hour in one of the most open and satisfying conversations I've had in years. The topic of where she and I are at in terms of the level of affection during play, things I can do for them as a couple (and things I cannot), expanding both of our circles of friends as well as not investing too heavily in time together so early on. After getting this all out there, acknowledged and accepted - I felt much more at ease being honest about the concerns I had mentioned in my postings here, so I did. What happened next took me by surprise. She turned to her husband and kissed him. Turned to me and smiled and said " I'm more in love with (husbands name) than I can ever remember being, he's my only". "And yes, I know I was feeling more than I should have last week, mostly just overwhelmed. I'm good now". As you can see, things are well. I spent the rest of the evening helping trouble-shoot his temperamental lawn tractor and departed without feeling the need for a hug, kiss or handshake. Just a 'stay in touch, talk to you soon' type good-bye. Ya' know - I never figured I would be where I am, at this point in my life. On reflection, I hope I have the grace to simply be thankful. That's all I got.

Don't mess with a girl who insists on going bear back.