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sitter-city.com We have some special needs children (more than one) which means that we can't just use the teenager, college student, my older daughter, down the street. We also do not have any extended family nearby. We insist on background check. We setup interviews for a group, and my wife picks the ones she thinks are best. It has worked wonders for both our professional life and social life. We have had a sitter cover our children for over a week at a time.

I think sexuality can change as we go through life, hopefully for the better. We definitely go through periods where we are kinkier than others. I also think the same thing happens with homosexuality. There are definitely times I look at a man and think it's really hot, and others I'm like, meh. Same is true for different women. Just because 'mainstream' says we should stick to the opposite sex or one sex doesn't mean it is the reality for people.

I read about STD's and decided cancer scares me more. Maybe even more than HIV now. No one gets out alive. Might as well find ways to enjoy here and now.

I think I've been watching too much porn....

It's always great to see someone come out of long-time lurker status and make their first post I'll second njbm, just go with no expectation other than having a fun time together and you can't go wrong. We've been to Trapeze ATL and had a good time, and I'll bet you will too.

I will say we've met and played with people in person who were utterly sexy and personable, but if one just saw their picture, we would not meet. People are 3D, most pix are 2D. So yes, meet at clubs, resorts, in person.

Just nothing having garlic or onion flavoring. And no hot peppers; if transferred from lips to naughty bits, causes discomfort.

Perhaps your opening line should read... Amongst the single women that I seem to attract, many times they do some or all of the following things: Firstly if it really bothers you I would look at the common denominator. Secondly to answer your question. When a woman gets married she shares herself, emotionally, spiritually, physically and mentally with her partner and it's usually because she trusts and loves him and is loved and trusted back. It's called intimacy.

First of all, you're making a sweeping generalization about all women and it's not true of all women. There are women out there that are more open sexual from the get-go. Second, there are a lot of factors that can influence why a woman thinks/acts in the above ways. One of them is upbringing. Some are taught that sex is dirty or only meant for one man--the one they marry. Some are taught that monogamy is the right way to live and anything else is wrong. Some are taught that "sluts" are bad and it results in slut-shaming and trying to avoid being called a slut. Third, watch movies and listen to music. How much of it is unconsciously showing us what is "normal"? Marriage between a man and a woman is what is shown--hardly a woman/woman or man/man marriage. What about women having sex with only one man at a time but men can juggle several women and it's "normal"? What about all of those songs where there is an emphasis on how bad nonmonogamy is but they don't really focus on what the issue is...deception and lying? All of these seep into our consciousness and if you aren't aware of any other way of life, you begin to think that all others are "not normal". Forth, there's such a thing as mental maturity. You're comparing young women who might not have a lot of life experiences to older ones who have seen a lot more and experienced more in their life. Fifth, if one is brought up in a religious house-hold that can also have a major impact in how a woman views sex. I guess that's part of the second point I was making. For myself, it was all of the above of why there was that "180-degree turnaround". I was brought up in a religious household. I was taught that sex was dirty and shouldn't be talked about. I was taught that masturbating, porn, pre-marital sex, and sex outside of a marriage was wrong, wrong, wrong. I was taught that one should dress modestly. I still am "brainwashed" by the media in terms of what we should look like, how we should act, and what we should look for in a sexual partner. I was a very naive young woman (and still am in terms of life experiences) but I continue to mature and hope to do so until I die. I am sure there are a lot of other factors that I haven't addressed but I listed the ones that created that turnaround for myself.