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Don't suppress this. This is exactly what you should share with her. This will create the intimacy you need to rebuild trust. She has to know how you feel and only when she gets what it's done to you can you move forward.

Thanks for your kind reply. I can confirm this is form of the LS we can both enjoy. Yesterday I had an hoteldate with a woman in the same position as I am now and it was awsome, both for us two and our loving partners at home.

Maybe bad of me, but I found the bio disappointing. Many vanilla readers likely regard is as weird already, for the acceptance of the LS it would be better if she was a more regular doctor.

We have spent time together and its as comforting to me now as it is to her to continue forward and try and work on the trust issue... I'm still unsure, I have moments were there's a touching live scene on TV that they talk about trust or devotion that I am fighting back tears wishing we had the perfect relationship that doesn't exist. I think we can work through it even though all my instincts say to run, and my natural personality is I'm hurt hurt them worse...(I've apologized for this initial reaction even if deserved (mutual agreement) it was never productive and juvenile. We are working it out I still want to accuse her and distrust everything she says. I'm not doing that. I am fighting my instinct and logic and working hard to suppress my mistrust and allow our new relationship to prosper.

I would like to echo the sentiments to take your time and not make any rash decisions right now. Counseling, separate and together may help you be able to talk about the issues and how to go forward.

At this point, as was stated, this is all too new. There are too many emotions involved to make a decision you will have to live with forever. I suggest you continue, day to day for awhile and see if you can see yourself with her. Sunbuckus, as well as my wife, decided to try to fix it and make it work. Thank goodness the first impulse was not followed. People make mistakes. Some are huge. Still, we are only human. I hope you can make it work with her.